I'm 16 and I've been told I give pretty good advice, a few friends told me to check out the site and see if I liked it so here I am. I'm not really one to ask for advice I normally keep things to myself, but for anyone who wants to ask any questions go for it.
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Location: Texas
Occupation: School is a Job
Age: 16
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i went out with the boy and we really liked eachother but then my parents made me break up with him because he went out with my step sitster (shes in the same grade as me) and they told me not to tell anyone why. well the deal was i wasnt allowed to go out with him for a year after their breakup. and he asked me before a year (he had no idea of this rule and niether did i at the time) so the year is up and i really like him still and hes not with anyone right now and i want to hook up with him but do you think i should tell him why i broke up with him or not? (link)
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I'll give you a short and sweet answer. I personally wouldn't bring up the last break up unless he asks and if he does then just be completely honest. You cant start a relationship right off the bat with a lie.
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im 14/f my b.f and i broke up like a week ago and he got a g.f and i kinda got a b.f i dont no but w/e anyways im 14 as i said before and the guy that i might be going out wit is 17 so is that to old?? or like im tooo young ?? or is it ok ??? (link)
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I would say its okay...but just be careful and don't let him rush you into anything...3 years isn't that great of an age difference but the 17 year old mind of a male thinks very differently than that of a 14 year old female.
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16/f. I've been best friends with this guy for 4 years. Except for literally DAYS of being attracted to him when we first met, months before we were even friends (which wasn't reciprocated), everything between us has always been 100% platonic, and we've both had several bfs/gfs during the course of our friendship. However, for ages because of how close we are other people have been speculating there's something more. Recently he got this new girlfriend, and he has been spending ALL his time for her, and he never sees me anymore unless she can come along and even that's barely ever. He didn't come to my party because he was with her! It's driving me insane and I keep trying to talk to him about it, but he keeps implying that I'm just jealous of her cos I'm in love with him or something, which is ridiculous because I have a boyfriend myself. I really don't want to lose our friendship... what should I do? Is it ACTUALLY impossible to only be platonic friends with a guy with no one saying anything?! (link)
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To be quite honest I think your friend is whipped. He may be letting his girlfriend control the relationship. It is possible to have a friendship with a guy and not be attracted to him... but if you hang out almost 24-7...someone always says something and rumors get spread. I think since he won't listen to you write him a letter and tell him what you're thinking. You just want to be friends nothing more, your not "in love with him" you just dont want to lose the friendship. You want to make it work. And if he is the one saying all this "jealousy" mumbojumbo then I don't think he's as great a friend as he seemed to be. If one girl could make him ruin a great friendship then maybe you should just go your seperate ways. I do hope that you two can be friends and that he will listen to you when you speak instead of letting his girlfriends words or his ego get the best of him.
I hope that all works out...
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my ex boyfriend and I have had very very strong feelings for each other for almost 2 years now..6 months of which we went out but even after we broke up we hung out and this summer we were inseperable and basically seeing each other again just not officially together..but crazy about each other..and i had told him he could hook up with other girls BUT if he does then we should probably just be friends because i didn't wanna get hurt and that just wouldnt be right but he did hook up a couple times and we ended up still staying the same until saturday night..he got head from a girl..which is something he would usuallly never do..and that night he sent me a message saying we should just be friends..and then later that night after both of us had cried cause it felt like things were coming to an end..he begged for me to just forgive him and told me how he'd pick me over ANY other girl and he just wanted to be with me..and I just kept telling him that that its best we be friends because of what he did adn because he sent a message saying we should be friends so obviously before he hooked up with her he knew it risked us just being friends and i told him that we could just be best buds like we always were because i was hurt. and so since then ive stayed strong and kept telling him we should just be friends but hes apologized countless times. and i do wanna be friends with him but heres the thing..i dont know if i should just forgive him and jsut let us be really good buds or just have some distance for a while or what..and am i the only one who thinks what he did was wrong? thank you so much! (link)
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I think what your boyfriend did was wrong but I wouldn't think what he did was so wrong that you had to wait forever to be his friend again. You two weren't technically going out and you did tell him he could be with other girls, but on the other hand he shouldnt have text you THAT night, a personal conversation would have been much better. I would say just be friends with him, you can be good buddies, and when you feel like you want to get back together with him then talk it over with him and see what he says...even though I'm pretty sure he would say yes to you in a split second. I also think that before you get back together with him you should tell him how hurt you were and that you don't want to be hurt again. This way he knows not to ever do what he did to you again.
Hope this helps...Good luck
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Okay so I had oral sex with this guy and I guess he liked me a little bit. I dont know. But he'll talk to me sometimes and then other times he just ignores me. I mind you he is really shy. Like he'll talk to me but when we were having oral he seemed like i dont know nervous. He's 2 years older than me so I dont know why he was so shy ans stuff. Now he talks to me like he likes me and then he'll act like im some sort of freak. He calls me some stupid name thats not insulting its just something he likes to call me. I dont know if he wants some sex or he really likes me. I've never had sex before. So yeah I'm a virgin. But he really pisses me off. Why does he do that? I want to ask him but he's so confusing he may never talk to me again. I'm just sick of him. (link)
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Okay, If its bothering you this much then you just need to ask him and get it out in the open. He shouldn't be treating you like your weird if he really does like you. I would say just confornt him about it...be a bitch if you need too, sometimes you have to be mean to get to the point...If he likes you then he will talk to you again and if he doesn't then thats his loss, you don't need him anyways.
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Do girls get that wierded out by guys who aren't circumcized? I was just wondering because im not (link)
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If a girl gets wierded out because you're not circumcized thats ridiculous and you don't need to be with them. She would be shallow and dumb. I would say if the girl likes you she wouldn't care about something like that. Its not that big of a deal. Don't worry.
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ok this is really stupid and weird, but anyway... every so often my boyfriend will call me up and ask me "would you ever go out with john?" or "do you think tom is hot?". and usually, "john" or "tom" is sitting right next to him. or sometimes, john or tom will call me up and ask if i'd ever go out with them. and i know my bf is right there and told them to ask me that.
so i have two questions:
1) how do i answer that question? if i say "no, i'd never go out with you", that sounds kinda mean. but if i say "yes" or "maybe", then my bf will get mad and think i like them.
2) why in the world is my bf doing this?? i mean what is his motivation? (link)
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His motivation for doing this is probably trust issues. Someone in every relationship has them and its not unnatural. Your best bet would to maybe talk to him about this. Ask him why he puts you in those positions. Or better yet say, I like your friends, but just AS friends. They dont mean as much to me as you do. Boys will be boys as the saying goes.
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Hi! Ok, this boy and i have been friend for a year and we're like best friends. We have liked each other off and on for the last year (by the way were teenagers so it's not serious!) We have both had relationships though so nothing ever happened. Then I dumped my summer boyfriend in the middle/end of June(short relationship) and in earl July he asked me to his Grandparents 50th anniversary party. He had already told me he liked me and stuff but I wasn't sure if i did) We went and while we were there we walked around and sat and talked and stuff and he put a bunch of moves on me. I didn't like it and felt really uncomfortable because for some reason I didn't like him! All of the sudden when he liked me I didn't! He asked me out but I said I will think about it. Then we decided not too. The thing is EVERYONE thinks we're the perfect couple! We went on a mission trip and everyone decided (and started planning!) our wedding because apparently we're getting married! Just a joke though, but even his MOM said we are "a match made in heaven". We are both Japanese and are really like each other. We are both religious too and he is just like me which practically no one else is. So we really connect! His bff and older brother keep pressuring me to go out with him now. I know we will some time, but I don't think right now is the right time. When we finally wants to start a relationship I DON'T! It is so weird but i can't like him any more than a friend! I don't know what to do! I want to try it out but i really want to start this school year single! Please help me!!! I hate the pressure and want to try it out but I don't know if it's the right time! And i don't think I like him much more than really good friends! Thanx!!!!!!! ♥♥♥♥♥ (link)
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Okay, I can pretty much relate. I think that you should let him know that he means a lot to you but, like you said, you dont know if its the right time. He will understand if hes as close a friend as you say he is. As for his bff and older brother...just tell them to stop. You have a mind of your own and you can decide for yourself you dont need them to tell you what to do. You have a choice in everything you do, No one can decide for you and no one should pressure you into something your not ready to do. I hope this helps.
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