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So im not sure if i have avoidant personality disorder or social anxiety disorder but i do know my anxiety and mental health is starting to control my life and i want it to stop. My symptoms are.. not being able to take criticism or negative feedback, i always end up crying, any change of actions or change in peoples tones of voices make me feel uneasy as if the person is mad at me and again makes me cry. I dont like being the centre of attention, if something embarrassing happens to me in front of people i start panicking and my heart starts racing faster, i cant take rejection especially when its in front of people again it will make me cry, i cant deal with confrontation all it does is make me run away,and also to this day the confrontations ive had are still haunting me in my dreams im over them consciously but i guess not subconsciously. I was always the quiet kid in class at first it was shyness but then in highschool whenever i would talk people would say "why do you talk like that?" or why do you have no emotion in your face? (Apparently i have a monotone voice and my face has no emotion at all) so now i fear people are judging me whenever i talk so i dont and when i do talk in public my voice is automatically soft-spoken now so that people dont detect my monotone voice and i cant control being soft-spoken sometimes my voice is so low that it sounds like im mumbling. Also i dont know why i do this but whenever i talk to people,even if theyre the same age as me i always treat them like theyre superior even though theyre not. My anxiety got really bad in grade 12 when i did a group presentation and i was the centre of attention i was prepared for it but as soon as it was my turn i was shaking, my face turned hot and my eyes were blacking out and i could just feel one of my group members annoyed with how i was presenting, if i talked any longer i wouldve fainted. My first year of university i had one class where the teacher forced us to talk in front of everyone and my anxiety made me avoid going to that class.i finally got a job and the job requires me to interact with customers and so far it has been so hard,i dont know why im afraid of people. I can talk to people if they talk to me first but i wont talk to them first. My sister at her work made tons of friends and shes only been working 3 days meanwhile ive been working for 3 weeks now and ive just now made 2 friends at my work. I also avoid entering rooms by myself that are already filled with a lot of people because i hate being looked at, and if theres a crowd of boys thats when my anxiety kicks in the most. I dont want to compare myself to my sister shes 2 years younger than me but shes already been in almost relationships with guys at least 3 times and at her workplace her new friends all complimented how she looked. Meanwhile i dont get any compliments or male attention, my dad said its cause i always have an angry expression on my face (resting b face) but i use that as a defense mechanism. Any tips on how to overcome this? I know none of you are doctors but i just want some advice thanks im 18 turning 19 year old female. (link)
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Hiya!... ahem. *cough cough*. DR.D
just highlighting that first bit. *cough* DR.
just joking around.
I'm Dr.D. And its nice to meet you! :-D
You may not be experiencing any disorder, though I could name a few. I am actually very very understanding of this stuff, because my older sister has autism. Its not bad. Its natural. But it can effect her. It makes her shy, and nervous, and she has hard times talking with people she is unfamiliar with. For you, I doubt you have any kind of disease. So don't be scared! :-)
To me, it sounds like all you have is a case of shyness. For suggestions of how to overcome this. I suggest you practice on your customers. For Example. When you see a customer, introduce yourself. Say your name and then ask how may I help you. If your job is to interact with people then practice on them. Start talking with them while you work. Ask them questions like hows your day. Or about the weather. Just simple topics that you'd bring up with a customer. And remember. Depending on what you do as a job, you'll probably never see that one person ever again. So be calm. And try your best :)
Then when you feel comfortable talking to customers. Try to interact with your coworkers. Find out what some of their interests are, and try to bond with them that way. The more you talk to one another, the more you'll get closer.
By the way, I dont know what you look like. But I can tell from what I've read from you. You have a beautiful personality. And you are perfect the way you are. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
I wish you good luck! and you have a good day :-)
-Dr.D
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Thank you for the advice and ive been shy for as long as i can remember everyone says im a shy personbut i just thought being this ridiculously shy and super sensitive was getting out of hand.
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