I think that its hard for anyone to have a friend and want a relationship with them. What you have to think about is, even though you have said 'I probably wont end up with him but he is what I want right now' but have you considered the toll it will have on your friendship when you finish? You don't know if it end mutually or end badly, but you should be prepared to break up on a bad note if you are both stressed and confused with your lives at the moment. He may be a really nice person, and just going through a rough time but you have to remember that he has left you once before for someone else and can easily do it again. He may just want you when he doesn't have anyone else because he wants comfort from his best friend with a bit of harmless flirting, but you can't get upset if he finds other girls to be in a relationship with because it sounds like he does see you more of a friend than a girlfriend which is probably why this situation is so confusing. If I were you I would forgive him like you have, but I wouldn't exactly be falling head over heals to get back in to a relationship with him.

You just have to be there for him, be caring, be a great friend to him and see how it goes. There may be a chance of a relationship but you have to be ready to cope with any outcome that happens. Its best not to flirt either, because even though its harmless, it could cause confusion. You need to go slow with this and be patient. If he gets in to a relationship with other girls, make sure you're always there for him all of the time and he will notice. Good luck.

Listen to your mum on this one. My mum used to tell me the same when I was your age, saying that she didn't want to me to be best mates or going out with boys. I was upset by that but looking back i realised that she was just protecting me and that the guys that I thought I liked, I would not have lasted with at all.

Enjoy being 12 and don't get too involved with guys and I agree with the comment below, if you ever want to go out with guys, go on group dates, they are safe and your mum will feel better about the situation.

You should do what you are comfortable with. It doesn't matter what your friends think. It took me 2 years to finally get another boyfriend and I just felt comfortable to kiss him and it felt natural to me. However, with all my previous boyfriends I was really shy and wasn't ready. If this guy does ask you out and you like him then nothing is stopping you two from kissing unless you don't want to. So if you want your first kiss to happen, then go for it! and if you want to wait, then don't worry about your friends being shocked. A kiss isn't special unless its with the right person.

If you have any problems/worries no matter what topic, I will do my best to give you pure honest, helpful advice, most of the time coming from experience.

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