about

Hello, I am 13 years old, and I go to middle school in Arizona. Don't let my age fool you, though- I have been through a lot, and can help with a lot of issues and problems. Since I will probably get to know you, you should probably know a little about myself:

I LOVE to sing! I am an intermediate singer, as of right now, in my middle school choir.

I am writing a book- California Sunsets- due to be published SOMETIME this year, or next.

I can play the piano and flute.

I am a really positive person- and like to help anyone and everyone!

That's all the important things I can think of right now! Enjoy my website, and feel free to ask me for advice!


ALL ABOUT ME

Name: Brittany (or Bri)
State: Arizona
Age: 13
Favorite color: Baby Blue
Favorite movie: Pay It Forward
Favorite novel/book: The Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown
Favorite food: Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream
Boyfriend: None as of right now
School: Middle/Junior High School
Hair color: Strawberry blonde
Eye color- blue
Skin tone- Peach


advice

There is this guy that I like at school. He is really nice and really funny. But my friends don't like him they have even said mean and hurtful things about him. They judge him and they don't even know him. Maybe if they knew him things would be different but they don't even try to know him. It's almost as if they could care less and would rather just go on not knowing him and just judging him. I really hate to fight and I don't want to, i just need to know how to make them see what a really good person he is. How ddo I approach the subject without damaging our friendship?
In need of help

Dear In need of help,

You should always listen to what your friends have to say - BUT , you also have to follow your own heart. If this guy is really special to you, then do what you want. However, you need to also realize, that your friends only have your best interest at heart. I'm sure they wouldn't want you to get hurt, or go out with some guy that doesn't deserve YOU.
Maybe you should let them know how you feel, and if they still won't relent, then try not to bring your crush into the conversation so much. It is obvious that you will talk about him sometimes, but don't go on and on - because then your friends will feel like you don't care about their warnings.
This is a hard situation, but there is one thing you should ALWAYS remember:
Boys come and go, but TRUE friends, won't leave when the going gets tough.
If these are true friends, they will care about how you feel, and will respect you. They will stop talking about your crush when you ask them to. If they don't, then maybe you should reconsider this friendship. However, always TRY to listen to what they have said already, because sometimes love blinds people. You might just be surprised at what you find.

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I'm almost 13and I'm a girl. I like this guy at school and he sends all of these signs to me! All of my friends can see them too, so it's not just me dreaming. But I recently found out that he likes this other chick. This is actually first love and I mean LOVE!!!! In the past, every guy that I like is friends then I tell him then they hate me. Should I risk a friendship and tell him that I like him?

Well, before you go jumping in, and telling this guy how you feel, there are a few steps you can go through to see how he feels. Here they are:

1. There is nothing strange about you- this is a highly common problem - tons of relationships start off as friendships.
2. You need to "play your hand" cautiously- and even then there are no guarantees. If you don't want to ask this guy out straightforwardly about his feelings toward you, then maybe you should try a few pseudodates - you know, long drives together, walks at the beach, some carefully chosen flicks. Keep the conversation light and unthreatening. And whatever you do - don't stalk him at school!
3. If you feel like taking a bigger risk, get a friend of yours to tell a bud of his about your feelings and see what comes back to you. If your guy doesn't seem interested - slack off, and the damage to your friendship should be minimal.
4. Remember, if you want a pretty quick answer, body language sometimes speaks volumes. The next time you're deep in conversation with your crush, touch him on the arm, the shoulder, or if you're feeling brave - the face. If he flinches and draws back, the feeling is almost definitely not mutual, but if he smiles at you- or better yet, reciprocates - you've got him!

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Ok there is this guy and he is 25 and i am 14 we were together for a while but then we had to break up because my mom called the police on him.. we still talk but last weekend I lied to him and he started yelling at me about how I can't stop lying to him... I have written him emails saying I am sorry.. But in an email he sent back to me he said he didnt want ne thing to do with me.. he wrote me back saying that maybe he would be with me.. but not for a while.. should I just give up on him or should I still be friends????

What would a 25 year old and a 14 year old possibly have in common?
The reasons why I think you should let him go:

A) Your relationship would be illegal (if you ever got back together)
B) His intentions are not sounding true to me
C) you should listen to your mother.

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im in between the ages of 12-16 right and i really like this guy lets say his name is "randy" ok welll randy and i really like eachother and were thinking about going all the way were gonna used a condom and be safe but im still scared

I would say NO. Why? Because evn when using a condom, with perfect use, it is still only 85% effective - that means there is AT LEAST 15% chance you'll get pregnant. Also, condoms and birth control do not prevent STDs such as AIDs and "Crabs". I would definately say wait.

Hope all goes well

~Britt

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ummm okay well i went out with this one guy for about 7 months and we had a really great relationship and everything but our break up was really hard as soon as we broke up we stopped tlking and stopped being friends but ever since the beginnign of the school year we've been best friends and thats cool in all but we both want to be more than friends but here's the catch i have a boyfriend that im absolutly in love with but alot of the time he treats me like crap and i cant stand it but right after that he'll do something really sweet and i fall back in love with him and i really like both guys but my ex-boyfriend and i have messed around when im with my boyfriend i know its bad but im still in love with him
please help me out
Caught in the middle

Well, that's a very sticky predicament!!
Based on better judgment, though - i'd say that you should go back to your old boyfriend - and NOT because you're starting to like him again - because that isn't a good enough reason to break up with a guy. The reasons (i have 2) that you should go back to your ex, is that you cheated on your boyfriend, and he doesn't deserve that... and also because he doesn't treat you right!! Just because he tries to make it up to you, doesn't mean he isn't going to hurt you again (either emotionally or physically).

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i like a boy and he likes me but his sister says i am a priss and im totally the opposite what should i do to get her to like me?

natalie kidman
age:13

Dear Natalie,

I will first explain to you that you can NEVER just "get' someone to like you. That isn't how it works, unfortunately.
First off, you need to ask yourself a question. Why would you want this girl's approval in the first place? If she isn't willing to accept you, then that is her problem. Her brother should realize that.
Some steps her TRY to get her approval - be yourself. Prove to her that you are in no way a "priss". Try to be openly kind to her, etc.

I hope everything works out!!

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