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So in high school I never really had that group of friends I would usually jump from group to group and never really had a best friend I mostly had acquaintances. However I'd like to say I hung out with certain groups of people more than others and would even hangout with them outside of school. So now that high school is done I don't see these people at all anymore and I've realized how I don't have any friends and that most of these people were only my friends because we saw each other everyday. I feel like it's my fault because I should've tried to develop a close relationship with these people cause now if I see a photo or a post of social media of these groups of people hanging out with each other I get sad because they didn't event think to invite me and when I ask if they're free they always say they're busy. I'm always the one to text these people first and if I don't text them at all I won't hear from them. I've tried so hard to make new friends at my new school but if you've seen my previous posts you'd know the friends I made were either fake or just acquaintances who just came for lecture and don't want anything outside of class. Please help with tips on either how to get these old friends to remember I exist or how to make new friends? Cause being shy literally ruins everything thanks in advance (link)
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I would leave those people from the past behind and move on. They aren't making any effort to be a friend to you and actually are and have treated you like shit. You deserve better and will find it. I think it would be highly beneficial for you to find a therapist you can trust and work through this, learn better social skills, how to accept and love yourself because people may be avoiding you because you're wrapped up in yourself and withdrawn. They may not "get you" but someone will and that's the person who will come to you first.
People can see a mile away that you are awkward and not confident and don't know how to proceeed or get to know you. If you work with a therapist you can overtime become less introverted.
Also, find somewhere that teaches improv classes be it parks and rec or a studio and take that to develop your social skills and work with a variety of different people and see if that yields friends and helps you. Some places have classes specifically for anxiety and or mental health difficulties too. It forces you to work together.
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