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My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for around 4 months. Since last 20 days or so he was distant and replied to my messages really late.. Usually after 2-3 days.
So I asked him what was happening... And he said, university was hectic and he said things are getting worse. I even asked him if it's this relationship or something else that was causing the problem. He said it's neither of it. But I realised hes doing this to get out of the relationship
I for some reason did not pursue him. I think my ego came in between and I didn't bother texting him again. He hasn't texted me in over 5 days now. I am moving on and don't feel like texting him. I don't think he even deserves to know that m moving on.I cannot text him first.
And he friends with my best friend and I see him online ( he said he's busy with university). So that's just proof enough that he doesn't want to face the music and tell me that he doesn't want to do this. So my question is Im just wondering why am I so indifferent to this? I mean the urge to text and call him just died so soon.
Is this a bad thing??

Dear Confused,

It's NOT a bad thing and it's NOT your ego. I believe that your intuition and keen insight in interpreting his responses are correct and that your action (or lack thereof) are entirely appropriate.

I also don't see anything, in what you write, that's negative or "indifferent" Only a state of mild annoyance at this failure to be candid with you, combined with a realistic appraisal of the situation.

I'm sure, that in going forward, you'll maintain a positive attitude and will not do, say or write anything bad to/about him. It's just time to move on!

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(Rating: 5) Hi grandfather,
I did move on and went on a date as well.it wad nothing serious, but the thing is couple of days back, he texted me saying :
"I'm extremely sorry for everything"
Me : hey.. What exactly are you sorry about?
Him : everything. For not talking etc
Me : alright.

He didn't reply after that.
What would that mean?
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