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ok so this is getting really crazy i'm a 13 year old girl and i'm in 8th grade and there is a guy i really like and that i see every single day and i'm always mad when he's not at school anywho theres this other guy i kinda like and he new he's really cool but some of my friends dont like him cause he's bi but whatever moving on and then theres this other guy i like but he's dating one of my friends and it's soooo frustrating likeing all these guys is it wrong for me to be likeing alll of them i mean teh first on i mentioned i really like and his friends have asked me out for him twice now but i said no the first time and nothing the secind the second time cause i thought they were joking cause i dont think he would ever like me but then all my friends think ehe likes me and i told myself i would forget all about this cause i cant talk to him cause i feel so incredibly stupid and well yeha i need help my friends think he like me for alot of reasons but one is because the first tiem his friend asked me the guy i like was sitting right behind me and i said no and then the guy i liked seemed kind of upset and his friends were like oh i know whats wrong errrr some help i'm so confused (link)
no it's not wrong for you to like all those guys at once it's perfectly normal for a 13 year old.i think you should go out with the first guy and if you feel stupid about asking him,why don't you send one of your friends to ask him.if you wanna go with the second guy it's your choice don't worry if your friends like him or not their not the ones that like him


a few months ago my best friend max transferred schools. he was a great guy and i miss him so much. he spent his last day just hanging out with me, and i didnt even know he'd be gone. the day i found out i was so depressed. i started crying in school. everytime i think about him i cry!! i secretly liked him as more than a friend and the sad thing is, i KNOW he liked me too, but then i heard from this girl she was going out with him. and i guess i have to believe it. nobody else can tell me really. unless i asked and that would be sooooooo intimidating to anyone!! weeks ago i thought i was over him but just now i thought of how he used to look at me. one time in the hallway he was on his way to english and i was going to geography and he was staring at me so i looked back then he tripped. i cant get him out of my head. i've had dreams about it, ive been crying for so long and i'm sick of it!!!!!!
help!!! (link)
i think you should instead of rushing up to somebody and asking if max goes out with that girl,you should start talking about him and start breezing pass his relationships in the past and then start thinking out loud and question your self asking i wonder who the new girl is.you have to find your own way of forgetting about him cause everybody thinks differently,i know this might not be something you wanna hear but i can't give you advice on how to get over somebody cause i don't know you.i had the same problem and writing poetry helped me get over my guy,you just need to find something that will work for you.


he is a sweetheart
he is 17 soon to be 18
he is a senior
and im a freshman and im 15
i loike him a lot
i got over him and now i like him again
we were kinda going out
but then yeah . . .
it all went from there
haha
but yeahh

today it was raining and he asked me if i wanted a ride home .
and i was like uh no its ok and he was like come on its ok
and my friend was coming over to my house
and he is a sweetheart
and he gave her a ride to my house also
i reallly like him
and he supposrts me and i support him
but yeah
we only hugged in the past
haha
but today
i gave him a hug saying thanks for the ride
. . .
and he gave me a hug
and i thought he wanted a kisss.
and now i regret not kissing him
iono
i reallly like him
but i hate the fact that he is a senior
but i know he will wait for me
he loves me and i love him too
he really is awesome
its just
i feel like a regret not kissing him

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your not a regret you should never regret anything cause everything happen for a reason.you should try when your more comfortable in the situation cause if you were really comfortable you would have kissed him.


we've have been dating for a few months and im a bit confused. we live really far away, around 3 and 1/2 hours away and i always told him that if it became too much, just to let me know and we'll be friends. he always said "no no its fine i love you blah blah" and that was that. ive been trying to fly out a few times but something goes wrong. the last time i broke my rib and i couldn't go see him. he was really angry because he wanted to see me, but i broke something! he always gets pissed off and i dont know what to say. im the one who gets blamed. on vday he said happy vday and thats it. basically he ignored me. i tried talking to him and then he kept asking "why are you in a bad mood". i told him that he was completely ignoring it and he said "well we arent even together so why celebrate it its stupid". i just thought he can at least talk to me or be nice. again, i said well if you have any problems tell me and we wont date but then he goes into no no i dont want that. is he being a jerk or what?? does he just not really like me like he says?? (link)
yes he's being a jerk i say dump him it seem like he don't wanna break up with you because where he is he has another girl there.alot of guys like to think of themselfs as players or pimps when they have to girlfriends that know nothing of each other.if he wants to be rude not appreciate you then why do he deserve to keep you.if he truly love you as he say he won't let you slip away from his life that easy


i've been going to my new school for about a week now. and i'm quite literally, the only girl in my class.

i want a perspecitve, on a boy thing. i'm thirteen, and i'm a girl, but i'd bet that's no surprise.

basically, on my first day of school, this boy was very helpful to me and since, then he's been talking to me and playing around with me in gym. more specifically:

apparently this boy used to fall asleep for a while every morning, and since i've been there, he hasn't.

he's asked me constantly how i think my new school is, and told me pretty in depth what he wants to be when he grows up. like a heart to heart thing.

Multiple classmates (and even a teacher) give him crap about how he's pretended he's had balls, in their words, since i've come to school.

By the way he reacts to everything the class says, he either hates that everyone think he likes me, or he really really does like me. I think he's really sweet, i just can't tell what he wants, or why he seems to like me so much. Or if he even likes me at all. (link)
he probably likes you or he don't want you to make friends with any of the other guys in your class.perhaps he likes you for your looks or cause he see something special something different in you that he hasn't seen in any1 b4


(14/f)[warning: some people may find this question absolutely absurd.]

I've been good friends with a guy I'll call "A" for a couple of years. We ended up switching to the same school, so at the begining of the year we became even closer friends because we knew no one else at our new school. The thing is, now that people have come to know him, there's a lot of girls that litteraly follow him around the school. For example: My friends and I (including A)eat lunch in one of the hallways at school. For the first few weeks we were the only ones there. Now though it's almost impossible to talk to "A" because of due to the absurd amount of giggling girls(20 or so at the last count) that now go there on a regular basis(all of them sitting as close to A as humanly possible, makes it hard to move in the hallway.. sigh).

Oh, I should probably mention that no, I'm not paranoid :P. As soon as he leaves the hallway, some of the girls remark stuff like "Oh my god!!!Did you guys see that! He LOOKED at me, he sooo likes me!!"then proceed to follow him to wherever he went.

So I'm still deciding whether I should be feeling sorry for him or try and knock some sense into him for not noticing. And how would it be possible to at least diminish the amount of fangirls at lunchtimes(besides screaming"BOMB!") Any ideas? (link)
you can try to pursuade him to start saying he got a girlfriend already and that he really likes her and that type of stuff.and if he didn't noticing you should knock some sense into him for being so stupid either that or know he's blind for not seeing all the fiends following him.but you should feel a bit sorry for him though that's like every guys dream to have bunches of girls follow them everywhere but he sounds different he sound like he has a dream for jus one girl not 20


Well, I got my report card a few weeks ago, and I had all A's.. BUT ONE B. I worked so hard! And guess what.. It was in Gym. So, because of that, I didn't get high honor roll. My mom already had a conference with them, but I still got a B, because apparently "I don't try hard enough." & I argued by saying that mostly everyone playing were guys (the girls don't do anything) & how I can't play against guys because that's not fair & that a lot of times I didn't feel good (to which the teacher said he could run a mile on two hands if HE didn't feel good - whatever), and blah blah blah. I guess the teacher just doesn't like me that much. Anyway, there's nothing to do about it anymore I guess. I will try harder next time, but I'm a perfectionist..

SO my question is: How can I get over it? It just pisses me off so much! (link)
well im not tryin to offend you but you have a crappy excuse jus cause your a guy that don't mean anythin.imma girl and i can beat the crap out of all the boys in my school and imma small person.so maybe you should try to go against the boys for all you know you could be better than them.so to get over it try goin up against the boys in gym if you want that A.then go get a note from your doctor and quit complainig like a whiney brat


Okay.I really like this guy. we've known each other for about 3 and a half months. Everyone thinks we would be a great couple. We talk alot at school but barely have anything to say on the phone.So my question is can someone give me the longest list of questions they can think of of conversation starters. Please. (link)
it always come down to wat kinda guy he is if he like sports talk about sports.like electronics talk about electonics.get wat im sayin


well i think the reason me and my boyfriend are fighting is cause of my ex. im not just tryna blame it on him im serious. cause he ims my boyfriend and stuff and says stuff like oh im on the phone with caitlin even tho were not. and like on new years he was like yo i got your girl in my bed and i was like not even in his room, and he tells other people stuff and they all tell my boyfriend. and then my boyfriend thinks i like him and my ex is just ruining everyhing =[. also today was my boyfriends birthday and i completly forgot because last night we were fighitng and my mind was just somewhere else. so hes also mad at me for that. he also thinks i avoid him? i love him very much and im going to be crushed if anything happens. he signs on everytime he gets mad and he wont answer his phone. if i leave messages he wont call back. i dont know what to do. ive tried talking to him but its just not working. HELP FAST! (link)
your ex is probably tryna ruin your new realationship cause he wants you back(if he dumped you)or he wants revenge(if you dumped him)so tell your boyfriend that your ex means nothin to you and tell him da only reason why he's tryna break you guys up is because he's JEALOUS and dat neva again will you go back out wit such a dumbass and if he don't wanna listen make him listen!tell him da way he's actin is childish and stupid and dat wat you need to talk to him about is vital to you two.and if dat don't work you can threaten him (not wit death or sumthin dat will hurt him really physically)mainly when guys hear their girlfriend threaten them for a first time and it's real bad dey usually listen.




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