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I'm a 22 year old girl. For about a year now I met a wonderful guy with a great personality. We click and get along so well. We see a lot of things similarly. He would be the ideal guy for me except im not attracted to him. I think he senses that im not but he always tells me how much he cares about me and that he's glad to have me in his life. At one point he did tell me he had feelings for me but at the time I had a boyfriend and it was a complicated situation. My boyfriend at the time and I were going through some issues and he was there for me when I needed to vent. But anyway, now, after regaining our close friendship, its obvious he wants to be with me but I don't know if I see myself with him in the future because of the lack of physical attraction. I feel selfish a lot of the times because I know he wants more but I wouldn't give it to him. He says hes glad and appreciative of our friendship but I know he would love to have me as his own. I also just got out of a relationship with that guy I mentioned earlier so I'm not into dating anyone new right now in the hopes of being serious. I just want to continue to further my life for me. I tell him this but he always tells me to never shut the possibility out of being happy again and meeting someone. He always hints that I would be the perfect girl for him and I just feel so bad that I cannot return that feeling. He's in my life a lot and I can't just remove myself from his life. I also dont want to lose him as a friend. I honestly dont know what to do anymore. I feel guilty at this point. (link)
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Dear,Why you are feeling guilty? Its normal that you don't feel the same for him.Just because someone cares for you doesn't mean that you also have to do the same.You consider him as your friend. And you told him clearly about your feelings.So you are not giving him any wrong signal. So don't feel guilty. Give yourself time. May be one day you will feel the same for him. You know people feelings change. And may be one day you will find him attractive. But whatever you feel make it clear to him. Never lie to him or to yourself. And yes never compromise in a relationship.
Good Luck!!
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