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K so I'm 13, in 7th grade, (girl) and all my friends (girls) are like all prude, but I would like to grind and make out with people that I'm not dating but all my friends would judge me. We have parties all the time so there's a lot of grinding going on. I didn't grind at the last party because my parents were invited but in school today my friend and I were joking around and I ended up in front of him against the wall and he started grinding me without holding my waist and now everyone is making a huge deal out of it and calling me a slut and I feel horrible but I really want to do stuff like grind! Am I being a slut and should I feel bad??? (link)
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Ask yourself, was it ok that your friend started grinding on you in the hallway? You need to have boundaries of your personal space and your body. It is not ok to have a guy 'grind' on you at school. While it may all seem ok right now because its only grinding you are sending the message that you are willing to do what the boy wants. You starting to have the normal teen hormones but you need to learn that while it feels good it means so much more. You can take care of your needs when you are alone.
Its not being a prude by not grinding its about having self respect.
If it not something you would do in front of your parents then it really isn't something you should be doing when they aren't around.
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how do you tell someone who likes you, you like them but dont want a really big relationship as they are your best friend? i know its a kind of complicated question but if you could answer it thankyou sooo much...btw dont say 'just tell him you like him' cause i've tried that...its too hard... 13/f ^_^ (link)
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If you have tried and the person is basically ignoring what you are saying then you need to look at why you don't want a 'really big relationship'. If this person is your best friend and you enjoy spending time with them then you have already have a good base for a great relationship.
If things are starting to get weird because the other person wants more than you are going to put some distance between you and the other person, its the only way to get your point across without being really mean.
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I am a female in my mid twenties. One of my best friends is dating my boss's ex boyfriend. My boss and her ex were together for at least 5 years, and they are still really good friends. My boss's ex knows me because I sometimes hang out with my best friend and him. I know that my boss knows her ex is dating someone new, but I do not know if my boss knows that I am a really good friend of this person. My gut tells me she probably has a good idea. I feel like I am being deceitful to my boss by not acknowledging the fact that my best friend is dating her ex. I am going to be working on a big project with my boss soon, and I am afraid it is going to feel like there is a giant elephant in the room when we work together. Should I talk to her about my friend's relationship with her ex or just keep my mouth shut? (link)
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Keep your mouth shut. Do not talk about your boss and her ex to anyone in the office. If you boss brings it up, be professional and say something along the lines of 'Oh I wasn't sure that was the same person' and don't tell her anything about the relationship that he is currently in with your friend. Its best to keep your personal life out of the office.
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