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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Hiya,
My mum has a vibrator & I reach climax with it ever time, I feel so bad because it's her's! I'm 13, is there anything I can you use in the same way?
I would advise never using your mom's again. That's unsanitary and kind of gross. If you & your mom are close, ask her to buy you one. If you aren't, find a trusted person who can. If i'm thinking correctly you can by "egg vibrators" at Spencer's in the mall. I'm not sure if you have to be over 18 to get them though. Try using fingers or the shower head next time.
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how long do you have to wait after having sex to take an accurate pregnancy test?
Usually 5-7 days after your first missed period. Or with the new EPT Certainty test, up to 7 days before.
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me and my boyfriend live far away, and I won't see him to later this summer. He always asks for me to talk dirty to him, which I've done before but sometimes I feel like he's going to get bored with it. Are there any ideas anyone could give me? Thanks.
I can't have phone sex with my boyfriend. I don't know why, but I just can't do it. But far be it from me to tell you not to. If you talk dirty to this boy, he's NOT going to get bored with it. He's a guy. Keep doing what you're doing, but make sure you are into just as much as he is. And ask him to say dirty things to you as well.
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13/f
i am NOT even close to wanting to have sex but i always wandered can you have sex when your off your period and not get pregnant or have sex when your on your period and not get pregnant or if you jus flat out have it can you get pregnant either way..also can u get pregnant by givin head and a man cum in your mouth??
P.S. im not talkin about not gettin pregnant by condoms or birth control
I used to think if you swallowed cum you could get pregnant too, but it's not true. Pinky promise =]
You can get pregnant at anytime by having sex though. And by sex I mean intercourse. It really doesn't matter if you are or aren't on your period, you can still get pregnant.
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dose a yeast infection cause you to NOT have your period?
not that i know of. i've always had mine during a yeast infection.
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I dont want to do it but can you have sex when you havent even started your period or will it hurt more or what.?
thanx :]
You can have sex at anytime. It wouldn't be a good idea to have sex if you haven't started your period and it would still hurt like a bitch, but it's very much possible.
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When are you supposed to give a guy head? Like during makeing-out, just go down or what?
And when he has a boner,is that when u do it or before he has one you do it?
whenever he asks you too. or whenever you have the sudden urge to go down on him. don't overthink it. a guy won't care when you do it, he'll just be glad it was done.
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okay well last night my boyfriend and i were having sex... we've been together for almost a year and love each other alot... my mom knows we're sexually active, and is okay with it because she knows we both love each other. okay so we were doing it... and we felt like a pop... so he pulled it out, and sure enough, it was broken. and i don't mean like a little hole, like actually broken- like it snapped and rolled back down his penis. it only went inside of me maybe 2 times (thats what he says, but i don't even think it was in once) and yeah the condom was completely off... it was hanging on to his penis by that little ring. so my period's due in a couple weeks, and i don't know if i should get an emergency contraceptive. my mom says don't; it's not necessary... my boyfriends freaking out, and i really don't know WHAT to do. also, he didn't cum inside of me or at all, but there was precum. i think it broke cause the condom was too small... he did have trouble getting it on. so does anyone know what i should do? THANKS SO MUCHH!!! ♥
most likely the condom did break because it was too small. for future reference be sure to always take extra precautions before having sex. for instance, making sure the condom comfortably fits, checking for tears or rips beforehand, making sure it hasn't gotten overheated or out of date, etc. that way you won't have any problems like this in the future.
if you feel taking an emergency contraceptive will make you feel more comfortable or if you feel personally that you may become pregnant, go ahead and take it. it can't hurt anything, in can only help.
also, if your mom is ok with you having sex [mine is also] have her put you on birth control. it's free at the health clinic.
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Ok, on the weekend I had my 2 best guy mates over and my best girl mate. I've known for a long time that one of my guy mates who I will call Ben likes me and if I was single I would probably like him back. But I have a boyfriend. So I had them over and my girly friend and the other guy went off and Ben went and lied down on my mum's bed coz he was feeling sick(we were all very drunk). I went and lied with him because I was bored with no-one to talk to. We fell asleep in the early hours after a nice talk. Next thing I know I wake up and he's moaning my name and grinding himself against my butt and leg. I was still half asleep so I just rolled over and went back to sleep...Wake up I don't know how long later and he's trying to finger me. I moved and went back to sleep again and nothing more happened.I didnt really think much of it the next morning coz I was so tired and hungover but i've been thinking about it now and it makes me sick! I told my boyfriend and he wants me to go to the police and if not he wants his name and number and shit so he can get him bashed!! But the thing is, I dont blame Ben becoz he was drunk and here I am lying next to him, it mustve been pretty tempting because he does like me, and the thing is I don't blame him! But I know the right thing to do is go to the police...Please Help me :S
If I were in your situation, I would probably just leave it alone. I would tell my boyfriend [which you've already done] and then leave it at that. Because in all honestly, what can the police do? Nothing. You were both drunk, there is no solid proof that this happened, and the police are going to seriously mess up your emotional world with questions and shit. If you feel talking to the police will help you or make you feel better, that's fine. But if it isn't that large of a deal to you, I would just drop it.
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hi, i was wondering, how big/wide does the guy have o be to pleasure the girl (like for it to feel good for her/moaning etc.)
Size doesn't matter. Skill does.
How do you get skill? You practice, let loose, and enjoy yourself. That simple.
Many say you have to have a large penis to pleasure a girl, and this is so not true. Girls are all different in many areas, and pleasure just happens to be one of them. Some like big penises, they think it feels better. Others hate them because they think they cause discomfort. It's mainly up to the girl. So don't stress.
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i have like a school dance thing coming up and like i need help learned how to grind. if someone can just help explain it to me ill rate u high anddd really aprreciate it. but please just dont tell me i stick my butt into their penis and move it all around. i need more help like where exactly to put my hands, how to move my butt in a motion and what to do with my feet.
If anyone on this site gives you advice on how to literally grind, and you end up going to this dance and thinking about what they told you, you will look incredibly dumb. The thing about dancing is you don't think about it at all. You just get into the music, and your body basically does the rest. Sounds to me like you basically have the genderal idea, so just apply what you already know to your getting out there and just having fun, and viola! You're grinding, and the guy is in heaven. The most important thing to remember is to not think. If you think about what you're doing, you'll end up feeling stupid. Besides, everyone around you is to busy having a good time to even recognize certain people's inability to dance. So who cares what you look like?
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I gave my boyfriend a blow job and then he fingered me afterwards can i get pregnant from that
no.
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how would you sit when having sex?
I don't understand what you're asking?
The guy can sit up against something, and you just strattle your legs around him. I doubt the girl could sit while having sex, unless of course her & her partner were very talented.
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Name: Melissa
Age: 16
Hello, how is everybody.. I have a very weird question.. Ok well my boyfriend and I have intercourse and he fingures me, well i cant squirt or spray or what ever they call it.. Are all people able to do it? because im totally lost. i've been crying for days with confusion...Im soo depressed. He thinks he isnt pleasuring me but i love it soo much but he doesnt understand then we get into an arguement for days because he tells me he just wont do it anymore because of me not being able to squirt or whatever.. Please i need to know WHY i cant and if theres a reason why some people dont please tell me WHY also, because i am very emotional right now and its very hard to deal with.. My boyfriend is soo upset with me and doesnt really want to talk to me so i dont know what to do.. im so confused=( PLEASE HELP ME I WILL VERY APPRECIATE IT..
I don't really know what you mean by "squirting". If you're talking about actually spraying out liquid, then don't worry. Not many girls can do that. It takes a lot of practice, and if your boyfriend is going to get mad about it, that's really dumb. If you really want to attempt this, what you need to do it relax completely. When you feel the urge to pee, don't hold back. Instead, push. Some girls really can't orgasm like this, and you may be one of them. If your guy can't accept this, get a new guy.
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hi i am 15 years old, and i am intrested on starting to masturbate, how shoulkd i start off?
http://coolnurse.com/masturbation_howto.htm
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me and my boyfriend have sex and he tried fingering me and i havent squirted before and im scared cus i havent before like i love how it feels i just cant reach that point, then he feels bad because he thinks he does it wrong but thats not the case at all.. PLEASE HELP ME=( i cannot get it off my mind..
and im a female and 16...
Squirting is often uncommon, and many women can't or won't do it. It's normal, so both of you should know that. On the other hand, if you're talking about having an orgasm, make sure he knows it's not his fault. Sex can be very pleasurable without orgasming for girls, and for a lot, it takes quite a bit to do it.
The more you think about it, the more you stress, and the less likely chance that you'll get off. Sooo, don't think about it.
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me and this on girl have kind of had sex like 3 times about a month later i have been getting these lumps by the pantie line of my vagina. i can squeeze them and it is like a zit. they are the size of dimes and come and go weekly. is this is std?
It could be. But that doesn't mean it is, so don't worry just yet. If you shave your vagina, you may just have razor burn, or an infested/ingrown hair. Or it could just be a zit, you can get them anywhere, really.
The best advice I can give you is to go to a doctor and find out. It's the only way to know for sure.
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(14/f)
When do you think is the right age to give head to a guy?
If you knew him for a long time?
My friend told me it would ruin my life if i do it
Suggestions PLEASE!
There is no correct age to do any sort of sexual anything. It's all about when you're ready, and how far you want to go.
If you want to give a guy head, then go for it. If you don't, then don't. It doesn't get much simpler than that.
It's not going to ruin your life, but just to be on the safe side, if you don't know if this guy has an STD or not, use a condom. Flavored ones are nice for head.
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i heard a power nap is like 20 minutes and its more refreshing then like an hour nap
well i take naps after school cause i get EXTREMELY STRESSED and TIRED so i like to sleep but i usually sleep for like 3-8 then i do homework than i cant sleep till 1AM and i feel so tired during the day at school
i have alot of homework so i cant sleep and i heard power naps make you feel energized is it true?
should i take a power nap and put my alarm clock for 20 minutes later ? then wake up at do my homework?
That may work for some people, but it doesn't for me AT ALL. When I wake up after sleeping for only about 20 minutes, my body is weak and usually I fall right back to sleep because of it. It makes me feel so drousy and cranky, but if you want to try it, it may have a different effect on you.
My advice is to not take a nap when you come home. I understand your tired and stressed, but taking a nap no matter how short, and then going to bed for the rest of the night is difficult. Do your homework as soon as you get home. Then keep your mind off sleeping and work around the house, study extra, or whatever. Get all you can accomplished. Then try going to bed early. Like, around 9 or something. This will most likely make you feel better for the rest of the day at school.
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I have been on the pill for 2 almost 3 years and it was working good then a couple of months ago my period started coming early and that was fine cause it would come on the week it was supposed to. Then 3 weeks ago i started my next pack of pills and iwas only takeing them for a week and a day and i got my period. i didnt go all the way through it just stopped then it was gone for a day or 2 and then it came back again and i lasted a day and then went away then it went a way for a the rest of the week and now i am on my 3rd week of pills and i have my period AGAIN and im not supposed to. Can someone please tell me what is going on im scared and jsut want to know what to do. PLEASE. . .
I know i have to go to the doctor but i dont have insureance to do so at the moment or i would go to the doctor.
I've been on the pill for about a year and a half now, and that happened to me just recently. It's called "Break-through bleeding." It's not a good thing, but it's not fatal or anything either, so don't stress out. A number of things can cause this, and when you go to the doctor, they'll explain these things to you. They may put you on a different brand of birth control, or make some other simple changes to stop this from happening again. You don't need insurance to go to a health clinic. That's where I went when it happened to me. It's completely free, so mention this to your mom/parent.
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