I'm a rather queer person, in more than one sense of the word. It seems that I've been specializing in relationships, and although I haven't had any "successful" ones myself, I think I can offer a bit of insight into them. I know a little about a lot of things, so, if you're curious, go ahead and ask. I've been a girl scout for about 11 years which has provided me with a background in camping skills, marketing, fitness, hygene, reading, earning stuff, ettiquette, and people skills. Ask whatever you want, no questions will be rejected unless they are terribly offensive.
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i think im in love with someone iv never met in real life. is this possible? (link)
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Hmm. It depends. Is this person a celebrity or someone you've never even communicated with? If so, I would say no and don't bother reading any further.
Is this someone you met online? (I'm assuming so) If so, I'm going to say yes, completely possible. If I knew what "real life" entailed, I could give you a better answer but seeing as I don't, I'll say that if you've had some sort of indirect contact with this person (e-mail, IM, telephone, letters, whatever)that it is possible that you might love them. I don't mean like 3 or 4 exchanged emails, but that if you have a real relationship where you feel genuinely close to this person, then it isn't out of the question that you might love them.
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i lik dis gurl n i think she liks me 2.she dusnt liv close 2 me. wut shud i du. i realy lik hur.it sux i met her on the net and we havnt even talked on da phone er anythin. (link)
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I think that first you should do is learn how to type. I swear to god that if I get another question written like the one above, I will ignore it.
In response to your question, it really depends on what personal information you are willing to share with eachother. Keep in mind that you never know if the person you're talking to is really who they say they are, and you should be very cautious with giving out personal information. If you decide to exchange phone numbers, try to use a cell phone because it can't be tracked to your home (very easily). Maybe after talking on the phone you'll decide to meet, which I would like to emphasize, I do not recommend. If this is the case, bring a friend, or let someone know where you're going, and try to make the meeting in a very public place.
Good luck and be safe!
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There is this girl I like. But I'm a girl too. And I know that this guy likes me a lot. I'm not sure if the girl likes me or what, and I really don't want to hurt the guy. I'm torn between them, I guess. What should I do? Go out with the guy, or just stare at the girl forever more. (link)
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I have been in this very same situation more times than I can count! Do you like the guy? Feeling sorry for him is not a good enough reason to go out with him. You will realize all too soon that it is irritating to try to have a relationship with someone who likes you far more than you like them in return, and break up with him, therefor hurting him more than if you would have just rejected him initially. And you don't have to just stare at the girl forever more. Talk to her, get to be friends with her. If you find that she doesn't like you the same way you like her, you'll still have her as a friend, which might be even better.
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k, long story. me and my cousin are online and some girl im's us, and we are bored so my cousin says,pretend you are a guy. so i did it. and it was funny i guess. then i kept talking to this girl because she was cool, and i forgot that she though i was a guy so i kept on with the friendship and her thinking i was a guy and now we have been talking for a long time, a few years i guess. and im gay, and i have started really liking her a lot but i cant do anything about it because she thinks i am a guy and if i tell her i am not then the whole friendship will be ruined. i really dont know what to do or how to handle this. please please help me. thanks. (link)
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Well, that's a toughie. Relationships are built on honesty, and by lying to her for your entire reltionship, you kind of screwed yourself over. I think that if you really care about her you should tell her the truth. If she's straight, the fact that you like her means nothing because, no matter what, she's not going to like you back. She deserves to know that you're not a guy. Putting off telling her will only make the consequences worse.
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I am harbouring feelings for someone who is a bit older than me. Older than me as in it would be illegal to start anything, the age difference isn't horrible, but at the moment it seems a bit much. At least later on it wouldn't be as dramatic as it seems now.
Anyway, everyone has their ideal person in their head. And it seems that this person fits all of my...criteria, if you will.
I'm not exactly sure what to do with my situation. At the moment this person is too old, but my feelings are so strong. I see it as wrong, in my mind, to harbour feelings but I can't help it. I have a decent friendship with this person at the moment but nothing more, as it should be. My fear is that life will continue on and this person will find someone else without have ever knowing how I felt or giving me a chance (at least when it was okay to have started anything.) (link)
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Well. I truly don't believe that you can choose who you love, or even who you're attracted to. I think that you realize that your best option is to tell this person how you feel, otherwise, you will never know if they feel the same way about you. Perhaps you should begin by dropping some hints, in order to find out how this person would feel about dating a (significantly?) younger person. That way you won't risk severe embarassment, or damage to your friendship. If you're willing to make a more blunt approach, you will get a more direct answer, but that would mean risking your ego and your friendship. Good luck, and don't worry too much. If you two have mutual feelings, it will work out regardless of age. Unless, this person is so much older that that... well... if they are closer to your parent's age than your own, I'd not take any steps further and ignore all of the above advice. Good luck, and be careful.
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i like this girl, i think she knows i like her but we dont live near each other and im pretty sure she doesnt like me back.i know a lot of her friends to.i realy like her a lot but i dont know what to do.i dont want to straight foreward tell her that i do.lol, what should i do. i think about her all the time.i know this may sound weird but i have even had dreams about her.please help.thanks. (link)
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Well, I think your first step should be to find out if she likes you back. If you don't want to straight out tell her that you like her, or ask her if she likes you, have one of your mutual friends drop hints, or ask her for you. Also, how far away does she live. If its so ridiculously far away that you would never be able to see eachother, it may not be an excellent idea to start a relationship with her.
And no, its not weird that you've had dreams about her. If she's on your mind a lot, that's bound to happen.
Good luck!
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Well Dr. Annie...I have this problem...There are two great loves in my life, one being pen, and one being pencil...i try to spend an equal amount of time with both but its just not working out. Who should i pick to accompany me on this nutty journey we call life? (link)
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Well, my troubled writer, this problem has been bothering the best of us since the beginning of written record. Choosing between writing utensils is like choosing between children for some of us. Luckily for you, it is unnecessary to choose. Some tasks are best with a pencil, for example mathematics, while others, like letter writing, are really best with a pen. I would consider, for convenience's sake, purchasing a utensil that is both a pen and a pencil, giving you the best of both worlds.
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There is a girl I like. She is awesome, smart, a little bit different. But I don't know her, and she is possibly a bit... prudish... how can I approach her? How should I proceed? What do girls like? (link)
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Try to find out what the two of you have in common. If you have any mutual friends, have them interrogate her on what she likes/dislikes, her hobbies, ect. Prudish? She may just be a little reserved, give her some time and try to get to know her. It might be best to develop a friendship with her before attempting to ask her out or anything.
All girls like different qualities in guys, that's where your friends come in. Have them find out what kind of guys she's dated in the past, and possibly why it didn't work out.
Good luck!
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