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I'm 17 years old, I've been a cheerleader basically my whole life, It's a great SPORT.. I love it. I've been through so much in my life that no one really knows about. I've matured so much throughout high school it's unbelievable. I learned how important family is, in the end they'll always be there for you. I've delt with more then normal teenagers my age have. I live in a very wealthy area where most of the kids have parents who pay for everything and they don't understand the value of money. I moved when I was in third grade because my parents got divorced. From experiences i've had to deal with, I have become extremly independent and appreciative of everything I have. I joined this advice website because I was looking for advice on something, but then when I looked more into it I realized that I could give advice to people... I think i've experienced everything that people ask questions about.. and I love helping people out. I'm an extremly caring person.. and I hate drama(who doesn't?) I love to cheer, tumble, workout, be active etc... I had a boyfriend for about 3 years through high school.. 2 years older then me.. we broke up because of college. I can give great relationship advice as well as family/friends or anything else you want to know!!

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okay well you probably hear this type of question a lot..

but anyways about a week ago me and my boyfriend broke up and we were going out for about half a year and i really loved him a lot, but i found out he cheated on me with my cousin, it wasnt like a big deal to me though but my cousin made up some stuff and said i was sneaking around with this other guy when i truthfully wasnt she just said that to him so he would brake up with me so she could have him, we wernt going to brake up when i found out he cheated on me, we toked it over and they only kissed so it didnt bother me really, but my cousin lives right down the road from him and she got him to brake up with me and go out with her. its only been a week since we broke up and shes been going out with him for like 3 days and is acting like she has fallen in love already and stuff and i know my ex very well and i know he doesnt like that type of girl i think he might be using her for sex.. and yah i dont know what i should do like i have tried so many things to try to getr my mind off him .. i went out with friends and done all diffrent types of things but everyday i have cried on and off and last night i reallt broke down crying, it was really bad i dont know what i should do to try to get over him because it hurts really bad and i cant take feeling like this anymore but i cant help it.. also i know i could get him back and i really want him back.. but everyone is telling me to move on.. should i move on? or wait untill he uses my cousin? ah im so confused and also my friends told me to try rebounding like into another relationship, theres this guy who i think is cute and he likes me .. is rebounding healthy?


any advice is appreciated.
thanks.

Hey.. I saw your question.. and I have been through that feeling too... when my boyfriend and I broke up I seriously didn't know what to do with myself.. I didn't understand why it was so hard for me to move on..I would break down all the time..and I was completley unhappy.. it's taken me a while to figure things out..but I've really matured and learned alot from that relationship...I know what you mean when you say you tried going out and staying busy but it didn't help all that much..that's how i felt too..so I thought to myself..the relationship I was in was impossible because of college and everything. You need to build your confidence.. do something you are interested in and set goals for yourself.. working out, a sport, club, job etc... find something you really would love to succeed in and focus all your attention to that. You need to realize that you deserve sooooo much more then your ex boyfriend ..I mean come on he cheated.. there's no excuse for cheating. He probably won't come back to you now because he knows you'll always be there waiting and he can come back to you whenever he wants.. build your confidence, meet other guys and just have a good time. Don't ever text/call or talk to him unless he talks to you first... and if he does.. be short with him but act like you've never been happier.. or if he calls be like o well i have to go I have plans or stuff to do.. talk to you later..you know? so he'll be like what?? she doesn't want to talk to me.. guys always want what they cant have.. by the time you build your confidence and you're happy with yourself again he will want you so bad.. but you won't even be interested because you're so much better then that!!!! seriously... I believe in karma.. and I believe that "everything happens for a reason".. maybe you'll learn something out of this relationship and become a stronger person.. !! stay positive.. you can do it!

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i need some advice. i am 16 years old and my girlfriend is 13 years old. i know some of you are thinking wtf am i doing with her. but i love her and from the looks u cant tell shes 13. im going into the 11th grade and shes only going into the 8th. we get along great. im just worried that i will get made fun of for going out with her and all. i dont want it to end and i love her sooo much!
please help

I dated a guy two years older then me in highschool.. I was a sophomore and he was a senior... he dealt with the same stuff, mostly from girls in his grade. He was the sweetest kid ever and he made every girl feel special... so all the girls in his grade were sooo jealous of our relationship and they would tease him about it... he really let it get to him.. it really affected our relationship..I felt like it was hidden. Don't let that happen. In the end you will regret it. If you love her.. be confident about it and don't let anyone's jealousy get in between that.. it's not worth it. The more open you are about your relationship, people will give up teasing you because they'll see they aren't getting under your skin and controlling you.. ! I hope I helped you out a little bit.. Good luck with everything!!

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female.

so im the only one out of my friends who has actually passed kissing but i've only made it to 2nd base. but they all seem to have boyfriends and guys like them. i mean im popular in school and get along well with guys but i feel like no guy wants me. so my question is, is there any tips to getting guys to like you- i mean besides talking to them or trying to flirt?

I would say.. just be yourself, don't try to be someone your not because guys don't like girls who are fake or stuck up you know.. and don't feel like you have to do stuff with guys to get them to like you.. it's all about the chase.. play hard to get with a guy you are interested in.. make them want to know more about you.. if you are interested in a certain guy talk to them and find things out about each other..! My first serious relationship started summer going into sophomore year.. and my boyfriend was two years older then me, I met him in school and started talking to him.. and then we hung out and just enjoyed eachothers company... I didn't kiss him or do anything for a month..! It kept him interested and made him want me more.. because I didn't throw myself at him.. you know?? Well I hope that helped... if you have any more questions just ask!!

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Okay so I'm going to take a crack at this advice thing. I'm female.

I want to know what the heck is wrong with me. I dont think I am completely ugly and I even lost weight thinking that if I did that then maybe someone would be interested in me. I'm getting older and I am in high school. I've never even been asked out/ been liked.

Are all guys into blonde, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty type of girls?

I'm tired of seeing all my friends have relationships and stuff and im sitting on the sidelines. I hate this feeling. I dont want the advice that i just need to talk to guys and be friendly, because that doesn't work. Because I do talk to guys.

Maybe I'm just unlikeable. I have no clue.

Honestly.. you shouldn't think somethings wrong with you.. have confidence in yourself.. guys love a girl with confidence. Also just be yourself.. there's nothing worse then trying to be someone you're not... don't worry, just let things happen on their own.. don't force a relationship. I know it's hard waiting but sooner or later you'll meet someone right for you. And I don't think that guy's are into the type of girls you mentioned, slutty/popular/stickthin etc., and the guys who are interested in those characteristics are mostly shallow guys ;). In the long run guys aren't attracted to slutty stuck up girls. Good luck.. be confident!! =)

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i have a bf...we have been dating for about a year...and im ready to go to the next level with him ..all we really do is make out...and i know he wants to finger me and ive given him a hanjob..how do get him really horny and let him know with out telling him i want him?

Letting your boyfriend know you are ready to move to the next level without telling him isn't always easy. The best way to get a guy horny would be to tease him.. lay on top of him and kiss him a few times... keep him wanting more.. that's what its all about.. guy's get bored really easily.. so if you want him to stay interested you have to be mysterious... pretend you are going to give him a handjob and just sort of rub the area with your hand... then don't really do anything.. that will drive him crazy..

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Hi,i was wondering what age is a good age for kids to start dating? Im 14 going to be 15 (freshman in highschool) if that helps at all..thanks : )

I don't think there is exactly a "good age" for kids to start dating... I think kids can date at anytime. Highschool is usually when relationships become more serious, if you find someone you are interested in dating.. then go for it! My first serious relationship was the summer going into my sophomore year in highschool! =)

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