I'm a 23 year old f and I'm a complete sexual virgin. Never kissed or did anything sexual, ever. There are two main reasons. I grew up in a religious community with the belief that sex is for marriage, and I've accepted that until now. Also, during my late teens, I experienced a serious illness and didn't respond well. So I was distracted from most normal things dating and friendships for a few years. I'm better physically but since I've come to college, I haven't moved on with dating.
I still like the idea of saving sex for serious relationships, but I'm so sexually frustrated, it's ridiculous. When I see an attractive guy, I feel kind of crazy and like a pervert. When I see a hot scene in a movie, it really turns me on. I feel so weird because I never dated and all my friends (who are all girls) are into bar hopping, boyfriends or married. I kind of want to start dating but I have no experience. I went to a girls school so I started off being not used to talking normally with guys and I never picked it up in college. I wouldn't say I'm ugly or completely socially inept, but I do react oddly to some normal situations. I don't know how to start having normal guy friends. And the other week, my friend's friend took me to a bar and drunk guys started hitting on me, but it was seedy so I freaked out and left. She thought it was weird I didn't give my number because she has a boyfriend and 2 sex buddies.
Help, I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated
Unfortunately, some religions make you feel guilt or shame to be sexual or have those desires. Sexuality and sexual desires are perfectly normal. It'd be much worse if you didn't have those desires. Sexual repression can lead to other psychological issues. If you don't believe me? Look it up.
That doesn't mean you should be like your slutty friend. Don't give into peer pressure and into doing something you don't wanna do. You were smart to leave that place.
Don't compare yourself to your friends. Just because they are married or have boyfriends doesn't mean they're happier than you, or even happy at all. No need to feel bad about yourself cause you don't have that.
I assume you don't. But maybe you should try to please yourself to get some release/relief. Its not weird, its not gross, you won't go to hell. You're not gonna be a disgusting human being for doing it. Nor should you feel guilt or shame.
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Haha, thanks for being honest and positive
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