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Hi. I'm Andy. My friend told me to join this site, because people could use a guy's opinion. Well, about me... I'm 18. I have no idea what I want to do in life. I sing and play a little guitar. My family is very music-oriented, you could say. I don't know why anyone would want advice from me, but I am a pretty friendly person and am always willing to help. I do not consider myself a great person, I'm definitely not a role model. I drink and smoke. A lot of people say I look like a girl, mainly because of my hair. But I love it. I use a lot of hairspray. I love glam rock and hair metal. My favorite band is Motley Crue.

I'm straight, and I am currently in a relationship though I don't know exactly where it's going. The girl I am seeing is 2 years younger than me, and yes, she is on advicenators too.

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My parents are out of town for the weekend, so my boyfriend is planning on coming over tomorrow night. We've talked about it, and both decided that we're definitely not ready to have sex. We just really enjoy eachothers' company, and want to be close to one another. Are there any other things we should talk about before he comes? Any additional advice we might need?

Well, are you planning on kissing/making out, or anything? If yes, you have to set down specific boundaries. Things can easily heat up, and lead to other things very quickly. (such as sex.) You should say something like, "I don't want to do anything past kissing." Or, "I don't want to go anywhere past touching." Also, make sure if things get out of hand, you have to tell him to stop. And he has to respect your decision. If he agrees to all of this, then that's good. But still, be careful. Stay out of any bedrooms. Stick to staying downstairs, maybe watch a movie, or go on the computer with him. Other than that, nothing else. Just maybe what movie he'd like to see.

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So my boyfriend is going to college at the end of next month and I want to make him a little kit...like I plan on giving him a framed picture of the two of us, some of his favorite candy, and some Ramen noodles. I've already gotten him pillows and sheets, so do you have any other ideas for some other items to add? Thank you so much!

Maybe a disposable camera, so he could take pictures and send them to you. Maybe pens, pencils, notebooks. A Mix CD with some of his favorite songs... those are some ideas.

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my boyfriend told me that he thinks he might not love me as a girlfriend, but more of a bestfriend. he doesnt know, and that hes confused. he says he still has feelings for me as more than a friend, but not as much as he did when we first started dating.
i think it may be that hes getting bored?
can someone tell me some ways to spice up our relationship? im up for anything, but nothing sexual, we arent ready for that yet.
im 14 and hes 16 and we've been together for two months an one day.

thanks

I hate to say this, but you two are on totally different maturity levels right now. (Since you are 14, and he is 16.) An age different should NOT matter, but sometimes in certain situations, it DOES. Did you ask him why exactly he doesn't like you as a girlfriend anymore? Did he give any reasons? You should definitely talk to him and ask him why. I know you don't want to do anything sexual, but maybe that IS what he's looking for. He might not admit it, but that's usually what guys want. Maybe the physical attraction just isn't there anymore. Maybe he's getting bored in the relationship. NONE of this is your fault! You shouldn't have to feel like you have to change yourself for him. And definitely DO NOT do anything physical with him, that you don't 100% want to do. I'm going to be honest with you, I don't think there is anything you can do non-sexually that will "excite" him. You could try going to different places with him. Maybe surprise him, and go out on a unique date. Think of a place where you wouldn't usually go out on a date. Take him there. Do something fun. And then end it with a kiss. But, even that might not be what he's looking for. It could possibly be better off if you two were just friends, but really, talk to him about it. Find out the details.

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I am a 15/f and lately ive been doubting a few things. I have had this friend who is a guy for about 6 monthes. As soon as we meet we really liked eachother and thought we were in love. Then, he began to talk about other girls, and he told me that he liked this other girl, but he still loved me more. That broke my heart. So things kind of fell apart and since we have just been friends. A week or two ago, I found out that he liked me again and even though I still have feelings for him, I was a little confused about whom I should like, so I told him I would have to sort out a few things. A day or so later my friend and I had a dicussion and it came out that I didn't really trust him. She told him that I didn't like him and he just said "oh, thats okay". A few thing have happend with other people since and now I think I really like him again. I am a nervous that he won't like me for "ditching" him twice and I have no idea how to tell him I still like him. What should I do?

p.s. Sorry about it being so long!

YOU should not feel bad. Technically, you did not ditch him. He was talking about other girls. You got upset. And that's normal. My friend had this problem too. A guy she liked a lot, always talked about other girls but claimed he liked her the most. I guess that's just how guys are. Either you have to put up with that, or find one of those rare one-of-a-kind guys. (hard to do.) If you feel like you can't trust this guy, don't. Try to become his friend again first. Start talking to him. Tell him you're sorry that you sort of cut things off, and that you missed him. (pretty strong hint.) Don't jump into the "I like you again" thing until you have talked to him for a while. Like I said, friends first. Then later when you're talking, just be honest with him, and see what happens from there.

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Hey I don't know who to ask but I really like this guy and we are close friends and I've told him before that I like him but we did'nt get together. I want him to notice me as girlfriend material. How do I do subtle things that will slowly turn him on? I can't do kissing on the neck or sitting with a short skirt on. I wanna be classy but seductive how do i do it i thought you would probably know. Help as much as you can please. Thank you =.=

Be yourself. I'm a guy, and I know that that's what guys like most. Independent, confident, girls. If you act like you're a celebrity, if you have confidence in yourself, then a guy WILL notice you. Don't take crap from anyone. Start the conversations with this guy. Maybe try to be a little mysterious? Some guys like it when girls don't answer all of their questions, or when girls say mysterious, sometimes odd things, that leave guys wondering. And don't be clingy. A guy needs his space. So trying to talk to this guy 24/7 is not a good idea. Do your hair in a different way or something. Buy a really great pair of shoes. And flaunt it. Because you got it.

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okay, so there is this guy that of my friends were talking about and he seemed really nice.. and they were like omg you and him would go good together and they said he would deff. like me...

...so i was talking to other people about him and i found out he is my ex's neighbor and they hang out a lot and my ex told him stuff about me (they said it was good stuff that he told him but idk)

and everyone is saying that him and i would make a great couple and everything but...we've nvr met sooo...

do i try to hang out with him and get to kno him or do i just forget about him?

---he's the same age as me but he's not going to my school next year---

thanks!!!

Get to know him. You already have something in common. Your ex. It should be easy to start a conversation up with this guy, since you've heard so much about him. So...track him down. Ask him about himself. Guys love to talk about themselves. (I'm a guy...I know.) Don't worry about not being at each other's school. Many people date outside other people that don't go to their school. You might be able to start a relationship, but if not, at least you'll have another friend.

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okay so like idn if youll be able to help or not. but like i have an ex that im still like in love with and like ill talk to him and he doesnt seem intrested and then like i wont talk to him for awhile and then he'll i.m me saying like we havent talked i miss you. idn what to do cause i dont no how to tell him i still like it. like it has been awhile since

Obviously, he still likes you too if he tells you he misses you. I would take a chance and just say, I have something to tell you....then tell him that you still like him. He probably still likes you too. The way he is acting, I can tell.

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How do you know whether a boy actually really likes you or just wants to have sex with you?

Love is when a guy goes out of his way to be nice to you or help you. He really cares about you. There are many little ways he can show it. If he calls you just to say hi. If he asks you about your life and your problems, and offers advice. Basically, if you two can hang out WITHOUT having sex....then you know he probably loves you. However, a guy looking for just sex would not do any of this. He would just call you up and ask you to come over. Nothing more.

And I'm a guy, by the way.

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