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im 14/f.
sorry this is going to be long..
okay well theres this guy and i really like him but its been really confusing lately. he is 16 years old and the sweetest guy ive ever met. i met him through one of my friends who used to date him.. she doesnt know that we talk as more than friends because im scared to tell her.. my friend and the guy i like have had a really complicated relationship because she hasnt really been to faithful.. they broke up but he told me that he still has feelings for her.. the thing is that she has a new boyfriend now who she really likes.. but her ex(the one i like) says he still likes her a lot.. he told me that he also likes me a lot and wants to be with me but doesnt think that it would be fair to me if we were together and he still had feelings for her..
oh yea..
because he is older than me.. my parents dont really approve of us being together.. everything is so confusing.. i really like him but i dont know if i can wait for him to decide who he wants.. :/

It's a waste of time and you shouldn't wait:

A)Your friend has history with this guy. And with any girl you're going to have drama because of this. It's wrong, no matter if your friend says she doesn't like him anymore because as soon as you guys start going out, SHE WILL GET MAD!!(No matter how much she says she doesn't care).

B)If this guy is saying that he still has feelings for your friend, then he's not worth the wait.It's either he's into you, or he's not. Sweetie, you are so above all of this. Your worth more than the drama you're about to endure. Find someone who's ready to be with you, and doesn't come with all this baggage.

Hope I helped, Potential....~

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I'm 18 and I recently met this guy and I really like him alot. He's everything I ever wanted in a guy. He's sweet and caring and I think it could turn into something serious. The only downfall to this fairytale is that he was married. He hates his ex-wife and can't stand her. The woman is psycho and won't leave him alone. They were seperated in October and by VA law you have to be seperated for 6 months before you can get divorced. He wants so badly to finalize his divorce but recently she had the seperation canceled and wants them to go to counceling to work on their marriage issues. He has told her a thousand times he doesn't love her and doesn't want to be with her but she won't listen and she is making his life and mine hell. She even brought his job into it. I like him alot and I wanna help him but I am at a loss. I dunno what to do bout his psycho ex-wife. please someone anyone if you can help me!

You might have to get just as psycho as her. I always say if you wanna control someone, do what they do but on a higher level. You have to show this woman that your not anything to mess with, and you will go to any length to protect what you want. If the guys worth it then this won't be a problem. Everytime she shows up at his house, make sure you're there, everytime she shows up at his job, make sure your there. Whenever she calls, you answer the phone and let her know that your man doesn't have anything to say to her and that it's over. You're with him now, you have to protect what you deserve.You have to dig deep inside your self and pull out the crazy side of you. You have to show her that she's not the only one losing her mind. When all of it is finally over, you'll laugh.....Hope I helped,

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Thanks your advice really did help, but it's not that I don't want to sleep with him. It's more like i'm still shocked he cheated on me kind of thing.

No problem....anytime you feel like I can help, don't hesitate to send me your question.

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Me and my boyfriend have been through a lot. We recently broke up because he cheated on me, but I gave him a second chance. Before all this cheating stuff happened we were both ready to have sex. But now that he cheated and stuff it kind of pushed me away from him. Like I love him a lot but I really don't know what to do. Someone help me! Please!

Simply don't sleep with him.If you're feeling discouraged, no reason to do it. Believe me, if you do something you're not ready for or wanting then you'll have a bad feeling after you do it. Almost like 'buyer's remorse', but worst.If he loves you and is truly sorry for what he did, he'll wait and try to build that trust back up that he lost when he cheated on you. Believe me sweetie, your worth it......wait until you feel like you're 100% ready to take that step.Hope I helped......

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is it bad to say 'i love you' for the first time through msn ? because that happened to me and i'm not sure if he quite meant it...as opposed to if he were to have said it in person...

It doesn't matter where or when you said it, if you didn't mean it, under any circumstances should you say it at all. Those three words can either make or ruin someone's life.Saying "I Love You",not meaning it and having the person you said it to find out could cause some real damage(coming from someone who's been on both sides of the table).My advice:Go do some damage control, tell that person what the situation is.......Hope I helped,

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ok,a dude tells you dat he dont wanna be with you because he dont wanna hurt you again(yall have broken over him hurtin you b4)...so yall break up...yall have been 2getha 4 a lil minute....then he tells you that he finally realizes that he knows where he wants to be and that its wit you...you have doubts about this situation,so wut do you do?it seems like he only wants you when its kinda convienent 4 him...but,you're not sure....


p.s.-this damn thing made me go back and change the word you because i was using slang!!!aint dat some shiznit!!!!

Well I can't tell what's goin on inside his head, but I will tell you this....if it's hurting you to keep lettin him break up with you and then get back with you, then you need to let him go.I've been in this situation before,I couldn't deal with the pain and the heartache,so I let him go.But you have to ask yourself, do I feel my best when I'm with him or do I feel my best when I'm without him.I really don't know what to tell you, only you know what you want....Hope I helped,~

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Okay, so I'm 16 (female) and my boyfriend is 22. We've known each other since this last summer and we started talking more once he gave me his screen name.
We've liked each other for about 2 months and hung out a few times. We just started actually dating a week ago.
We make each other really happy. We argue about who likes and misses each other more. We have these deep conversations that end up confusing the hell out of us.
When I told my best friend that I was dating him, she flipped out and said "Ewww, that's disgusting." I guess she doesn't approve over the whole age thing. In my eyes, age is nothing but a number. I just wanted some opinion's.. whether it be good or bad. What do you think of the age gap?

Just as long as you guys aren't doing anything, I don't see the problem.Love has no limits.If he makes you happy, and you make him happy then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. You have to ask yourself, do you feel like the age gap is to big, because in the end, yours, is the only opinion that matters.Hope I helped,~

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stupid question..

how do you know you like someone..i know i'm stupid but i'm just curious how someone may tell if they like someone as like bf material.

Whenever that person comes around your heart starts beating faster and you break out into a corny smile. You can't wait to get to school,work,etc. just so you can see them. You find yourself thinking about them at the most random times.Hope I helped........Potential.

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does anyone have any tips for making out? like fun places to be or maybe new positions to be in? the same old same old is getting pretty boring

It's always fun making out in snow, rain, grass,leaves......I know it sounds a bit cliche, but those are fun places.

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when you are making out with a guy or even just kissing do guy like it when girls play with the hair (on the back of their head) or like massage their neck? what should girls hands do when making out with guys? thanks!

Making out/Kissing is a very intimate moment, your hands should be caressing him anywhere and everywhere.There's no limit to where your hands can go. I like to concentrate on the back area, personally. It also helps to think about where you would want his hands to be and then use that as a guide.

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Ok heres the thing I like this guy and well I have only had like one conversation with him but I have liked him now for around 18 months and I cant take the heartache any longer so I need a way of getting him outta my mind and please dont say ask him out as I am too shy to ask I need other suggestions.

You can either tell him how you feel or avoid seeing him.-

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okay, so theres this guy and i have liked him for over a year.. but he has had a girlfriend all this time.. but now they broke up. and we talk and stuff, but i want to get closer to him and flirt with him a little more, but idk how to do that without being too obvious. so i was wondering if you had any ideas on how to get his attention or anything.. cause idk what to do.. thanks

Keep talking to him like you are, get to know him more.You'll regret it if you guys start going out and you find out you really didn't like him after all. Don't play mind games with him, guys don't like that. If you flirt, it's obvious anyway. It's okay to flirt a little, but don't go out of your way to do it.-

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