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i think my boyfriend poped my cherry am i still a virgin

"popping of the cherry" is actually the tearing of a thin piece of skin inside of your vagina called the "hymen". The tearing of this skin, just like a cut on ur arm's skin, causes blood. The loss of virginity is defined by the tearing of this skin and any penis-in-vagina contact. So if you had intercourse, no, you are no longer a virgin.

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I've been going out with this guy for almost 2 months. He's amazing. He's good looking, Funny, Smart and basically everything I want in a guy. Except, He's 2 years younger than me. He's really mature though. If he tells his mom we're going out he'll get in trouble and have to break-up with me and it kind of bothers me cause his mom keeps questioning him why he calls me and why I call him. I really dont know what to do.. Can someone please give me some good advice? I rate really good. Thanks!

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alright well first of all... hiding things is never a good idea. cause eventually his mother will find out whats really going on and she'll have to deal with it but she'll probobly be mad just because her son was hiding it from her. honesty is always the best policy. and he needs to stand up to his mom. i understand shes just lookin out for his best interest... but how much harm could you possibly do to him. Now i would understand if u had a criminal record or something (which i hope u dont)but, he needs to take a strong stance and tell her the truth. he needs to tell her exactly how he feels about you, and he needs to tell her that she cant controll the way he feels and who he can love. just dont be tooo hostile... cause hey.. thats still his mom. you donnt want her to be overwhelmed or feel disrepected. make sure she gets the point, but he should still listen to her concerns and have a compromise. hope i helped.

cale

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What do you get guys for gifts????

Hey I dont know how old the guy is u want to get a gift but if ur asking this question im guessin ur somewhere around my age. U can get him jewelry... the kind depends on what style he is... if hes a punk or a goth get him one of those spike thingers (not real big or it looks a little freaky). If hes a prep, surfer, or maybe even a skater hena or pooka shell neklaces are great! I own one myself! LOL. If you dont want to do that maybe think of an inside joke u guys might have and get him a gift to represent that... even though hes a guy we still enjoy thought behind a gift plus itll give him a good chuckle. Hope this helps!

Cale

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Okay well their is this boy at my school and we have gone out and broke up alot! Well now i think im startin to really like him again and he likes me to ! Im tired of breakin up and all but i really like him! Should i go out with him or say No??
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Boy TrouBle!!

Hey, I think i can give u excellent advice on this cause i am in the exact same situation. Except i am a boy. So its a different side of the story. Me and this girl went out for like 2 months and we loved eachother but i broke up with her for such a stupid reason and she was devastated and i regret it to this day and i never lost my feelings for her... and i know how hard it might to ask him out because ur scared of gettin rejected and then u cant even b friends because hell feel to awkward around u... i mean the best advice would b to go for it but i know thats not the way it works. Im tryin to spend as much time with her as i can... makin her see how great i am and how well we can get along. I suggest u do the same. Force his heart and mind to re-fall in love with u. I hope this works for u and me.

Cale

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i really like this guy but hes gay and hes soooo nice and cute and he likes me but hes neva had a relasionship with a guy idk y he says hes gay???? what should i do

Ok... well just cause hes never had a relationship with a guy doesnt mean hes not gay. I mean if u had never had a b/f but u still were interested in guys... would that make u not straight cause u never dated one? He has an interest in men and thats who he likes. But u say he likes u 2... i guess that means he's bi. Go for it then... talk things out with him... see if he is willing to give a girl a shot... HELL! TELL HIM U'LL HAVE A 3SOME WITH ANOTHER GUY! LOL! Thats good for both of u. Just sit down and see if he'll take u for a test drive. THanx for the great ?.

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tHis iS fOr tHe gUyS oUt tHeRe....iS iT oK fOr a GirL tO aSk a gUy oUt?

Hey... I am a 13 year old male and all guys think different but I don't think any guy minds for a girl to ask him out. Some guys are shy... some guys are scared of rejection... and some guys never ask a girl out, they feel "cooler" when they get asked out. I myself... i am not any of those. I will ask a girl out and I like when she asks me out to. I think its actually very atractive, because it shows that ur strong and independant. U don't depend on someone else. But this is all ruined if u have ur friend ask him out... do it to his face. If he rejects u then just say "Thats ok" and walk away gracefully. Don't make a scene! Its a big turn off... because if u give him time he might change his mind.

Cale

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ok here's the deal, my bestfriend and i have known each other for about a year and a half, we dated for a long time before he told me that he wasn't in love with me, the thing is, we are "friends with benefits" and i'm ok with that, it's just it's hard because i am totally 100% crazy in love with him and i want to be with him and date him again and i'm not sure if he wants the same thing. he said that he was going to think about us getting back together but i'm not really sure that he wants to. what should i do?? please help

Hi now I'm only 13 and I don't know how old u and ur friend, but please don't just dismiss my advice because I am 13. I am very advance and I know my way around the world. U gave him a chance for love and it didn't work out for him... he told u he didn't love u... and I mean u cant just expect that to change by tryin it again. I don't think it'll change any. He doesn't feel the same connection u do... and as hard as thats gonna be to let him go... sometimes u just have to realize u have to. And the thing of "friends with bennefites" just complecates EVERYTHING! Because if u got back together I would be very weery about it... because he knows u love him... n then if he knows u think their is a relationship and trust... he might use u for those "bennefits" any time he likes. So my advice is to let go... cause in the end ur just gonna get ur feelings hurt and ur gonna get played.

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Thanx!

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hey i am a 13 year old female and i have been going out with this guy for about 6 months and we have made out and basically had dry sex, but ive always asked him if i could see his penis and he would always be too shy to show it. i was over at his house yesturday and i asked him if i could see it and he un-zippered his pants and almost brought it out. i wasnt sure that he would do that and now im worried that he might catch me by surprise again. im thinking that he would try to make me have sex with him, but i dont know what to expect, b/c he talks about it all the time, but im not sure what to do if he tried it. i mean i havent done and i think its too young...what should i do about it?

Well I have too say that this isn't a light situation. I can't tell u if ur 2 young... u make ur own decisions and no one else can tell u if ur too young or not. At 13 we think 6 months in a big deal... and at out age it is. And adults are having sex probally like after 2 weeks of dating. But think about it... were 13. Do u think its gonna be worth it to give the most sacred thing u have to him when u don't know if hes gonna be there for a while... and having sex could also make things very awkward for the both of u. But both of u obviously seem very interested in playing with the idea of it... u are interested in seeing his penis and he isnt completely against it... just a little shy. And u have basically got to 3rd base and ur stealing home. So all i can say is its up 2 u... if u think ur ready to deal with the emotional strain and the responciblitly of having a sexual realtionship... then do what u want. But remember... if he pressures u... tell him to back off and maybe even dump him. As hard as that might be. HE needs to realize its ur decision. But if u do go through with it.. please make sure ur well prepared... ur both 13 and he ejacualtes and i imagine u get ur period... so be SAFE! PLEASE WEAR A CONDOM! 2 pretect urself from gettin pregnant and sexually transmitted deseases. And i know he doesn't have HIV but someone who just didn't wash all the germs off their penis can still give u a yeast infection, climidea, or gonarea. So make a smart chose... and take time to think about it. And don't just rush into it... discuss it with him first... sit down and talk about it for an hour. Discuss what is allowed and what u dont feel comfortable with. Thanx for the great question.

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ok well ima tell you a looooong story. ok w lil while ago i met hits kid at a party...and i got his number and we talked on the phone a few times... but then like on thur. he didnt talk to me or call me back or anything.. and i was like WTF... i hope he is not like other guys that your jus goin to wait around for and then they will jus like drop you.. and i jus asked him about it i was like... i do like you for as much as i know you... but i would like to get to know you more.. and not wait around and have nothing happen... and hewa slike yea we can hang out..ok that a really short verson of it. I wanna know how i should ask him if anyhting was goin to happen with "us" or if he was jus gonna waist my time.

See now thats a really tough one because u need to really get him to know u care... but if u seem to care to much then he's gonna think ur desperate. And if u get all up in his face and demand an answer u gonna seem like a real BITCH!Hmm... well I mean, first of all U gotta b upfront about the way u feel. I don't know how he is but I really respect it when a women respects herself and her morals and doesn't just want to b played. But please Don't play games with him... cause just like Monopply... it will last forever and he'll get pissed when u drop a hotel on Park Avenue. So tell him that u think he is everything u've asked for, but ur not the type to be played and just move on... so u want him to tell u if he's gonna be a man and do the right thing or just run. I hope that helps. Tell me how things work out!

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