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My boyfriend and I have been on and off but lately things have been well for us and I couldn't be ever more thankful that we have stopped arguing and tried to get to some common ground. Although, deep down, I can feel another fight coming, though I definitely don't want it to happen. The last time we talked to each other about our feelings and confronted each other on our problems, he told me something that just resonated and wouldn't leave my mind. When we first started becoming serious, and even when I was for sure serious about him, I remember that there was time where on social media, he would try to follow almost every girl he knew and would constantly like their pictures. I knew through people telling me and things I saw for myself. All of that hurt deep down knowing he was telling me one thing but was trying to get attention from other girls. Today, he doesn't really do it but I remember from our night's discussion that he told me whenever he was with his ex, he would think about being with other girls physically. He told me this because he was trying to say that he never feels that way with me. Of course after he mentioned it, I remember those times we were talking when I saw that same behavior from him. Now, I guess we are more serious but my question is, why does it bother me so much? I do trust him now but I'm scared if things go bad, what if he turns back to this behavior. It would hurt so much.
It also bothers me that he's had about 5 girlfriends in the past and he told me about some of the hookups he had too. I know its not a competition but I've had only one boyfriend in the past so... I don't know, it makes me a little insecure. How do I get over this? (link)
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The most important part of a relationship is communication. If you don't communicate, you have nothing. Maybe you have a difficult past, maybe you come from a broken home. Theres so many possibilities. Ive at moments felt that way for the reason you said, the amount of partners they have had. But for me, theres more to it. Ive never really seen a stable relationship in my family growing up and my first relationship was so rocky and unstable, its hard to accept the fact that something good can happen. I don't know what its like to have someone who tells me the truth, who actually cares about me sincerely. Maybe its the same with you. Let me know
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I don't come from a broken home. My parents have always been together and they never questioned their relationship. I have no issue with my past really, it's just hard because I am always comparing myself to him. I don't know why I do it but considering it bothers me so much, that's why I worry.
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