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Well, My names Samantha, I love giving advice, It's better to talk about problems because that actually solves them. I love Listening to music (rap, r&b, ect.), I love watching basketball since my boyfriend plays it I go to a lot of his games, I love sports, Swimming, Soccer, Dancing ect, I love hanging out with friends, and Talking on the internet. My friends say I give really good advice so I thought I'd give this thing a try, I'll answer any question as long as it's no rude/bitching questions towards me, otherwise I'll help with anything. My birthdays October 23, so I'll be 14 soon. It's weird because I feel so much older, and when I tell people I'm only 13 they think I'm lieing because I look like I'm 16 lol. I've gone through a lot of things early so, I'm someone you can probably relate to on a lot of subjects, or I've already been through what your going through. One thing I can say to everybody is don't be immature and don't talk shit or get so obsessed with someone that you look at their shit and write something rude to them because it just shows that you still care about them and what their doing, if you don't like someone just leave them alone. Espectually if you can't even say who you are, and don't let what anyone says get to you because thats just what they want. So any questions just ask by clicking ask a question above or click ask me for advice underneath this, please leave a comment and a rating on my advice. Thanks
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Location: Jamestown, New York
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Age: 13
Member Since: July 14, 2005
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Hey Sam,
I have this boyfriend and i can tell that he's like my soulmate.. yeah i know that sounds kind of cheesy but yeah.. i like have never felt that way for someone else before and i love him alot and i know he loves me but i still really think that he likes this girl who is his good friend and i asked him if he liked her and he said no and got kind of affended. What should i do? I mean i know i cant stop him from liking someone, but i just want to know the truth.
I don't know how many times I can say this to you girls. You've all gotta realize that your boyfriend will be like best friends with another girl, as hard as it is to deal with your boyfriend being so close to another girl, you have to realize hes choosing you over ANY other girl to be with so you must mean a lot to him weather he tells you or not. Also your not just his girl your probably one of him best friends too. Most guys tend to hide their emotions and keep them to theirself. But I'm sure that if he liked this girl he would be honest with you, at least if hes a decent guy. Signs you can look for is when your hanging out of hes kinda keeping his distance, If hes avioding you, or if your not in his info. I know that sounds stupid but if he didn't like you you definitely wouldn't be in his info. Because when your dating someone and your in their info its kinda like announcing to everyone that your his and that he likes you ya know? If this doesn't help and it gets really bad you should do this say to him that you want you two to have a no secret relationship where you tell eachother how you feel like if you do something wrong or hes getting annoying you tell eachother. This helps so you can talk things out instead of just breaking up. And also if he doesn't like you and he promises this he'll tell you how he feels more. Now since you asked him and he said no, this means he doesn't and he probably got offended because, you should have trust in him. Believe in him and have faith that if he likes another girl he'll tell you not you having to ask him. Theres no relationship without trust.
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Im still in love with my ex-boyfriend, he knows that im still in love with him, but he wants to be friends.Our perants are close friends and they want to go camping with me and my family, my ex is coming too. How can I show him that i still love him without scaring him away?
Honestly, I wouldn't show him you love him because he knows obvoiusly because you've told him. You need to realize that he doesn't feel the same way. Love isn't just how you feel, love is when the person you love feels exactly the way you do. Your both head over heels crazy for eachother. Honestly i wouldn't go camping with him because it'll make it that much harder for him and you. Don't try and pressure him or push him into anything. If he wants to be with you he'll let you know.
Sorry it's kinda short
But I hope I helped
*Samantha
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I know this boy Pete, and he wanted to date me up at the time I didn't wanna date him. And now he has a girlfriend, Kathy, and I want to date him. I really really like him, but it took him dating someone else for me to relize it. What should I do? this is killing me.
Well, it's kinda like that you don't realize what you have until its gone. You should just tell him exactly how you feel. Just be like I'm not trying to break you and your girl up because I want you to be happy but it's killing me... bla bla bla just tell him how you feel. See what his reaction is. If he really truely liked you a lot then he'll probably come back to you, unless he likes this girl more than he liked you. It'll show you a few things, for 1 how much he liked/likes you, 2 that you should be more careful with peoples emotions and figure yours out before you reject them, because I bet he has the impression that your playing games because you waited til he had a girlfriend and got happy to tell him this, and for 3 you should be careful on what he says to you because he he's still with this girl and is talking to you like your going out, If he'll do that to someone once, he'll most likely do it again, but to you this time. Lastly after you tell him how you feel, ask him how he feels about the situation and ask for him to please be honest.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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im realy ugly well thats what people say plus im on the basketball team and most of the people on the team got girls what should i do also they make fun of my fro they say its nappy
Whoaa okay, thats pretty fucked up if people say your really ugly how rude is that? and who are they to be judging someone, because they're not perfect. And not EVERYBODY thinks your ugly, everyone no matter what they look like someone likes them, weather they know it or not. And just because mostly everyone on the basketball has girls doesn't mean you have to. And not having one doesn't make you a loser either. Your waiting for the right person and all this will make your future relationship with someone that much better, because anything thats worth having is worth waiting for. Also people probably make fun of your fro as a joke just kidding around, they probably don't realize how much it bothers you, so just tell them you don't like when they do that and to stop, I'm sure if they're your friends they'll stop. If you like your fro thats all that should matter, who cares what people have to say or think. Nobody can make you feel bad without your consent. You have the power to just ignore peoples comments and not let it bother you, Because no matter where you go theres rude people all over.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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OK, so what if i did write how i feel about this person down .. lets say i have a whole notebook about him/her! i just can't get over this person. i know they are moving on, and i am too. i don't want to. what else should i do?
I know how you feel with this one, because I was going through it at the beginning of 8th grade. It's tough and probably won't get easier for awhile. But you have to realize that hes not comming back, its sad and it hurts but one day you will realize you can do so much better and be over him. One thing you definitely shouldn't do is constantly think of him, try and keep yourself busy, get your mind off of him. And even though its okay to cry, don't try and force yourself. Because the ending of a relationship is hard but you have to realize that you did nothing wrong, because its his loss and hes the one who changed his mind about you. One thing that I know for sure helps and makes it so much easier is not to talk to him, you don't have to do that it just helps you get over him faster. You might need to look at your other options. Such as meeting new people because a lot of times to get over someone is dating other people and when you find someone you really wanna be with you'll realize how much of an asshole this other guy was and how much better this guy treats you and how much happier you are. So just keep busy, try not to think about him that much, and get out there and meet new people. Oh I forgot one thing if your with someone else, and he wants you back whatever you do and as hard as it may be DO NOT go back to him, because then he knows he can do anything with you and your wrapped around his little finger, and obvoiusly hes just playing games and thats immature but through him a curve ball and prove him wrong, it'll feel good. Also you don't want the person your with to have to go through what you are now because you went back to your ex.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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What do you do if your ex girlfriend/boyfriend has moved on but you haven't?
Alright, this ones a tough one lol because I've been through it many times. I know it probably seems like you won't ever get over that fact that you two won't have anything, but trust me things get better and going through all the hard stuff just makes you that much stronger in the end. But as time goes on you'll realize that you deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love them and just feels as strongly towards you that you feel towards them. If he doesn't see how great you are and all your good qualities then hes not worth your time. I know you might think well if I wait maybe he'll eventually see me the way I see him, unfortunetly thats not the case. The longer you hold on the harder its gunna be when you realize you have to move on. My advice would be to just live day by day, if you wanna cry then cry let it all out because thats good letting your feelings out rather than holding them in. But don't make crying all you do because the right guy wouldn't do that to you. What really helped me was writing out how I feel, it sounds stupid but it helps sooo much. Just know that you can't live you life in the past or wishing you've gotta move on and keep living your life because the right guy wouldn't let you stop living your life for him.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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hey i have this bopyfriend and i think he likes his ex waht do i do,...i CANT ask him about it
Well for one, it depends on why you think he likes his ex, if hes chillen just them alone or something then you have a right to be concerned. But if its just a feeling you have i say ignore it until you find more of a reason. Yeah if they still talk they might just be like best friends, as hard as it is to deal with your boyfriend being so close to another girl, you have to realize hes choosing you over ANY other girl to be with so you must mean a lot to him weather he tells you or not. Most guys tend to hide their emotions and keep them to theirself. But I'm sure that if he liked his ex he would be honest with you, at least if hes a decent guy. Signs you can look for is when your hanging out of hes kinda keeping his distance, If hes avioding you, or if your not in his info. I know that sounds stupid but if he didn't like you you definitely wouldn't be in his info. Because when your dating someone and your in their info its kinda like announcing to everyone that your his and that he likes you ya know? If this doesn't help and it gets really bad you should do one of these two things 1 say to him that you want you two to have a no secret relationship where you tell eachother how you feel like if you do something wrong or hes getting annoying you tell eachother. This helps so you can talk things out instead of just breaking up. And also if he doesn't like you and he promises this he'll tell you how he feels more. Second just tell him be like im not trying to acuse you of anything but i kinda get the feeling that you sort of like your ex again do you? just be honest. Talkings the best thing you can do in a relationship, Also try and have more faith in him that he wouldn't do that to you, try and trust him more, because theres no relationship without trust.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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why are boys suchass holes .....and always have to hurt you for no good reason??
Well in some cases boys definitely are assholes, It just depends on they guy. For example if the guy hurts you you know he never cared about you or how you feel, or he just doesn't share the same feelings you have. It may not be a good reason to you on why he hurt you but with most people feelings fade and they change. I don't know if you two were dating or if he just rejected you, But you deserve a guy who will treat you good and always be there for you no matter what. All these heartbreaks will mend and being hurt all those times will make a future relationship feel that much better. Somewhere out there theres a guy waiting for you, someone thats not perfect, but perfect for you. You just have to be patient because things happen when you least expect them. But this guy, if he doesn't treat you good and hurts you the way you say, even though it may be hard you've gotta take control and realize theres better people out there and not to waste your time on someone who doesn't care.
Hope I helped
*Samantha
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