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Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

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What would be a good first job for a 16 year old male?

Think about a job in a field you are interested in pursuing a career. Many good paying jobs require education as well as science. So, you will be ahead of the game. For example, if you are interested in being a chef you could look into working for a high end restaurant that might pay for schooling and offer you chef position when you graduate. You could be a host, busser, or dish washer and work your way up. You could work in the mail room of a business you may be interested in working for after you graduate college. Doing so you can net work and get to know the hiring staff. Retail is always a good place for a teenager. You could work at one of your favorite clothing stores so you could get the latest fashions first at a discount. Plus, you could be promoted if you stick with it. You may be interested in working at the zoo or amusement park. I think it's great you want to get out there and earn your own money. Good luck.

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20/f

Okay so I started waiting tables about a year ago. At first, I loved it. Not only was I making crazy amounts of money, but I actually enjoyed my job. Now it seems as if I'm burnt out on it. I hate waking up each day to go to work and I can't even enjoy my days off because I know I'll have to go back soon. I've tried taking vacations, but that just makes me hate it even more. I feel stuck because I HAVE to make that kind of money in order to afford rent and other bills. I'm still in school so I'm not really qualified for jobs that make above minimum wage. As far as I can see, serving is as good as it gets for me. But I'm miserable. It's not that I'm lazy.. I just hate doing the same thing a hundred times a day. And I'm even GREAT at my job. I just hate it and I've honestly contemplated running away but then I realize I don't have the money! What other kinds of jobs are available, or what can I do to make myself happier with where I'm at?

You need something to look froward to. Save up for a great over-seas trip or find another job altogether. Sounds like burn out which is normal. Maybe it's time to just move on. See what else is out there for you that you may enjoy.If you don't have children this is the perfect opportunity to even apply out of state. Travel see what else is out there. Don't become depressed and find yourself miserable 10 years from now doing the same thing. It may be just as simple as changing your job burnt doing the same thing, Like a change in scenario you Know? I think you'll be fine just try out new adventures and avenues in your life while you can.

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i am being sincere i havent worked for like 2 1/2 years but the reason for that is because ive been at home taking care of my dayughter and im having a hard time with the employers cause it seems like it bothers them when i tell them i havent worked for that long should i lie to them

Do not, I repeat do NOT mention having young children at all. Although jobs are not supposed to discriminate, employers are quick to pass up on a mother with children. I know this first hand. They assume that if your child becomes ill or has appointments you will be calling in a lot. What you need to do is put the company name in bold and not the dates. You could also take out the months if for instance you worked until February of 2010 just put 2010. For the time gap you could add a "volunteer position or research project that relates to the job you are applying". For example if you are applying for a teaching position say that you were researching adolescent interpersonal relationships. Honestly in this economy 2 1/2 years is not a significant time of unemployment. I'm hesitant to believe that is the real issue. I wonder if they gather your work gap is due to having children because as I stated sharing that information is a sure way to not get hired. Good luck and hang in there.

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What kind of man decides to be a gynocologist?

A lot of men decide to go into the gynocology field for a number of reasons. Perhaps some have known a friend or family member who have suffered from cervical cancer or they may be very passionate about the treatment of women concerns as it relates to pregnancy or seeing out the health of an unborn child. It is a respectable career choice and it takes a trmendous about of work and determination to get to that point.

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17/f
I am a senior in high school and in march my boyfriend and I are going to get a place together. He is 23, makes 10.00 and hr. I make 8.00 an hr. The job I have (a local pizza place) well honestly sucks. The manager only make 9.00 an hour so I am pretty sure I don't have enough room to grow there. I do not want my boyfriend to be the one paying all the bills and we do not want to live paycheck-to-paycheck.I want to stay away from fast food jobs and jobs where I stand in one spot(I get dizzy) What can I do to provide an income for us?

YOu need to stay in school and go to college. Enjoy life because you will not be happy with the road you think you want to take. Believe me it is HARD out here. Even with a college degree jobs are hard to come by especially good paying ones. Focus on your education and enjoying life. If you can stay at home please do. There is so much out there for you to experience don't shut down your opportunities so soon. Go away to college and find out what life has to offer. Encourage your boyfiend to attend as well. A couple that both have their college degree will be much happier in the long ruin and life will be much easier than two people struggling just to put food on the table. While the idea of moving in and being together for ever sounds great it just doesn't work that way. Before you know it you may be pregnant stuck at home while he's out there trying to support three or more on $10 an hour. Finacial problems will easily destroy your relationship. Give you and your future a great start by focusing on education and knowing who you are before jumping into something you have no idea about.

Is everyone telling you to stay home???? There's a reason for that. We KNOW what we are talking about. You think you are depressed now. When you are broke at home alone with babies, no friends and a boyfriend you argue with everyday you will understand depressed and wish you had listened. Good luck :)

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So all summer long my moms been complaining about how I haven't gotten a job.

I'm getting really sick and tired of listening to her constantly complain and belittle me because she's jealous that I'm on summer vacation and get to stay home while she works.

Every summer she treats me like crap and it's pretty much like being grounded for 3 months and i'm tired of sitting around because she never lets me leave the house and listening to her scream and whine and complain about how I "never do anything" and she even told me earlier it pisses her off to see me not working when she is and that just seeing my face or hearing me talk makes her angry.

So I went to the Barnes and Noble Website and downloaded an Application and now i'm filling it out and I intend to send it to them and I think I have a better chance at getting the job then most people do since I have a pretty much perfect school record along with being a certified associate of Microsoft Office and the Adobe Suite (they ask on the resume if you know how to work with Microsoft Word).

My only worry is that I'm only 16 (minimum age) but in a month and 14 days i'm going to be 17. I'm very charismatic and I've been a counselor at a camp for the past few years during the summer so I know how to deal with people as well. I'm also a member of FBLA and have the Presidents Volunteer Award among other certificates and I've taken "Leadership Training".

I don't see how it could be a bad idea so I think I'm going to just go ahead and do it even though I haven't asked my mother. I mean she's the one who always complains about me sitting at home "doing nothing" and has told me on multiple occasions that I need to get a job.

I'm filling my resume out on the computer so everything will be neat and tidy but I want to know, should I should put all of my achievements down on an extra sheet of paper and attach it to my resume or would that be overkill?


Any advice helps :)

Since you have never worked I would suggest putting as much info as you can. Honestly, I think you are doing a great job already without getting summer employment. You seem very intelligent and have already acheived more than a lot of adults. I really don't see a need for you to work this summer. You have the rest of your life to worry about that. What about going to a summer camp: basketball, swimming, or other fun activity? If your mother can pay all the bills on her salary why work at 16? I wouldn't.

Answer me this question though: When you are at home do you eat, lay around, mess up and never clean up. As a mother of three boys and a husband when I walk in the door from a long day and they are laying around with trash everywhere not helping with household chores I get mad too. Perhaps if you help out more around the house, cook your mom dinner a couple times here and there and give her time to settle in before you ask her something she will have a happier attitude towards you.

The simplest things can make a world of difference. If it's hot outside make her a giant cup of ice water have her favorit show on TV when she walks through the door. Then leave her alone for awhile. Once she rests up go to her and tell her how much you appreciate her and love her. Make her one of those little kiddy cards with a red construction paper heart. lol I'm serious..

Back to the resume. If you want you can send me the information you have and I will make you a resume. Let me know and good luck :)

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I am a 13 yearold girl who loves clothes, shoes and all that stuff. :) I need a job and modeling would be really fun and exciting cause I love to try on clothes. Modeling for magazines and websites. Runway would be a little too much and scary for me but if anyone knows good places to or how to get started. That would help and is appreciated. (: the closet big city to me would probably be Boston, MA. so if anyone knows some places or some people that are for real. Please give me there name, what they need, how i can meet them, if there's a cost and everything else needed to know about it. Thanks ! :)

My suggestion for you is to actually get a portfolio made. You are going to want a reputable photographer take a LOT of different and unique photos of you. You want to show that you are diverse and can give the look the client is looking for. You need to research what they are looking for and get some pictures that fit that discription. Once you have a good portfolio done you need clothes. You need an array of different types of clothing from simple and elegant to out landish plus a good pair of heals. Then you need to go to NY and go to as many agencies that you can find and literally knock on their doors and prove yourself. Let me give you an example: You want to do a Macy's commercial or print ad. You contact Macys and ask what agency they go through to find their talent. They will give you the name and so you call the agency and set up a time to show your portfolio or you can go straight to the agency and knock on the doors yourself.

As far as money- if anyone asks for money DO NOT GIVE THEM ANY MONEY. You are going to be working for someone and they are to give you money. The only money you need to shell out is for your pictures. Even if they tell you it's just a one time fee or a small fee or you can make payments. It is a SCAM!!

On the other side of things, you can not show any client that you are afraid to do runway or anything else. Whatever they ask tell them you can do it with confidence. Suck up those nerves and DO IT. Don't be afraid, you will be fine.

There is one exception to this rule. NEVER EVER pose nude for anyone no matter what. Even when you are 25 years old, if that is what they are looking for you tell them "your body is worth more than money" then run away. Never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or that you would be ashamed for your mother to see. You are a wonderful girl and you must command respect from yourself and everyone else.

Now back to the NY trip. Be prepared to be there for a good month.( this summer would be great) These things take time and once everything falls into place be prepared to move. Don't let the agency know you are from out of town until you have signed the contract. They are more likily to choose someone local over an out of towner.

I wish you the best of luck!

P.S. check out this website http://www.wilhelmina.com/divisions_kids.cfm

Below is the direct link to apply

http://www.wilhelmina.com/become_model_submit_photos.cfm

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