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So, I'm getting married in a few months. My fiance is getting deployed in April, so we wanted to sign papers first and then have a real wedding next year. However, I still wanted to do something decently special for our courthouse wedding. For those of you who have done the 'signing papers' thing, I would like to know how you all did it and how you guys celebrated! I just want some nice ideas, thank you!

One of my mom's friends had a courthouse wedding and it was simple, but nice. They exchanged rings and all that with her closest friends and family there.
Afterwards, she had a small party at her house with cake, food and drinks. I'd say go for that idea seeing as it's not boring and is still enjoyable for everyone else. :)

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We've been married for 6 years and I want to have children but I showed my husband a sad video on YouTube now he's crying and he's scared to have kids. What should I do ? I love him so much.

I don't know what the video was about, but if it's that traumatic, explain to him that bad things don't happen that often to babies unless the parents have a gene or the pregnancy was bad and alcoholic/drug use was involved.

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My name is Marian and I like two guys at school they are both funny and smart but I dont know one of them is older and i dont get to see him as much but we still talk. The other one is in the same grade as me and he always wants to sit next to me, i like the attention but i dont know what to do.

Go with the one you feel most comfortable with. I don't have much information to go off of, so, good luck in whoever you choose! (:

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I'm going to see my favorite country singer in a few months about 4 days before my birthday. I'm gonna cry if I meet him because he's my idol. Would he be able to comfort me if I cry ?

No one can say what someone else is going to do. I highly doubt he will comfort you, though, seeing as he is a celebrity and many people probably cry over him daily. Just don't get your hopes up.

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No matter how hard i try I can never seem to be the love interest or the one a guy is interested in. I always turn out to be the best friends instead i turn out to be the good friend. I believe that you have to have a friendship before dating but whenever i meet a new guy i like ill try to start a small friendship but some how i always end up a good buddy or a best buddy. What do i do how do i stop this from happening again?

Give the guy signs that you don't just want to be friends. Throw some flirts in the mix or just tell them off the bat that you are looking for a friendship at first and possibly a relationship later on.
Good luck. (:

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So, me and this guy talked since march. he messaged me on Facebook one night and was like wow why haven't I seen you at school, you're really cute and blah blah blah. we talked off and on until school was over. when he would see me going to my homeroom in the morning he was with his friends but he would still give me a "hey what's up" head nod or look at me as I passed by and would say hey. over summer he would text me almost every single day. sometimes he would text me and say hey cutie and ask me if I wanted to have out with him, although we never did. back in June I flat out told him I like him. I guess he thought I was kidding because I texted him that and he replyed with "what?" So this year we have 1 class a week together and all 5 of our lunches. sometimes on the way to lunch he'll be walking right behind me and my friend but he won't say hi. it seems like he doesn't even acknowledge me anymore. why? what should I do?

Ask him what his problem is. He was the one making the notion that he liked you and you just acted upon it. Boys like to be bipolar sometimes so maybe he's just having one of his moments.
Good luck though. (:

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im 15/f
my friend lets call her britney liked this guy lets call him mitchell. she used to like him but she doesnt know i liked him before she did. she now likes this other guy and its a different guy. i like mitchell again and told her but she got annoyed? i also really like mitchell and i want him to know but also dont want him to know because i dont think he likes me. what do i do?

Well, Britney has no right to get upset about it. She USED to like him and has moved on obviously. It would be understandable if she dated Mitchell, but she didn't so you can like him all you want.
You can do one of two things. You can tell him you like him OR just wait it out a little longer and see if he shows any signs of liking you as well.
If your friend gets mad about it, too bad. She's not your friend if she wants to control who you like when she's the one that moved on from him.
Good luck! (:

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there is a guy at my school who wont quit annoying me. Does he LIKE like me, or is he just bored and making a sport out of it?

Easiest thing to do would be to ask him, but he may not be honest. So get someone else he knows (or you both know) to ask.

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if i dont answer his phone calls would my boyfriend get mad at me or would he want me more?

Uhh it could go either way. Everybody's different and have different reactions to certain things. Also, if you have to fight for his attention, he's not worth it.

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ok so i am a 13 year old girl, i have been told that i am really pretty before and sometimes, I'll just walk by a group of guys and they all get these goofy smiles on their faces and they wave and all say "Hi Cheyenne!" i don't get why they do this. i don't think it's just to be polite because they like single me out and smile and say hi and wave. i haven't really seen them do this to any other girls. why do they do this? be honest about what you think. thank you. kisses!

Well it's obvious they think you're pretty lol, and knowing guys, they're looking for one of two things.
Also, you're at the stage where puberty is just now coming into play and guys'/girls' hormones are going wild. I'd be careful as to who you talk to and don't do anything "dodgy". (:

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hi ya, me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and we live together. he used to be very touchy-feely with me when we first started to going out. he says he loves me 2 or 3 times a day and he kisses me like every other day but just not touchy-feely anymore like he used to. is he loosing interest? when we argue, i said, don't you love me and he goes and say, 'if he wouldn't love me, he wouldn't be with me,' what does he mean by that? he a taurus single father and i'm a scorpio, never been married. thanks you all for answering.

I would have a sit down and a long talk with him about his attitude. He *could* be losing interest but no one wants to jump into those horrible conclusions!
Try to have a civil conversation and both of you can put your feelings out on the table.
With the "if he wouldn't love me" thing, he means if he truly didn't care about you, he would've left a long time ago. Trust me on that one.
Good luck! (:

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18/f
my past relationships have ended suddenly because i have a nasty habit when it comes to getting close to someone. i'm very depression-prone. and usually when i'm with someone for awhile and i get depressed (for one reason or another) i start to push them away. press the right buttons, don't care about their feelings, act extremely distant and obviously sad, etc. i don't know why i do it, but i do. and i don't want to anymore. i'm with someone now and i really really love her. this is my first girlfriend. she's been my friend for years and so theres a lot of history there. anyways, lately i've been really down because of stress at work and with my friends. i took it out on her today and she started crying in front of me, and i immediately snapped out of my "fuck everything" mood and felt horrible. now, i know how girls work. i know you're not supposed to shut them out because they obviously think they did something wrong. she hasn't done anything wrong and it took me forever to explain that to her. i ended up buying her a balloon saying "i love you" along with a stuffed animal.
i don't want to make her cry anymore. she doesn't deserve that. we both have decent amounts of stress in our life and i don't want to add to hers. how can i fix the way i act in relationships? i don't want to chase her away like i did everyone else, since she's still my best friend and the only person i don't want to lose.

I've done this in every single one of my relationships and I even do it now. The thing that seems to help me out is talking to someone (friend, family, bf/gf) about my issues and having them understand why I snap, if I do.
So, if you're stressed and depressed, tell your girlfriend about it and talk it out before acting out on your feelings.
Good luck with everything, hun. (:

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I really like my brother's best friend. It seems like he likes me, too. Other people have told me the same thing. What I'm wondering is...should I say anything to anybody or leave it alone? Since he's my brother's best friend, he's around a lot. I've considered talking to my brother about it, as we're really close. And when he was drunk a few nights ago he told me that if I dated (his friend) he'd love me. That was the same night said friend drunkenly asked for my number and to take me on a date and never went through with any of that.
I really don't know, but I'm making myself sick at missing a chance with him...even if I'm not positive I have one.
Any input is greatly appreciated.
I'm 20/f.

If he's just showing feelings while he's drunk, then I'd say don't bother. It doesn't seem like he really wants to pursue anything while he's sober because I'm pretty sure he would've if he wanted to.
Plus, in my honest opinion, dating friends of siblings makes it more hectic just in case anything bad happens. Good luck on any decision you make though! (:

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17/F

My boyfriend and I just aren't working out. We share interests and stuff, but he hardly talks to me and then he apologizes for messaging me too much, when he hardly does at all. I tried to tell him it was fine and I wanted him to talk to me, but he said he just doesn't know what to say. I'm pretty sure he does like me, but he doesn't know how to act. I'm his first girlfriend, I'm assuming.
There's no passion in this at all and I feel like we're strangers whenever we meet. Problem is, I just don't know how to break up with him and ask to still be friends. I've never been good at breaks up and I always waited for the other guy to go first, but I don't think he's going to break up with me any time soon... How can I break up with him and still be friends?

I've been through this so many times that I just had to say, you know what? Screw it, I'm gonna have to be honest!
So, you should just tell him the truth. If it's not working out, he should be understanding and if he truly cares for you, he will try to work out a friendship.
There really isn't an easy way to break up with someone. Honesty is always key. (:

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