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to get over a guy i was with for 9 months. i still think about him when im not busy. i try to stay busy and since our break up i went on one date, which was like hell because he talked about his ex. lol but i need to get over my ex because i know he has already got over me, he told me himself. i dont look at our old pictures, i dont look at his myspace page, i dont call or text him or look at old memories of us. i just want to stop hurting. (link)
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i know how hard it is to get over someone that was a part of your life for a long amount of time.
there really isnt anything you can do, but in time, you'll get better.
its the truth, really.
one day you will wake up and just not think about him.
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why do guys give us the silent treatment? It has happened once I told him its a pet peeve of mine that he didnt mean to do it just had a lot on his mind, but its been 3 days since ive heard from him. whats the deal? (link)
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this is the truth,
guys do what guys want.
if the guy wants to talk to you, he will,
and if he doesnt, then he wont.
maybe he doesnt want to talk with you .
o.O
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I'm really sorry about the length, but I'm very detailed and it's hard for me not to be but I need help!
A bit over 3 weeks ago (and about a week before spring break) I admitted to my guy friend from school (we'll call him Nathan) that I liked him in sortof an unorthodox way (it was through text during chem class while he was sitting behind me, it was stupid but we;ve gotten past that). Nathan didn't respond and we didn't talk for a couple days but we started talking 2 or three days before break and the only thing i found out what that I pretty much scared the shit out of him, but that was the last time we spoke about it. A week ago we got back from break. The awkwardness is still sortof there but most of it has dissolved. Nathan's still nice to me and we've been joking around and being good friends more and more like we used to. But I was still upset that I never got a direct answer, and I wasn't happy with the idea of it never being brought up again. So I asked my friend (we'll call her Randi), who's also in our chem class and also his friend (they hang out a lot and stuff, he has several friends who are girls) to sortof bring up that she knew about what I did (because he didn't tell anyone, don't ask how i know i just do) and try to get his reaction about it and put the idea in his head. I told her not to tell him i asked, and he's pretty oblivious so he never would've figured it out on his own haha. So today Randi told me that she tried to make a conversation of it, but she really couldn’t because he’s not the type to talk about how he feels and what he’s thinking, and he’s not really easy to read either. (This is most likely why he didn’t respond when I told him)
Randi: So I know about how Mel (me) told you about how she likes you
Nathan: Yeah... she texted me about it that day
Randi: So did you text her back... (she knew the story, but he didn't know that she knew, that was the plan)
Nathan: No..
Randi: Well are you ever gonna say something/answer her? (I forgot which she said)
Nathan: ...I don't know
Randi: Well can you give me something and work with me here?
Nathan: ....I don't know
And as far as I know that's where the convo stopped. We were planning for her to say something like "I think you two would look good together", but obviously she couldn't get the convo to continue like we had planned. Anyway after she told me I was like "I don’t know what I wanna do now I mean i don't wanna be pushy you know?". And she was like "we should definitely wait a couple days." and i was like "yeah i want to do this in small doses". And i really do, I don't want to be pushy with him at all. So on my own I was thinking that on Friday i'm gonna have gym alone with Nathan since our other friend (we'll call her Tara) won't be there that day, so we'll sortof see what happens in a situation where were alone, which we haven't really had since i told him. And even though me and Nathan still have talked a lot i feel a bit disincluded from conversations recently when him and Tara talk. Another thing I kindof found interesting was that today he put So my two questions are: 1. I'm glad that he pretty much “I don’t know'ed” the situation instead of just saying that he doesn't feel the same way. I feel like that could mean something, what should I think of their conversation? Do i possibly have a chance? This never happens to me so i don't know this stuff very well. 2. What should my next step be? I definitely don't want to be too pushy, and I definitely want to do this in small doses. Like should I get her to get him to invite me somewhere when they hang out? (he has a car and knows where I live what we havent hung out yet, we're good friends but not as close as I wish we were aha) or should I get her to sortof bring it up again over the weekend or next week? I'm not quite sure I'm ready to talk to him about it myself but any suggestions would be good on what to do next.
*Please don't say things like "you shouldn't have told him you liked him so forwardly" or "give him time, he's probably just taken off guard. I already know these things, and that's not what I want to know.
Also another thing I kindof found interesting was in chem today (he sits behind me) he put his leg on this metal bar on the side of my chair, and it comes pretty close to me when he does that. This is the first time he's done this since I told him. Before I told him, he did this pretty much everyday, and I know he stopped because things were awkward. But doesn't it seem a little convenient that he started doing this the day after randi brought me up with him? I don’t know but anyway please help with my two questions! Once again I apologize for the length!
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based on what you've said, i really dont think that he likes you as anything more than a friend.
if he did like you, i think that he would have told you most likely because he wouldnt have had to be afraid of regection, since you had told him already.
i dont think that you should have your friend say things like " you guys look cute together" because that will just further embaress him, and he sounds like a more reserved and shy kind of guy.
i think it sounds like you guys are good friends, and maybe things should stay the way they are.
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K so I really love this guy and he loves me too (did i mention were datin?) Anyways weve never frenched yet but I want to.What should I do?! (link)
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dont sweat it too much,
its better if you just let it happen naturally,
and not over think it.
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I am 13 and female, and Im a little lost here... So there are these three boys, let's call them boy X, boy Y and boy Z. (Bky X may sound familiar to a few of you who have read my previous questions.)
Here it goes. See, I have had a crush on X for a looooong time (like 2 years!) and I am really close to him. I like him a lot and he understands me and, gosh, he is just perfect. However, even though he though he likes me too, he cannot date until he is 16 (as I said, I am 13, but he is 14 and thats like ANOTHER 2 years). Now, I just think I can wait that long, nor does he expect me to but I REALLY like him!!
Okay some of you have told me to just forget about X (yeah right, like I haven't tried and failed at THAT already..). But there IS this one boy, Y. Y is probably the most adorable and wonderful boys and I do, I honestly do really like him, and I want so badly for me to like him more than X, but I don't. I really want to like him because I know he would be a great guy for me and has shown an interest, but X is just... I don't know, X is just too perfect, even though our relationship won't go anywhere... And frankly, you can't control who you like... But if any of you know how you can, please, enlighten me!
Then there is Z. Z is very sweet (and kind of has a crush on me) and he knows how much I like X and also kinds of hates him because X can't date me. But I mean, X can't do anything about that, its his religion... Buy Z is always telling me how I can't wait around for X, but sometimes I wonder if Z just says that because he likes me... And Z says that if I was dating him that he would appreciate me and so on but, and i feel horrible saying this because Z really is a sweet boy, but I just don't like Z like that...
Ugh, I know, I know, this is all messed up. I don't know what to do! I really like X and I want things to work so much, because I know we would be perfect for eachother, but our relationship can't go anywhere, and thats not X's fault right?? But on the other side I feel horrible because I feel like I am leading Y on, and then there is the Z situation, and ugh. I just want to cry. Please help!! (link)
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chill out.
shit happends.
we move on.
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Lets say my BFs name is Blake.Well blake ....i dont think hes into me no more.He always talks about other girls,he always treats my like crap when his friends are around and, he just doesnt seem to care about me when im sad. I DONT want to break up with him ..I love him half to death but what should I tell him. (link)
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i say, act the same way around him.
just for maybe a week, dont talk to him as much as you usually do, let him say something to you first before you answer,
bring up a cute boy or two in a conversation
give him a taste of his own medicine.
but, in all honesty he sounds like a typical dude x/
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My significant other and I have been fighting a lot for the past month. I don't know whether to leave him alone or talk about it. He doesn't seem to want to talk about it, so i asked him if he wanted to break up, and he said he didn't want to do that either. What should I do? I really want to get my mind off of him, and this situation. What should I do. Talking to him about it is not an option right now. (link)
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I think the best thing to do in this situation is to take a little break from one another. Maybe, just one or two days. Do something that you enjoy doing. Like shopping, or going out with your friends. Something that will take your mind off of him. After you do this, you should deffinitly try and talk to him, about whats been going on. If he doesn't want to talk about it, then i dont think theres anything else you can do.
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