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I love my boyfriend & he loves me. I've never been in a long term-long distance relationship before. We talk every night & when do get to hang around each other is soo hard to part ways. but he has a lot of issues... 2 kids.. 2Baby mommas .. i have met one kid/mom the other lives States away.. i have NO kids.
I knew him in the past and loved him ever since and now that hes in my life again and hes said he's always loved me it seems like a fairytale .. like are we really soulmates? He says he want me & obly me and forever.
but i go on his facebook and he asks ppl about other girls. not often actually just today but he is an alcoholic and i don't want to make excusess.. he also pokes" other women... is that lead to cheating? If he only wants why does he do that stuff on fb? I'm immature for my age and so is he and i have never had a serious relationship before .. what u think? (link)
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Hi sweetie,
Long distance is always so hard :( Wah :(
Long distance relationships can work out,if its meant to be,and it set up on trust,honesty,and spending time with one another.
You mentioned he ''pokes'' other women on FB,it can lead to cheating,but only if the women he pokes respond back to him,not all the women he pokes at will be intrested in him
Does he have ''In A Relationship'' status on FB? If not,you may want to casually mention it,like''Hey,could I put ''In A Relationship on Facebook?'' etc,make it light,and see if that is something you might do,its not a bad idea
You didnt mention how old you are,I assume you are in your early 20s,dont worry,you still have time to mature,we all go at different paces,and your guy will mature much later than you do,its a known fact,women mature faster than men do.
He has 2 kids,thats hard. Really hard.
Did you just found out he is an alcoholic? If so,think about long he has been one,and may consider he gets help for that.That can be very very dangerous.Suppose he comes out to see you and he is drinking,and you get in an arguement,he can hit you,he can be verbally abusive.Its very dangerous.Dont put yourself in that position.
Sweetie,take some time out and ask yourself if this is worth it to YOU to keep pursuing. Ask yourself if you see yourself marrying this man,keep in mind,the longer this relationship goes,the more attatchment that will be,and further down you meet his children,then they get attatched to you,and if you both split up,his children would also be affected by the break-up.
Think about this a bit more before stepping forward.
Much love
Xo
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Wow, you are amazing at giving advice! So many things I never really thought about. Thank you! :)
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