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ok well this is really embarassing .. everyone has made out already and i still havnt had my first kiss people tell me that you have to wait for the right guy then when you know your ready it will just happen

well i found a guy that i like and he likes me and we've become really close .. im afraid that he'll slip away if i dont make a move i'll bore him ... whens the perfect time to make a move? whats the worse that can happen??

i think that if he really likes you and you really like him the perfect time will just come! all you do it just lean in a lil and he should pull in the rest of the way! and dont be scared .. i was SO nervous when i first madeout which embarassily was in the summer going into 9th grade! cause i was SO scared to makeout! but i think that if you really like him the ''perfect time'' will just be there and its like you'll know when you want to kiss him! and the worst that can happen is he could break up with you cause you wont do anything .. and that is the WORST type of guy to like, so dont even worry about him then because if he pressures you just to makeout im sure he would pressure you to do more! so dont even worry! message me with anymore questions! tell me if everything works out! i hope i helped! :)

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15/f
been going out with my boy for a year and a half, everythings perfect besides well him.
hes very outgoing and constantly flirts with girls without realizing it, it hurts me alot.. i've asked him to stop but it's just not like that you know? hes so use to it he doesn't even realize it.

:( i really cant stand it anymore either, but i love him alot [despite my age] is it best i just let him go?

maybe you should tell him AGAIN and if nothing is resolved from that just be like okay i still love you but i think that we need a break because i can't handle you flirting and it hurts my feelings. and like then see what he says to that and then if he really loves you and you really love him you guys will get back together and the problems will end! :)
hope i helped :)

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14/f. i have only had one boyfriend in my life, and we didn't even kiss. idk if i am just paraniod or what, but i'm way confused! i really want to have my first kiss, but idk if i want it to be with a guy, or a girl. i am this preppy girl who has tons of friends, girls and guys, and so i just cant be lesbian! my brother is gay, so it runs in the family. I no it sounds weird but i like looking at girls, like there butts and boobs and stuff. I also like to look at guys though to. Im really curious about peoples bodies and stuff. i really dont no what to do because i just don't think i can handle being a lesbian. please just anything will help, im desperate. if a real lesbian could tell me how they found out they were or any personal stories, that would be great. please help me. thank you.

heey. well my friend is also a lesbian and she went through MANY periods of being confused. my best advice to you is to just experiment. get another boyfriend maybe, and kiss him! i didn't even have my first kiss until the summer after 8th grade. it might not be that you like girls but it could mean that you just scared to do stuff which is definately okay! like i said, just get another boyfriend and then if you kiss him you would probably know if you like guys or not. and theres always that possiblity to be bi as well. you could go out with guys as boyfriends, but since your also into girls you can like have hookups with them and not have them be girlfriends. anyways, to sum this all up i say that you should first try getting to know another guy and go out with him, and when your ready you could kiss him. i think that it would help a LOT if you kiss a guy and see if there IS a connection with a boy to you. i hope that everything goes well and your friends should love you no matter what your sexuality is! i hope i helped :) good luck!

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15/female

I have been in love with my best friend, who is also female, for almost a year now. I told her how I felt around February of last year, but she didn't and still doesn't love me back. What's worse, she has a boyfriend that she loves deeply.

It's just, I can't get over her no matter what I do! I really do think I'm in love. I'm in therapy right now, once a week, because of both these relationship issues and my depression. I have talked to her plenty about it. I have tried "putting myself out there" as much as I can, being an introvert, but even after kissing another friend I still only have feelings for this one girl. I have even tried ending the friendship to maybe get away from her for a while so the feelings would go away and I wouldn't complicate her life so much; it didn't go very well.

So my question is, what can I do besides what I have already done?

hmm. all you can do as of now is just try to find someone else. you can always keep her in the back of your mind, no doubt about that. but try to focus on more important things, or start an activity that draws your brain to something else or possibly SOMEONE else. and remember if it IS true love, then love will find its way. i'm sure that everything for you will work out in the end. and you know, i bet that your best friend and her boyfriend probably won't last because of the age now. theres a lot of life left and im sure that you will be able to find the person you deserve!
hope i helped :)

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