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I'm 16 and I love drawing, listening to music and hanging out with my friends. My family and friends always tend to come to me for advice or support because I'll try to help no matter what. I like to help and offer friendship to those who need it and I'm always willing to give time to answer a question someone needs help with.

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hey my name is shayla and im twelve and a few days ago my friend has being avoiding me and i dont know why i just dont know why and im wondering if u could give me some advice on what i should do??
thanks

Hmmm, have you tried talking to her? Something might be bothering her and maybe she just doesn't know how to confront you about it, you should definitely try confronting her. Try not to just catch her on the spot, tell her that it seems like she's been avoiding you lately and you just wondering if you had done something to offend her. Give her time and hopefully she'll talk to you about it, if she doesn't wish to speak to you about the reason in which she is avoiding give her some space.
I really hope I could help:)

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Hey. Ok, so I'm 15/F. So here's the background story. Last year in 8th grade, I really liked this guy, we'll call him..Jim. Ok so I reallyyyyy liked him and we had all of our classes together. And later on I found out that he liked me. But we both never atmited it to each other. And he had a girlfriend so that was a factor also. Then a little more than half-way through the year, one of my best friends, we'll call her...Jenna, she started to like him. I was really mad because she knew I liked him. So they were going to start going out, even though he had a gf, he was going to break up with her for Jenna. Haha, it's really not as bad as it sounds, the whole him breaking up with her for Jenna. But w/e. But Jim and Jenna never went out. So skippin by a little bit to this year, freshman year in highschool. So at the begging of the year, Jim and I didn't have that many classes together. But we still talked every once and a while. And he was going out with someone, but they broke up. Skipping to now. Ok, so here's my problem. I STILL LIKE HIM, A LOT. And he's dating someone!! And he seems really happy. And I always try to tell myself I'm happy for him, but seriously, idc how corny this sounds, my heart is telling me that I still reallyyy like him, and my head's telling me I don't. But he always makes fun of me in a joking way, but idk, it kinda hurts my feelings. But yet I still like him. I'm CRAZY! And I really want to tell him. But I don't want to ruin anything between him and his gf now. I probably woudn't but still. I don't know what to do! Everytime I see him I think about all the fun times we had together in 8th grade and stuff. And I try to tell myself to stop living in the past, but it never works! So please! What should I do???? If he ever breaks up with her, I might tell him, but idk. I'm not to good around guys. I suck at talking to them for some reason. I reallly think i'll never have a bf. It makes me sad! My friends tell me that I will someday. But that's just not happening. Please help! Thanks. Sorry if this was so long!

Okay, do you still talk to this guy a lot?Hang around with him out of school, that sort of thing, if not you should,if you are already that's already a great step. The trick is to find out as much about him as possible(not in a stockerish way) but as a friend, try seeing the difference between the way he acts around you compared to the way he acts around other girls. If there's not that big a difference then it's possible he may like you, but don't get your hopes too high, it's hard not to but really try. It's hard having a crush, believe me, I know but you said you're in your freshman year, you've still got sooooo much time to like guys to have them like you, to go out with guys...don't worry talking to guys might seem like the hardest thing in the world, but you'll get use to it, try be-friending more guys throughout highschool. Now about this guy you're stuck on right now, try not to let this over power every though in your mind, if it already has, try distracting yourself by going for walks, listening to music, write a journal. For now just try being really good friends with this guy, with time you might become more than friends with him or you might not but belive me, there are so many great guys out there you'll be sure to find one. For now just keep your true friends close and enjoy life throughout highschool!
Hope I could help, good luck!

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ive been dating my guy for 6 months and his ex has been in the way so i told him to tell her to knock it off. so yesterday he tells me they went to dinner so they can come to a conclusion. earier today he sent me a message saying that he wanted to talk to me. and when i tried to get in contact with him. he wouldnt answer my texts. and when i called it went straight to voice mail. is he cheating on me with his ex? do you think he's losing his love for me? or am i just being paranoid?

Well first of all try not to come to any conclusions until you get some answers out of him. Yeah he shouldn't rreally be hanging with his ex, but if he's sincere to you, seeing her once and a while isn't so bad. But ask yourself this..Did he tell you he was going out to dinner with her before he actually did so? If not..then you definetly should start questionning his feelings for him, because if he's sneeking around, he's soooo not worth it!
Hope things work out for you and I hope I could help=D

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I have no confidence whatsoever in myself...none!
Is there any way i can fix this?
what are some positive things i can think?

It's hard to carry confidence in yourself but you have to try. After all you have to live with you and only you for the rest of your life. Just try thinking positive things about yourself. If you think anything negatively about your appearence, change that, look at yourself and tell yourself that you're pretty, know that there is no such thing as being "ugly" because everyone is beautiful to someone. Also remember this nobody is nobody, so don't ever think that you mean nothing. You've just got to keep positive thoughts in your head, it takes a while but eventually it will come naturally.
Good luck and I hope I could help!

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