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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Im 15/m
I just shaved my pubic hair (all of it, but not my legs, stomach or chest) because my girlfriend was doing it so we decided to both do it. It was actually pretty easy, it didn't hurt (I have really not sensitive skin, I don't even have to use shaving cream). So it was fine and really smooth for the night after I shaved it, but now it's starting to get stubble and starting to itch. A website said that I can't shave it again for a week, but I don't think I can wait that long, it's really really itchy and it looks really weird with the stubble. Does anyone know what will happen if I shave it again tonight or later on in the week without waiting? Also any other advice to lessen the itch?
I'm a girl, but i'm sure the skin thing is the same for everyone.
You aren't supposed to shave day after day because your skin gets irritated. If you've ever noticed, if you wait like 3 weeks before shaving it again, it's incredibly smooth. If you do it day after day, it gets red, itchy, and bumpy. It's not weird, it just means your skin is irritated from the shaving. Perfectly normal. To keep the bumps away, right after shaving put baby oil on it. Then keep lotion on it then after. The itching really isn't avoidable, but it usually only stays for a few days.
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ok this summer i lost my virginity but he wasnt
hard..... we tried everything: blowjobs, masterbating....etc.
so we said screw it and tried to do it while he was soft after what seemed like for ever his dick finally went in, then we heard a pop and we thought it was my pussy, but i didnt feel anything so he pulled it out and the condom exploded, and i was bleedin........ so did i pop even though it was only in for like a few seconds? did i lose my virginity or not????
This question was poorly worded, and used very unappropriate words. Next time you have a question about sex, words such as vagina & penis would be a better choice. Promise ;)
To answer your question, if you experienced bleeding, most likely you ripped your hymen. But there is no way of really knowing. If a penis went into your vagina, you aren't a virgin. Simple, right?
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i plan early i know but i want to know what i should to for halloween..not meaning to brag but i'm pretty good looking 5'8" long blonde hair (can be curly or straight depending on if i blow dry it) and i don't want to buy a costume cuz they look cheap and crappy..i don't know what i want to be but i want to be something flattering/sexy and maybe make my own costume or use stuff i already have/stuff i can buy at the mall..any ideas??
There is a huge difference between looking flattering, and looking like a slut. Just remember that. Don't go to overboard. I hate girls who do that, they look trashy.
You could be a bunny. I as well liked the fairy & devil idea. If you want, you could be an angel instead.
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All i usually do with my hair is straighten it and put it in a ponytail. What are some other cute ways to do your hair (other than wearing it down, putting it up in a ponytail and french braids)? My hair is reddish/brown (auburn) with some random blonde in it also, and a little longer than my shoulders. And if it helps, i usually wear sporty clothes.
Basically you can leave it down, put it in a ponytail, where piggy tails, do it have up and half down, and that's about it.
But there are many cute things you can do with each. If you wear it down straight, put a cute zig zag part in your hair. Or scrunch it.
Put a barrette in it, and leave it straight.
Make a side part, or wear cute piggy tails.
Just get creative with it.
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I am probably getting a dog if this week with her works out (I have another dog already and we have to see if they get along well... so far they are fine together.) She looks very German Shepherd but she's small. She's very quiet and sweet. I can't think of a good name for her though. Here is her picture:
http://img503.imageshack.us/img503/3264/puppyto2.jpg
My mom likes the name Maggie for her but I'm not sure it really suits her. Any ideas?
My dog's name is Bella. (Isabella technically)
When I first looked at the picture, the name Roxie game to mind. I don't know why, but I think it just suits her well.
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I met this guy on myspace from a friend. We talked on im alot. Then talked on the phone for hours. And finally we got to see each other at the movies. We had fun and everything he's a year younger then me but he is very mature for his age really he is. He's not nasty , he cares about other people, say's really sweet things. That was a week before school started now i don't know. I let him talk to his friends of course we mind our own buisness, but now we don't talk like we used to. I like him I think I possibly even love him because he's wonderful different from all the other guy's. To me he's well.. perfect. Anyways why do you think we don't talk as much as we use to? In your opinion and I trust him with alot of stuff and he trust's me also. And I can't get him out of my mind all I think about is him and his voice. Me and him can be so real with each other. He doesn't even ask me to do anything sexually with him. And we use to be best friends I think we still are but I don't know. Do you think in your opinion I love him? He's wonderful and everything I can just write about him all day.
why do you think we don't talk as much as we use to? thank you very much with your opinions.
I think it doesn't matter what I think. Whether I believe you love him or not is irrelevant. What matters is if you do. Do you think you love him? If you answer yes, than you probably do.
Now that school started back you probaly won't talk to him as much. It's normal.
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15/f.
Two guy's like me and I like them both. My bestfriend told me they both are going to ask me out. One is really sweet and very nice. 2 is nasty (but I like that). I don't know which one to chose. If I go out with 1 we won't do stuff and I want to do stuff. Not sxually. 2 if i go out with him me and him are going to do stuff because he already told me that before. I want to do stuff, but 1 is sweet and 2 is nasty. Which one should I chose. The thing that suck's is that they both went out with two of my bestfriends. 1 went out with both and 2 only went out with one of them. And one of them sort of likes 1 still, but he broke up with her because she was flirting with a lot of guys. Which one do you think I should chose 1 or 2? In your advice. Thank you.
1.
If two is nasty, why date him?
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i am 13 years old and i enjoy fingering myself.
but i am not sure how to exactley do it. i have been stiking celan markers in the hole in my vagina.but i am to young to buy a dildo so how do i pleasure myself the right way?
13 actually is a very normal age to start wanting to masturbate. Though I wouldn't suggest markers, no matter how clean. Have you tried just using fingers? Or try stimulating yourself in other ways. Such as playing with your clitoris. That should be good, CLEAN pleasure.
There is no right or wrong way. It's what feels good to YOU.
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Do you know a site that when you type in the lyrics && then it give you options's of the song you think it is.?
---- thanx.
www.letssingit.com
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I met this guy last weekend at a place where everyone in my town hang out. we hit it off really well and started dating a couple days later. everything was going really great but then i found out from a few friends i have in the grade above that he did ectasy oxy cotton ect. i definetley am not into drugs, i called him and told him i never wanted to see him ever again. he started crying and said i havent cried this much since my mom died of coursr i felt awful so i agreed to have him drive over to my house and we could talk i told him that i thought we rushed into going out and that i couldnt be with somebody who does drugs i want to be a dancer in high school and i cant be associated with drugs. he also told people that we were going to have sex on our one month anniversary. which made me furious because im not like that to know a guy for like 5 days and agree to that. i broke up with him and now hes threatning to kill two of my friends that told me that he did drugs. hes physco..he drives past my house twice a day and it freaks me out he says we will be together no matter what and he'll stop at nothing to get me even if he has to hurt people that we are meant to be together im really scared and i dont know what to do.
You need to stay away from this boy at all costs. Do you have parents? Or a guardian? If you do, you need to tell them, and your friend's parents. Those are serious accusations and threats and the police need to know about them. You can, at the very least, get a restraining order from him. Drugs can make you do very dangerous, desperate things. Especially something as serious as ecstasy or oxycontin.
I can not stress enough that you need to tell your parents and the police! No matter what. If not them, then a teacher. Do not talk to him anymore ever again. Under any and all circumstances. Go talk to someone you trust, NOW! Please.
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If you get fingered and a guy pops your cherry are you still a virgin? and how long do you normally bleed for?
For the absolute last time, if you did not have sex, then you are a virgin. If you had sex, then you aren't a virgin. Let me clarify:
If a penis enters your vagina whether your hymen was ripped or not, you are no longer a virgin.
If a penis does not enter your vagina, then you are a virgin until one does whether your hymen, once again was ripped.
Your hymen can be ripped from a numerous amount of the things. Whether it be bike ridding, gymnastics, strenuous exercise, inserting a tampon, being fingered, or anything else. Just because you ride your bike does that mean you are no longer a virgin? No, it just means you no longer have a hymen.
Have you had sex?
If the answer is yes, you've lost your vagina. If the answer is no, then you haven't.
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i have dark brown eyes and i would like to buy color contacts that are light brown- which brand should i get?
(acuvue, freshlook, durasoft, etc)
Acuvue.
Just to warn you ahead of time, colored contacts are the absolute most uncomfortable thing you will ever experience. =\ Trusstt Me..
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yesterday i lost my virginity to this amazing guy that i have been seeing for about 2 months already.
we were dating before but it didn't work out as planned. i'm 15 and he's 18.
when i lost my virginity, afterwards i was emotional because i felt dirty and slutty.
is that normal?
and where can you get the morning after pill?
we used a condom and it didnt break,but just to make sure.
thanks .
It's normal for girls to get emotional after losing there virginity. I did. It's a huge moment in your life that you are going to probably remember forever, so of course you are emotional. It's like a stepping stone in some ways. But you felt dirty? Slutty? That's not good. You shouldn't feel like that. It should have been a special experience that made you feel good about yourself, not bad. Maybe there are some unresolved issues? I'm not sure. But if sex makes you feel that way, don't continue doing it.
And if you are having sex, you have to take the risks. Always use a condom, and if you are that worried about pregnancy, get put on birth control. Don't take PlanB. It's supposed to be used for emergencies. IE, you didn't use any protection, your protection didn't work, etc. You shouldn't have to use this pill in your life no more than once if any.
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I have been dating my girlfriend Caitlyn for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know Cait is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to Cait and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other. i guess i left it there that night) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game Cait brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. Cait broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?
You're right. That is a huge mistake. In all honesty, I don't know if she will forgive you or not. I've been with my boyfriend for two years now, and if you read my information, you will see I plan on spending my entire life with him. If he cheated on me though, I would have reacted the same way as she did. I probably would have broken up with him, and to be quite honest, I don't know if I would take him back or not.
The idea of someone I care about having sex with another person breaks me heart to know end, and obviously your girlfriend feels the same way as I do. Having sex with another girl, whether you were drunk or not, will probably end up being one of the biggest regrets of your life.
I think you should deffinately give your girlfriend time. Let her cool off some, and then try talking to her. Send her flowers, or candy and a teddy bear. Leave her a sweet IM or text. If she doesn't answer your phone calls, leave her sweet messages on her recording machine. Let her know how much you love her, and how it will never change. Tell her you will wait for her until there is no tommorow, and so on and so forth.
Once she settles down a little bit, explain the night to her. How you felt, and why you did it. But don't make excuses. That's the worse thing you can do. Apologize like crazy, and tell her what an idiot you were. (No offense on my part, sorry.) Whether or not she'll forgive you or not, I have no clue. But it's worth a shot.
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Hey. Do you know any love song's that are punk/rock/indie? I know a few, but I wanted to put more. Thank you in advance.
I'm not into the whole genre thing. But I'll give you some love songs that you may like:
Don't Matter; Akon
Still Breathing; Cauterize
Hey There Delilah; Plain White Ts
Stick With You; Pussycat Dolls
Your Guardian Angel; Redjumpsuit Apparatus
A Walk Through Hell; Say Anything
Baseball but Better; Say Anything
It's Not Over; Secondhand Serenade
Maybe; Secondhand Serenade
Staplegunned; The Spill Canvas
Sunsets & Carcrashes; The Spill Canvas
Until the Day I Die; Story of the Year
This Photograph is Proof; Taking Back Sunday
A really good person to forward this question to would be "karisue" she's really into music and stuff. And she could give you way better answers than me.
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I'm going out with a guy , but I still have feeling's for my ex. Like unfinished buisness , but my current boyfriend is great to me. But at the same time I still feel for my ex. He broke up with me. But when ever we see each other it felt like the same feeling when we we're together. Should I stay with my current boyfriend or get back with my ex? My ex said he feel`s the same way toward`s me. But my current boyfriend is great. What do you think? thanx
If you still love your ex-boyfriend, and he still loves you, then why not give it a chance. Think first on why it was that you broke up to begin with and if it will effect your relationship this time around.
Don't hurt your current boyfriend if he's good to you. But who can you honestly see yourself with 10 or 15 years from now? Choose that one.
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Hey. Me and my boyfriend have been wanting to have sex. And he said when ever I'm ready guve him a sign. So I want to turn him on. Any tip's?
Just tell him you are ready one day. And then that night, just start doing what you normally do, and you'll both already know what's going to happen next.
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I took this vagisil test to see if I have any infections and it came back that I dont.And I have had taken yeast infection medicine and I still have this weird smelling discharge and sometimes its lyke clear and not weird smelling but then other times its not clear but not lyke white white.Does anyone know what this is>???
It's just discharge. It's completely normal to have. It's usually the worst right before your period, but can stay steady throughout your entire cycle.
It's not weird. It's normal. Use pantiliners. It's what they were made for.
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hi melody, this is
Sure. I'd love too. =]
Just tell me what you'd like and i'll do my best helping you figure it out. I can't guarentee how good it'll look, seeing as how I just kind of play around with mine until I get something I like. I don't know a lot about CSS on advicenators, but i'll do what I can.
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okay so i started cutting myself in 8th grade and now im going into 10th. half the time i dont even know why i cut. i just get the worst urges and if i dont cut the urges just keep getting worse and worse. i really want to stop but i just cant. i hate that i cut myself but it seems like theres no way i can ever stop. and no im not doing it for attention. please help.
I cut myself for 3 years. Stupid and immature decision. Cutting is what people who cannot deal with stress do. It's really pathetic, and I still get mad at myself even thinking about the fact that I used to do that to myself. I promise you will regret this if you don't stop. It seems impossible now, but when you really try, then a few years later you'll see how dumb this all was. There are other ways to deal with problems.
I still remember the first time I ever cut. It was in 7th grade, and it was over something so insignificant I can't even remember why I did it. I don't really remember where I got the idea from either. But I broke a bobby pin in half, and did it. It was nothing but little scratches, but from then on, I got the basic idea of why people did it. I did it for a little while, but then I just kind of stopped. I can't remember why. It wasn't like an abrupt decision or anything, I just know I stopped and that was the end of it.
About a year later my life took a rough turn for the worst. I experienced my first heartbreak, and I didn't take it well. Most girls just cry for a few weeks and then get over it and meet someone else. That wasn't the case for me though. I really felt like I lost true love, and that put me into a big depression. I don't blame him though. It's my fault I made the decision to take my depression out on my body. It was my fault, my decision, and my stupidity. And that was it. I got in with a rough crowd, and I made even stupider choices. I get mad at myself thinking about it even now that I acted so incompetent.
That guy and I did get back together (and we are still together today) but it was a rocky start. I was a completely different person when we got back together, and he didn't like it. I had changed for the worse, and it was obvious by looking at me. Luckily I did get better..but some things didn't change. My cutting was one of them. For some reason I still cannot fathom, I could not quit cutting myself. I was happy with my relationship, and I was happy with my life. But everytime I would even get a little upset I would start cutting. My boyfriend hated it, and made it quite clear he wasn't going to stay with me as long as I was doing that to myself. He did though, and it was a good thing. I don't know what I would have done without him.
It was hard. My friends new what was going on with my life, as did most people at school I am sure. It was embarrassing to know people thought I was crazy. After a long and painful road of hurting myself, my family, and my boyfriend, I eventually stopped. It wasn't a hasty decision, I just got sick of being embarrassed and always having to hide my body. I was sick of fighting with my boyfriend, and I was sick of hurting my mother like I was.
The best advice I can give you would be to want to stop, and then just do it. Throw away all your razors, or glass, or whatever you use and never put yourself in a position to cut again. It's hard, truusst me. It took me over a year to quit. I have no intentions on risking any more of my relationships with anyone. I have faith in you and hopefully my story will inspire you to get better. Good Luck and inbox me if you ever want to talk.
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