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Location: Ireland
Occupation: Student
Age: 15
Member Since: June 24, 2005
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16/f. At school I get hit on all the time, and at the mall, things like that. I am so not a slut I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and never had sex. The thing is I'll be walking down the street and there will be these like old mexican gardeners and they will like check out my ass and that just disgusts me so much. I feel so disgusting because of them. How do I get over this? (link)
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I know what that's like, trust me. I know you're not being into yourself! I just try take it as a complement that they find you attractive and I take pleasure in the fact that I'm loyal to my boyfriend and they're getting none of this!! I agree with what Krupple said though, that you should bring mace or something around with you in case some dick gets a bit too much. Some guys like that think that just because you're pretty then they can have you, in the meantime just ignore them and seriously take it as a complement that people think you're attractive but at the same time don't let your ego get out of control! Hope this helped,
~MaYHeM~
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i have been dating my bf for 5 months and just recently we were at his friends house walking down the road and he had his arm around me and when his aunt picked him up he told me she was freaking out about there not being a chaperone there (but there was) and about his arm being around me (which is soooo stupid!) his aunt told his mom. and now im getting the hint that his mom and stepdad basically hate me bcuz they wont let us just sit and watch tv in his room anymore we cant even go in his room at all really, also today when he asked if he could go to the beach with all our friends his stepdad asked him if i was going to be there and he said yea and his stepdad told him to make good judgement. what does that mean?? i think they basically dont want me around him. they say they like me but they are probly just being nice. how do i get them to let me be with him? (link)
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I think you should ignore them, who are they to tell you not to see each other? And his stepdad?! Emphasis on the STEPdad.. If its really getting to you then just have it outright with them or if its too intimidating then get your bf to tell them.
If all else fails, see each other in private.
Hope everything works out for you and don't let them get to you,
Good Luck,
~MaYHeM~
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Well I know it is good for everyone to have crushes...Well right now i have 5 crushes...Well 2 of them are looking like they might become reality....I need help.....BAD.....I know them both about the same....Let's call them "Andrew" and "kyle"... well i found out last year at a party that "andrew" really did like me but i was stupid then and told my friend that i really didn't care cause i didn't know that he really liked me (yeah i know i'm really stupid) but lately "kyle" has acted like he likes me to....It's so confusing....Please help (link)
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You really need to get your priorities right! You need to think about this: Who do you want as a friend?, and who do you want more than friendship with? Who is boyfriend material? You dont want to enter a relationship with your friend if it might result in you losing your friendship completely! All i can say is: Follow your heart.
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So, my questions are usually opinion issues, but this one's actually an "I don't know" issue.
What is the guy's equivilant of a promise ring?
My guy and I are going ring shopping for me, and I want to get him something that says "I'm taken" basically (because I don't trust girls, and we're going to different colleges in the fall).
My problem is that he doesn't wear jewelry. Like, at all.
There's the sliiiiiim possibility that I could get him to make an exception for a ring (or even get him to put the ring on the only necklace he wears (a dog tag on a chain)) but I doubt it.
So...what can I get him that'll tell other people he's taken besides a ring or a tattoo with my name in it? Lol. (link)
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If its a present from you, your boyfriend should be happy to wear it. tell him its to show how much he means to you. DONT whatever you do get a tatoo, because its just plain foolish. If you two break up he's still gonna have your name on his arm! If you cant get him to wear jewelery, you should just trust him. In the meantime, think to yourself why you doubted his dedication to you in the first place.
Hope this helped, and Good Luck in college!
Mayhem
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I can be pretty shy. When it comes to guys and sometimes even making new friends. I am going into a new school now, and I just want to be able to have as many friends as possible. And I don't want to be standing there seeing all of these girls talking to guys just because they look confident and walk a certain way. Do you think that makes a big difference? Being confident in yourself and showing it? Or am i just hopeless? Let me know. How can I fix this?
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If you don't mind me saying your self-esteem seems like its in dire need of repair! When going to a new school, make sure you look and feel as confident as possible because if you make yourself seem nervous and shy bullys will tend to pick up on this and you definitely don't want that. If you have problems with self-esteem just tell yourself: "im not going to let these idiots make me feel like crap, i am what i am and if they can't deal with that..tough" and if anyone trys to put you down, just remember: People put other people down because they're insecure about themselves. Also, try joining clubs or groups to try meet new people and make friends. I really hope this helped and Good Luck in going to your new school, i wish you all the best.
Mayhem
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Alright so there is this guy. And I went out with him once already but it ended after a short time. It was probably the best few days of my life, though. He was so sweet and funny and we had everything in common. I couldn't have asked for anything else. When we broke up i was super sad. And this was like a while ago! I still can't stop thinking about him. It makes me crazy.
I still talk to him, but barely. I knew, even when I went out with him, that he's the kinna guy why goes from girl to girl to girl after only weeks. And even though he's like that, I feel like we're perfect for eachother but he doesn't know it. I don't think I would feel this way if I didn't think we should be together.
The thing is, right now he likes my friend, and i don't even know if he thinks of me at all. It really hurts. I know I shouldn't be so crazy about a guy like this... but I guess i'm "stuck" over him. It's like he's the only thing that would make me truly happy. And I feel like if i try to tell him i'll look like a complete idiot. We already broke up once, I mean, he'd think I was crazy. I just... need him. Man...
I'm sooo stuck on this one. Please help.
Thank you. (link)
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It seems that this guy likes the thrill of the chase. He gets a girl all loved up and then gets bored and moves on, but although he has moved on you haven't. You should think whether this guy is worth fretting over and meanwhile tell him how you feel and the two of you get your feelings' going. If he knows how you feel he might start giving you the answers you desire.
Hope this helped,
Mayhem
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OK, i am 14, and just going into highschool.I am going to an all girls school. I have never been boycrazy, i havent even gone out with a boy or anything. I do have a lot of friends who are guys. I really want a boyfriend, but going to an all girls highschool will make it harder. I am also an EXTREME tomboy, and i'm not really fat, just bulky and muscular. How do i get guys to like me? And what can i do to get a bf when im going to an all girls school? help me, i rate high!! (link)
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It seems to me that you have certain self-esteem issues. You're worried about boys not liking you but if you draw attention to your flaws (which we all have) boys will notice more. Just be yourself when you're around boys and if they see you're confident they'll take away a good vibe from you. As for the only girls school, see if there is a local disco or a meeting of some kind that you can meet boys at. Remember, boys like girls who like themselves (but dont come across as cocky, just confident). Hope this helped and Good Luck!
Mayhem
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