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I'm a 14 year old female with depression and anxiety. I'm a freshman in high school, but I'm homeschooled due to the mental illnesses. Well, I have NO friends. The only interaction I really have is with my family. I probably only go outside once or twice a week. All I really do is play video games, read, surf the internet, do my schoolwork, or other little activities. I love going outside as long as it isn't hot, but I'm just too depressed and anxious. Is there something wrong with me? I go to a therapist every week. I just feel like I'm worthless and not going anywhere since I stay in my room 23 hours of the day, on the internet for like half of that time. I just feel worthless. It's not like I'm a lazy bum who doesn't do anything with their life, I just am majorly depressed and scared to leave my house. I'm still in school and learn a lot though.
I'm distressed to read that because of your problems, you're being home-schooled because social learning is just as critical for your development as academic learning. This is a time when you should normally be engaged in activities that would show you how to relate to a wide assortment of people and how to get and be a friend. Unless this is compensated for, not only will you fall behind others of your age but it can compound your depression and anxiety.
Not all is lost child. Many schools welcome the home-schooled to their social and athletic events. It's worth checking out. I would personally recommend that you enroll in a karate school. There's nothing like it for building confidence and there's also the opportunity for making friends of the other students.
I do want you to quit thinking of yourself as depressed, anxious and mentally ill. These things don't accurately reflect the real you. What you actually are is a young lady growing up in a difficult world with more than your fair share of obstacles. However, I'm sure that you have all the basic tools that are needed for overcoming and succeeding in anything you put your mind to.
Buck up child, face every day courageously, do the very best you can and above all, get out of your room and do things. Your life is for living. Don't let anything stop you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for answering this. I really feel you saved my life since I was sitting here thinking about killing myself. Thank you for helping me!