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So my friend got a boyfriend about almost a year ago and he's her first boyfriend. I've never had a boyfriend but I've had friends who've had boyfriends in the past and they've never acted like she does, I know all people are different but she's over the top. So last year before she got her boyfriend we used to hangout outside of school, went to the amusement park, movies etc. Then when he came along we all did the same things just with him there, as their relationship began to become longer they would basically be joined at the hip with each other, and don't even bother to invite anyone else out with them anymore. Last summer she basically blew me off the whole time to hangout with him, no exaggeration he was at her house everyday, his family and her family even went to her family cottage and stayed out for a good week. Then when I asked her to have a girls night she "completely forgot" and cancelled the next day she hung out with her boyfriend. In the summer time she would only call me if her boyfriend and her were in a fight, or if she just wanted to talk about him. I finally had enough with the way she was treating me so instead of calling her out I told her that I won't be replying to her phone because I was going on vacation. Two days later she went to the movies with our other friend without her boyfriend and when I texted her "thanks for the invite" she said "didn't you say you were on vacation" I got so pissed off because the whole summer I tried to hangout with her, I always picked her phone calls when she would cry about her boyfriend, I always listened to her when she wanted to talk about him and to simply hangout she's "busy" but I didn't get mad at her for going to the movies because the friend she went with, she kind of ditched her party so she was making it up to her by going to the movies with her. So now school comes back and she hangs out with me at lunch and guess what? All she talks about to me is her boyfriend, when I try to change the subject she brings it back to her boyfriend, sometimes when I'm not there I catch her at lunch waiting by her boyfriends classroom for his class to finish. i know they're a couple but I honestly think they need some space away from each other and I don't even wanna talk about how he treats her but let's just say she cries at least twice every two weeks. Also now that's its October the amusement park has this Halloween thing so she texted me the whole month of September saying we were going to go and the beginning of October so I was all set cause we went last year, so I texted her today to confirm when we were going and you know what she said "I went yesterday with my boyfriend". So now I'm done trying cause she obviously doesn't care or she's too blinded by love to see she's pushing away from her friends. What can I do to make her see that she has prioritize between her boyfriend and friends? My other friends could do it why can't she? before you say "try becoming friends with her boyfriend you might like him" I'm already friends with him and he doesn't seem as clingy as she is to him, when I talk to him he never brings her up but when I talk to her he's brought up under 10 seconds.

Dear Friend,
You're absolutely right, it hurts to be ignored and rejected, She shouldn't do this. I hope that you're being gracious and that it hasn't caused bitter feelings.

As there isn't anything that you can do to make a positive change, you should forgive, forget and move toward the background. These situations can change at any time so, be ready for possible overtures from her.

See if you can fill the void your friend left with an expanded horizon of different people and activities...Grandfather.

P.S. please let me know of any developments.

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(Rating: 3) Yes I will definetly let you know if anything develops!
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