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Well you see there this boy iven been liking for awhile now. I have this class wit him and like we talk and play around and stuff. you see he knewed i liked him but i dont know if he still knows i like him. Because like he always flirt with me and stuff, and if he do know that i still like him does he like me or if he just flirting with me just to flirt. And if he dont know that i like him should i say somthin or wat. But if i do i dont wont things to be awkard beteewn us.
what should i do?? (link)
Hey, you know what? You should just let it go for a now. Act like your not interested in him in that way. Don't make yourself easy! If he really does like you than he will try to be more serious and possibly ask you out if he does not do this he is not into you. There are a lot of flirty people that just flirt with anyone and it is flattering and hard not to fall for them. Don't say anything. Try to distract yourself. It sounds like you have a good friendship going and I think it is more up to him in this case to take things to the next step. Just be patient and play hard to get! it never fails!


There's a guy I have loved for months.We've known each other for a very long time and we're going to get together soon.I have a problem-recently I started having this urge to have sex with him and it drives me nuts.It happens all the time.Whenever I think about him,talk to him,or basically anything that reminds me of him makes me feel that way.I don't want to scare him by being too straight-forward and I do not want to have sex yet,I'm only 15,and I think I'm too young for sex,but this urge is something I can't control at all,and I'm afraid I'll try to seduce him and end up doing it with him.What should I do to stop myself from losing my virginity to him?I love him,he loves me,so there are no emotional problems,I'm just afraid it might result into something bad. Plz advise,I really need help to make the right decision. (link)
Yes, 15 is probably the worst age for horniness and everyone starts losing their virginity then. However, I find if you just keep your pants on and try not to get too close to having sex that works. What I mean is one thing leads to another...There is nothing wrong with this desire, it is totally normal. If you really feel like it is distracting you birth control really helps with that. It also gets ride of cramps and raises iron levels (it's not just good for baby protection). Just keep reminding yourself about your stance on sex. And trust me you are not missing out on anything...Pretty much any other form of sex is better for women anyways (for example oral sex). Maybe masturbation would help lol...


16/m

my girlfriend has not had her period since christmas.
we have, since then, had sex once (1 week ago)(valentine's day)(we used a condom which did not break)
we've been really close and for the most part naked but not inside each other, but, again, really close, without a condom.

what are the chances that she's pregnant? i'm worried, and so is she.

thank you very much! (link)
Sorry, to inform you but there is a high chance she is pregnant. I would get a pregnancy test right away. That's too long to go without a period. Right now you are both at your most fertile stages in life so it is quite possible. It's best just to keep the condom on and go on birth control.


ok.. so i'm 19 and am in my first relationship ever, its been six months now, and just last week my boyfriend left for a job in another country. he says he wants to stay together and be together when he comes back in a year but it dosen't even seem like he cares at all.. he dosen't write me emails or anything, he can't call me because he said that he can't use his cell over there and it would cost way to much to call, however i looked it up and he could have used his cell over there if he paid a little extra.. and he tells me that he loves me a lot, he had an ex who did the same thing (take a job in another country) and so he knows how it feels but if he does and he loves me as much as he says why would he want to put me through that? anyways, i don't know what to do because this is my first boyfriend maybe i'm not really supposed to end up with him and i don't know.. i've just been such a mess lately and don't know if i can last a year feeling like this. anyways if anyone has any advice whatsoever please let me know, thanks in advance and thanks for actually taking the time to read this, i didn't mean for it to be this long (link)
Dump him.


Okay I have been told over and over again that boys like the chase. So I know that this boy likes me but I don't know any techniques that create a chase... How do I make him chase me, like specific things I can do.

PS I am 13/F and he is 14/M so please take this into account with examples. (link)
To be honest and frank with you, if the boy isn't already chasing you without you doing anything he probably isn't interested. And since he is 14 he is probably just really horny and if he did chase you what he really is after is sex. hahaha. So I mean if you really want attention dress slutty...(please don't do this have some dignity.) Just wait and don't make boys your life cause you'll be horribly dissapointed in the end.


I have this huge major crush on this guy who sits in front of me. He's sort of a player at our school, but I like him anyways. He's popular, I'm invisible.
What should I do other than do the obvious?

I'm kinda sensitive and shy...a 16 year old. (link)
Oh man, yeah it's easy to have crushes on players because they are usually hot to begin with (that's how they became players) But to be honest don't go for this guy or any guy really, let men approach you even if you are shy. Right now all guys are interested in girls is for sex. And you being a sweet shy girl they probably feel bad for taking advantage of you. I would just keep this as a crush and wait til you are done high school before you start dating because you would be surprised what kind of losers men turn out to be after lol please send me a message if you have any questions or comments...




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