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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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ok i have known this guy pretty much all of my life and i have liked pretty much all my life only prob is now are parents are married. i was wondering if we did nething would it be insest. i dont think so because we dont have any of the same parents and no same blood in us. so is it?
If there is no blood relation, then it isn't incest, so no worries there. It would just be a little weird because he WOULD be your step-brother. So just be careful to try to keep your relationship on the 'down low' from your parents. I'm sure they wouldn't be that happy about their kids being sexual under their own household, lol.
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well okay. i havent been on my period for about 3 months now, and im not quite sure why. I do get stressed all the time about getting caught whenever i go out with my girls, i stress if like my parents will find out, call and check up on me.. plus i've been really stressing about being pregnant, yet my bf attempted to put his manhood inside me, yet it didnt go far at all cause i've never actually had sex..but yet i still keep thinking that i might be. Well i dunno what to do. Could i be pregnant?
plus im always irregular.. i've never in my life had it on schedule. i've had this kinda thing happen before, yet i hadn't ever done stuff with a guy or anything.. and it was for two months..
i just dont know what to do.. any advice on whats wrong?
how long can stress delay your period?
16/f
I'll be straight up and tell you I don't know how long stress can delay your period. However if this type of thing has happened before, and you have an irregular period I wouldn't worry to much. I'm assuming that since your period is usually late anyways, and now you have stress put on you about being pregnant, there is a chance that it would make your period even later then what it would have been to begin with. You could be pregnant, but if there wasn't full penetration and it only lasted for a brief time then the chances are very low. It is possible though, so if you become any later than 4 months, get a home pregnancy test. Or you could get one now, just to relieve the stress of being pregnant.
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hi.
im a 20 year old female. for the past couple of days, i have been feeling very uncomfortable down there. the skin between my vaginal lips seems to be more red than usual, and it feels raw. by that i mean it is ichy and it burns when i touch it!! i know it's not an std... im in a long distance relationship and i haven't had sex in a month so that's not the reason for this either. there is no foul smelling discharge, no unusual bumps or anything, no burning when i pee... just the skin between the lips, and around the vaginal opening is red and feels irritated and is soo annoying and painful.
i bought some Vagisil cream and applied it there today, but i don't know if it's helping. actually, it burned when i peed for the first time today after i put the cream on. please help, i don't know what to do. has this happened to anyone before? i don't want to go to the gyno unless i REALLY have to because i have no health insurance right now. is this serious? what should i do? keep using vagisil? THANKS SO MUCH!
I've never had it happen in the places you are describing, but I have had it on my inner thighs and around the area in general. It could be a number of things. Bacterial infection, urinary tract infection, or a yeast infection. And yes, you can have a yeast infection without the foul smelling discharge Here are some helpful tips to keep it soothed and to hopefully help heal it.
- Wear loose fitted underwear [if any at all] and loose shorts around the house. This will help air get to the area
- Keep using the Vagisil
- Try not to irritate it any more then what it already is.
I know you said you don't have any health insurance [if you did, i would tell you to go ahead and go to the doctor] so wait a few weeks. If it doesn't go away then you need to go to the doctor. It doesn't neccesarily have to be a GYNO. It could be your family doctor or a health clinic. The health clinic is probably the best way to go, because it's really cheap if you have to pay at all.
I can't say that it is serious, but it could be. So if it doesn't clear up soon, I would go.
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OK well im tired of having sex its so over rated. its boredom for the price of pregnancy or worst. Lately i have been making poor choice's this one guy I have had sexual encounters with and he doesnt have any condom's and I have trouble saying no because's I have these urges how can I get past them so I can be safe?
"OK well im tired of having sex its so over rated. It's boredom for the price of pregnancy or worst."
Apparently your guy isn't doing his fair share of the work here. Sex is very enjoyable, and it's not boring unless something wrong is happening in the process. I'm not telling you to have sex, i'm just telling you something isn't right if you thinks it's not enjoyable.
When you say "urges" i'm not quite sure what you mean. If you mean urges to have sex, then it can't be that boring for you. There isn't much you can do to get past it, accept convince yourself it is boring & unenjoyable. Think about all the bad things that can happen from him not being protected. I know it's hard, but you just have to say no. I'm sure you've heard that about a million times from tv commercials, health class, and your parents. I'm very much aware that it's easier said then done, but just try. That's the only thing you can do.
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Okay well about a week or so ago I had sex. well the guy didnt use a condom which I know is bad but he did pull it out before spermen. n when he did that some had got on the inner lining of my underwear by my croch area. I manage to whip alot of it off but am I still at risk.
You were at risk even if his semen didn't get in your underwear. Just so you know, you CAN get pregnant by pre-ejaculation and sperm DOESN'T die when it hits the air. I'm not saying it never does, i'm just saying it takes a while for it to. So yes, you are at risk. Sorry if this has come off bitchy, but I just really wanted to make it clear that you can be pregnant.
TIP: consider taking birth control if you have a hard time with condoms. [meaning you are to into the moment to put one on him] That's what I have done, and now I don't have to worry as much about pregnancy. You know?
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I have been with my now boyfriend for a while. It is obvious that we both want to have sex but we never have. I really want to and I feel it would be a great experiance being my first time and all but sense he has never tryd and ive never done it before i dont really know how to make it happen if you know what I mean. I dont really want to say right now "lets have sex" i just want it to happen naturaly and have it be sweet but i think that he doesnt want to pressure me but i am ready and i want to. i will rate high on anyone that can help me figure out how to make it happen in an un-weird way
The thing about sex, is you are eventually going to have to talk about it before you do it. Just be like, "Would you ever consider having sex with me?" and make sure to explain to him why it is you want to. If you aren't mature to talk about sex, you aren't mature to do it. If you aren't comfortable talking about sex with your partner, then you aren't ready. That's what i've came to find out over the past few years. If you want it to happen naturally, just go with the flow. But for this to happen, someone has to be the 'pusher' if you know what I mean. Apparently it will be you, and what you need to do is kiss him, then start making out, unzip is pants.. slowly and watch his reaction. If he seems unsure, take it down a notch and go back to just kissing, and continue doing this. It will eventually happen if you get things started.
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im 15 yrs old and 2 of my friends (who are girls) and i want to try lesbian sex* we're not lesbians, we only date guys but we want to mess around with each other. one of these girls has fingered me a couple times before but it was only for guys to watch, but we want to do it on our own* we have talked about it before and it turns us on a lot so we are gonna try! we have been friends for a long time, since we were like 3* so we kno each other very well...*
have you ever done anything with one of your girl friends before? do you think it will be akward for us or ruin our friendship??*
I've can't say i've ever messed around with any of my 'female friends' but that doesn't mean you shouldn't, that is if you want to. No, I don't think it will make anything awkward, i'd just be careful about who you tell, because word will get out and people will think you are a lesbian [even if you aren't] you know what i mean?
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do guys care if a girl has really small boobs i mean when you are like having sex and they take your bra off would they be little turned off about it please help i am 15 105pounds and have an A cup and i feel really uncomfortable about it and i really want to have sex soon so guys what would you think
Some guys like small boobs and others don't. I have an A cup, and i'm 15. Guys don't care, boobs are boobs and as long as they get to see them, they could care less. So if you have sex, don't worry about the size of them. Guys are probably to busy worrying about the size of their penis to even care.
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This may be a dumb question but is it possible to get pregnant when using condoms, and they have no broken nor slipped off..and there is no sight that the condom is faulty? just wondering
When having sex, it's always possible to get pregnant no matter what. It's not likely if you use the condom correcty and there was no signs of it being broken, but still. Everything is possible.
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what exactly is dry sex?
Dry sex is like dry humping. It's pretty much having sex without penetration, & sometimes with clothes.
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Is it possible for a guy to cum during dry sex? If so, how? Because everytime me and my boyfriend have dry sex, he can never cum, only i can. Any advice?
It is possible, but some just don't. There isn't anything you can do to make him ejaculate, except make sure he's really relaxed.
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There is this guy that likes me and I like him back. But we arent going out yet. But he thinks that I am more experienced then I really am. He knows I am virgin though. Is it really a big deal that I told him that I have done more then making out even though I havent. I dont want to tell him that I lied to him. I dont really think it is a big deal though. Do you?
If you guys get serious, then it is a big deal. A lie is a lie, not matter how small or how big. I think you should tell him, and if he asks you why you lied, tell him you just wanted him to think of you as a more experienced person.
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My mom just got drunk at her friends house. She came back asking me the same questions over and over. Im normally a smart a**. Im an attitude problem too. And I was doing my normal thing to her, like telling her to stop talking and stuff. I don'tlive with my mom, parents are divorsed. So Im used to only seeing her normal and fine and stuff. And she just blew up. I cant even tell you what she started saying
I also agree with the first answer. Ignore her until this blows over. People act stupid and do irrational things when they are drunk. Ignore her & stay out of her way. Everything will be ok.
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well my mom and my brother both smoke marijuana my brother is 22 and i was wondering how iligal is it is it unuff to go to jail and when your high how do you act im just a little scard
Marijuana is enough to put you in prison if you get caught with it. It's also really easy to get caught with, because when you are smoking it, the smell is ridiculously strong. That's why most people buy incense [to drown the smell out]. Marijuana is a mind altering drug. Meaning it changes the way you think. The way the drug affects people depends on many factors including the user's previous experience with the drug, how much THC it has in it [the active ingredient that gets you stoned], how it is taken, and whether or not the user is on other drugs or taking alcohol. Some people feel nothing at all when they smoke marijuana. Others may feel relaxed or high. Sometimes marijuana makes users feel thirsty and very hungry- An effect called "the munchies". Some users can undergo bad effects from marijuana. They may suffer sudden feelings of anxiety and have paranoid thoughts. This is more likely to happen when a more potent variety of marijuana is used. To tell if someone is on marujuana there are signs you can look for.
-seem dizzy and have trouble walking
-seem silly and giggly for no reason
-have very red, bloodshot eyes
-have a hard time remembering things that just happened
-signs of drugs and drug paraphernalia, including pipes and rolling papers
-odor on clothes and in the bedroom
-use of incense and other deodorizers
-use of eye drops
-clothing, posters, jewelry, etc., promoting drug use
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Today is me and my girls 2 month aniversary, and she's grounded so i cant call her or visit her, but she snuck a call to me yesterday, i told her she would get a suprse today, i was goiing to get a white rose sent to her house with a teddy bear and a card, but the probleam is now my dad's bei a hard ass about it and sayin we'll have to do it tommrow plus all of the floral shops in my area are closed today. Im not sure ifi'll be able to reach her today and im worried she'll be disappointed.
Instead of sending a white rose, teddy bear, and card [which is extremely sweet by the way] try sending her a note. Tell her how much you love her and how special she is to you and how sorry you are you can't see her. Then when you get to see her in person, give her the card, teddy bear, and rose explaining the delay. That will be just as sweet, because you get to give it to her in person.
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how do i get them to notice me?! i might not be the prettiest girl but i know im not ugly and i havent had a bf yet. not even a first kiss. im 13/f and idk how i can get noticed.
First of all you need to stop stressing. That's probably your bigges problem. I didn't get my first kiss & first boyfriend until I was fourteen years old. You are only thirteen, so no need to get in a hurry. Just chill out and remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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okay well, im 14 years old and my bf does foreplay, where he sucks my breasts. and i was reading a magazine somewhere and it said that one time a girl did the same thing, and she started producing milk because her body thought something needed it, because her boyfriend was sucking it. im so scared im going to start producing milk, please help!
I don't know what magazine you've been reading, but that isn't going to happen, so don't worry. The girl in the magazine was probably pregnant, so yea.
Don't worry, you won't start producing milk.
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yea, so ive been wondering... ya know what screw it i'll cut to the chase, im 13, my penis is 5 1/2 inches when i got a woody, that normal?
Any penis size can be considered normal. Whether it's 2 inches hard, or 6 inches soft. It doesn't matter, because no one is exactly the same. [it's like saying is it normal that my hair is red] you know?
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i m from india.my friend nowadays is really worried. she says that she never had sex with her boyfriend but they only touched one another everywhere.
now the problem is she is not got her periods for past two weeks from the scheduled date.she says that her periods are very regular.
then what can be the reason for her delayed periods.she says that while touching his lower part if she had sperms on her hand and if by mistake she touched her lower part can this lead her to becoming pregnant.
Touching his semen and then touching herself can get her pregnant, yes. But it's highly unlikely though. If her period is only 2 weeks late and she's never had sex, I wouldn't worry about it to much. If it becomes more than a month late, I would then invest in a pregnancy test to be sure.
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Ok so I was wondering what turns a guy on?
This is a very general and vague question so i'm assuming you want a very vague and general answer.
If you are talking about what turns a guy on during sex, then try this;
- Take control of the situation. Get in whatever position you want to be in, and tell him that's what you want to do. Don't ask.
- Tell him where to touch you and ask him where he wants to be touched.
- Enjoy yourself. If it feels good, express it.
- Tell him you read about a sex position or something else sex related called _____ and tell him you want to do it.
If you are talking about just out in public with a guy you hardly know or whatever try these;
- Bat your eyes.
- Look over at him in a sexy way.
If you are talking about out in public with your boyfriend try these;
- Grab his penis from under the table.
- Whisper dirty thoughts in his ear.
I think you get the point. And remember, if you feel sexy, you look sexy.
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