about

well I'm a VERY open minded person.I can have any random conversation with anyone.I like to danse and to have fun with friends.And I'd like to make new friends all over the world.

advice

16, female

well theres this guy, we're pretty good friends =) actually we call each other "best friends" as a joke but i fell hard for him last summer, because we would flirt soo much and it was adorable, lets just say hes a stud. but he didnt know i fell for him, and i didnt wanna say anything because he was interested in this girl and plus we were so close it would of been wayyy to awkward they but they ended up goin out and this hurt me =( keep in mind they're still going out and hes says its been like 10 months already!! anyways all summer i was sad, but we still kinda flirted. then i tried getting over him, and i finally realized i had no feelings other than just being friends with him and we could still hangout alot and i would be fine but now lately i am getting these "feelings" back. like tonight it was me and him and my cousin and like at the restaraunt i was like day dreaming and they started walking without me and then im like thanks guys!!! and they're already sitting down and i start walking over and he scoots in so i can sit by him. and then he like takes my phone, reads my texts, and i try to get it from him, we touch hands/hold for a sec but i just dont know! we were like this in the summer, then it stopped and now it seems like its starting again. and when we were sitting he put his arm like behind me, like on the seat (if you know what im talking about) but i just wanted to like lay my head on his chest, and once he got really close to my face and looked at me and just smiled and i couldnt stop thinking about how much i wanted to be with him. it would be soooo much easier if he didnt have a girlfriend but shes soo pretty and i know he loves her, she loves him and it kills me to see the "i love you, alot" in her profile, and it saying i love my boyfriend he is amazing and same for his. i hate when he talks about her, it makes me so jealous of what they have. i mean i want him to be happy but its killing me!! i wish i could hangout with him without having these feelings and talking to him wont help because he'll just say im sorry, i love sarah (his girlfriend) or it would just make things SOOO unbelievable weird between us. what should i do?! i hangout with other guys too, its not like i just hangout with him. i thought last summer, oh they wont last, maybe i'll just wait and see what happens, and they're still going STRONG.....these two quotes explain how im feeling EXACTLY.. "i hate the way you can push me to the limits with the things you do & then you know just the right time to say something sweet to make me fall for you all over again" *i know you just want to be friends .. and that's okay with me .. but please just stop making me fall even harder*.

AYT.i just got ur answer bcause i was very busy with school so i never logged on my account since the last time i wrote u.but i just added you!hope we'll talk soon!p.s:my sn is tisexy89.im me whenever you're online.

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what does this say to you
im a 14 yr old girl
does it say i like you
or like i want to be your friend with benefits???
what does it say
im way confused...


would you makeout with me me?
[] Hell Yea [x] Yes [] No [] Maybe

Would you sleep with me?
[] In an instant! [] Yes [] No [x] Maybe

Am I attractive?
[] Heck no [] hot as Hell [] Fine [x] Cute [] Okay [] Ugly!

Do you think I'm a virgin?
[x] Yes [] No [] Don't know

Name one thing you would like to do to me... [eh hang out]


I look like..
[] A player
[] One time thing
[/] Next bf/gf
[x] A friend
[x] A friend with benefits
[] A possibility
[] A loser

If you saw me for the first time would you talk to me?
[x] Yes [] No [] maybe

Would you rather.. ??
[x] Hook up with me
[x] Cuddle with me
[] Date me
[x] Friends
[] Friends with benefits

On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest), rate me..
[] 1 [] 2 [] 3 [] 4 [] 5 [] 6 [x] 7 [x] 8 [] 9 [] 10

What would you want me to be to you?
[x] Friend
[/] Girlfriend/Boyfriend
[x] Friend with benefits
[] Husband/Wife

Would you give me a lapdance?
[x] Hell Yea [] Yes [] No [] Maybe

Would u give me your number if so let me get it?you got it

thanks

I think he want to be just your friend for now and maybe later he'll see what he wants to do.but for now he doesnt want anything too serious to be between you guys.

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I really like this guy but i think he might only be looking for a hookup..(because he likes someone else too and whenever their around he hangs out with them) im for sure he really does like me so how can i show him that im serious about this and i dont just want to mess around??

Also my friend has band practice with him and she was going to be like "yea she decided that if your not gonna ask her out soon shes just gonna not bother messing around with you anymore" im not sure if this is such a great idea what do u guys think??

Well I dont think its necessary that your friend talks to him.just go by yourself and tell him about the way you feel toward him and you'll see what happens next.im sure he will apreciate it more if its you who go talk to him.

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okay so ive liked this guy for almost two years and we used to talk all the time and we went out then i said some stuff to get him to break up with me. and it worked, now for the two years that ive liked him he wont really talk to me. if i call him and he feels like talking he will act like he likes me and tell me he wants to do stuff with me but then he wont talk to me again. a couple weeks ago i went to see him (we live in different towns) and we made out and now he wont talk to me. he really hurts me
what should i do?

You should just tell him how you feel.thats the only way you'll get everything cleared up.other than that u will never know.your not even sure he hates you.maybe he was hurt that you made him break up.I think you should just go and tell him how you feel about it.have a heart to heart conversation with him and see what happens next.but right now you cant be sure of anything.so just go for it.you never know what might happen..maybe he likes you too!

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okay so some of you guys may remember i had this problem with a guy named brandon and hes black and 17 and im white and 15 and i said that he wouldnt wait for me to losse my virginity and if i didnt losse it to him by friday then it would be over!!!

well now i just got done talking to him and he asked me a weird question he said if you could have one wish what would it be and i said for you to wait until im ready to losse my virginity so we just started talking and then sometimes it would be silent then he said babe imah tell you what forget friday and forget everything i want you to stay a virgin im gonna wait for you.Then he said whats wrong babe and i said nothing and he said i know when somethings on my babys mind.and i said i just really love you and he said i love you too.Then i said i dont want anything to be weird now between us.He said baby its not gonna be we still go out and i still love you.IM SO GLAD I CHANGED HIS MIND AND HES GONNA WAIT FOR ME!!! but what do i do now.......

so funny!...well now you WAIT until your ready.dont just go for it because he accepeted to wait!just enjoy the moment being with him and when the right time comes you will do it.It could also be a good way to see if he truly loves you by him waiting for real..maybe he just told you he'd wait hoping you being all touched and decide to do it yet.
well do waterver u feel like doing but alwayz keep your head straight and think about what might hapen next so you dont regret.
good luck
Larissa

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I'm 16/m. How can I tell my best friend i have feelings for her...without pretty much just saying "I have feelings for you?" I mean I want to I guess hint at it, beacuse I don't want to ruin the friendship.

hey I've benn in the exact same situation lately..well my best guy friend was in love with me(...)and well after a looonnnnng hesitating he finally said it.well he didnt went that straight like"i have feelings u" he started byt telling me how i was meanigful to him and stuff and finnaly i think i was the one who told him i liked him(cause i did too)and most of the time best friends do have feelings for each other.so i suggest you just go for it starting by telling her how you really feel about her(talk with you heart without no fears) and then depending on her reaction you will tell her that u like her.
good luck!
Larissa

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14/f and hes 15/m (both in same grade)

ok i loved this guy for so long and towards like may of last year i told him i loved him and he said we should just be friends. but i've talked to like 3 of his really close friends and they said that they thought he really loved me. i don't understand. why would he pretend? any ideas? also, it's been awhile (seems like forever) since this happened and i still can't get over him..i really love him ..what should i do? should i just forget about him? were friends now and we do talk and stuff but if i were to just bring up the fact of me and him being in a relationship together it'd be really awkward...thanks for helpingg.

I think thats since your very close to him now you should bring it up again.just go like hum i really like you and i need to know where im stand so do you like me too?dont be afraid.if you guys are true friends then eventually if he doesnt like you he will tell you no and everything will continue to be as normal(maybe after a week or 2 eventually)and if he likes you he will tell you as much.just go for it if you really want it.because you have nothing to lose by telling him but that eventually if he says no you will be a litle cold for a while.but you do have to lose by not telling him and never knowing wher you stand( you have 50% chances he says he loves you back)well i suggest you tell him and after that you will know if either u have to move on or do something about it.

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What are signs of a cheating bf..and what would make a boy want to cheat? thanks..idk if im being to paranoid or not so i wanted to get your guys imput

Well hum I personnaly dont think there really are signs because some guys are very smart and wont let you know theyre cheating on you if they dont want u to know(true players!!)trust me I ve benn going out with a guy who was constantly cheating on me for years and i was convinced he never did until i found out...AFTER we broke up.so honestly if your bf is cheating on you and doesnt want you to know:u wont know!..but a guy friend of mine told me this and i totally agree with him..the fact that your bf is cheating on you does not mean he doesnt like you.
and nothing can make a guy cheating but either him being a little or should i say alot distracted by other girls or maybe the fact that his gf might not satisfy him enough..so if you are paranoid as you say i avice you to five a lot of attention to your bf and spend time with him(without being too stiky)
hope i helped!
Larissa:)

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ok. my problem is that when i like a guy, i make it way
obvious (not on purpose) by flirting with them and talk-
ing to them etc. and just making eye contact. i can't
help it. it's like a feeling of being noticed, sort of.

but i
only do this with guys i know i have a chance with. not
"popular" guys that i like. how do i stop being so flirty
and messing up my chances so quickly? it's like i start
digging him, and then i come on so fast like by flirting
and talking etc. that i feel like they dont like me.

how do
i take it slow, and not be so flirtatious all the time? +
please dont say "'it's okay to be flirty." cause i know it's
okay to be flirty, but i just dont want to be so flirty so
fast! and so much. help?

Well i suggest you start by trying to know them fist before starting acting flirty.and even thoug i think ITS OK TO BE FLIRTY [boys like that trust me i have 4 brothers!!=)] but if you wanna stop just go to them with the idea of being only friends with them..hope you dont flirt with your friends 8) hum but I think u just shouldnt go that straight ..and eventually wait until they come to you..its not always good for a girl to go after guys.
hope i helped!
Larissa:)

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im 15/f. if i find out a guy i like likes me back, i usually lose interest in him. am i not ready for a boyfried or what? its seriously annoying and id love it to stop

If they don't like you back then its not meant to be.Trust me when the ONE(S)will come they'll like you back.just dont force things to happen and everything is gonna be just fine.remember this "if it's meant to be,it will be.If it isnt..then it wont be".so dont pressure yourself,one day you'll find someone you like who will like you back.I garanty you this.Larissa

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hiiii my name's yasi and i'm rlllly cool. :) yea be jealous ok anyways there's this guy and he is soooooooo gorgeous his name is ZBIGNIEW ZENTAVIOUS ZITKALASA he's fat, hairy, and has bad smelling breath! !!!!!!!!!!!! ;) and im like obsesseed but eveyrone else says that i'm retarded :( cry me a riverrrrrrrr ok yea wellll WHAT DO I DO HE IS THE MAN OF MY DREAMS

lol babe dont worry about what what others think.If you like him,then go for it.you might regret it later.so i suggest you go talk to him and become his friend then you'll see later if he really is the man of your reams like you said LOL.anyways holla if you need more advices;)
Larissou
p.s:u seem really cool..that makes two of us;)

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Hey ima 13/f and i have this boyfriend and we kiss and stuff but we wanna french kiss and i need some tips on how i do it can you help remember TIP'S !! please i no i sound mean im just stressed sorry. But please can you help ??

Babe.there are NO TIPS for kissing.its something you do with your heart and your feelings.Dont try to do it in someway because u could fuck everything up.just do what you feel and it's gonna be just PERFECT.i promise!holla at me if you need more tips about relationship and love;)
Larissou

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