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Lately, I have been having a gut feeling that my husband may be big curious or even gay. In the very beginning of our relationship (been married almost three years together almost 4yrs.) He admitted that when he was younger a friend and him were playing around and the friend ended up giving him a Blow***. I asked him then if he was gay or if he would do it again. He said no. Keep that in mind. A few months back my husband his friend and I started going to the gym. My husband is a man who is in and out of the shower, 7 minutes top! Every time the two went in there they would take ATLEAST 30 mins. I take long showers I would take one myself in the girls room and would still have to wait. I have asked my husband and he said he would just wait for him. Now his friend on the other hand, let's just say if you met him you would think he had sugar in his tank. I live in a small country town and my female friend said her husband had sex with a man before. People in this town including his family say he may be gay or curious as well. For a week now my husband and I are not talking, because I feel like I am being lied too when I ask him if he is gay or bisexual. I can work with bisexual, I just want to know so we can both have safe sex. He still says NO. I don't want to think that I am over thinking everything but I don't want to end up like my husbands mother, lied to and turn out that my husband is bisexual or gay. IDC what he is, I just want to know. I have told him how I felt and how its okay to like other men. I just don't know anymore. I won't let my husband touch me nor look at me because I feel like I am being lied too. I even talked to his friend and asked in a mature matter. I was not disrespectful nor did I just pop the question are you gay? Or what's going on with my husband and you. I explained my reasons first then asked. His friend says he's not gay. (link)
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Ooooooooh Boy! Honey,your hands are full!
Let's disect this one step at a time.
Your husband is obviously confused and may want to try things sexually.You may want to ask him what kind of things he wants.
This sounds out of the ballpark,but you may want to condsider your husband to go and get tested.He seems to spending time with his friend,and what goes in there I cant say,water cant wash off everything.
Your husband,from what I have read,indeed sounds gay.
Now,I do reccommend counseling for the two of you.Immediately,if not sooner. These feelings need to be sorted out with a professional and help to really get to the root of this problem. Only your husband knows whats going on with his body and what he is thinking.
I hope counseling will help!
Be blessed!!
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We haven't went to the gym in months. Those are just reasons why I feel he may be interested in men. We stopped going after I told him how I felt. He said there was nothing and he said if I didn't want to go he wouldn't either. And that was our last day. I know I need counseling! Everything is just very rough. Yes they do spend time together, but that is also his only friend out here. (We moved from another state) this is why its tearing me apart. I don't know what to think or feel anymore! :( I know I'm a step away from losing him. And he says its my choice to leave, and I will make the wrong choice. I am leaving to Chicago tomorrow on a business trip, I will be back Monday with my decision. ( either I will move back to Illinois or our family will all move to Florida.) I'm not in a rush to decide. But I think I know what I need to do. (For myself).
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