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I'm female, 30 years old. I recently met a guy I really like, he's 31. We hit it off immediately and had three great dates. At te end of the third date (last night) we went back to his place and started making out and he was very respectful about not having to take things further. I said I wouldn't. So that was that but things got heavy and I told him I was ready to have sex, but that sometimes in my experience guys disappear if things move so fast. I did say I wouldn't regret having sex with him and he was very respectful saying I didn't have to do anything. So anyway...we ended up having sex and I spent the night. We felt comfortable with each other, though naturally things got a little awkward. We had good conversation this morning, so I felt at ease. But after leaving his place I kept thinking to myself that even though I didn't regret sleeping with him and things seemed okay between us, that I maybe slept with him too soon and should have waited a bit longer. I just feel that if a guy gets sex so soon, he either loses interest or backs off because things moved too quickly. I don't want to lose the potential of a relationship or even some good times with him because I sincerely enjoy his company. I made that clear to him before we had sex--that I like hanging out with him and don't want the sex to change things. I would like opinions on this, especially from men, or even women who have been trough similar things. Did I risk losing this guy over having sex so soon? (link)
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That's way too soon. You should'nt even have sex until you are married, and I know that nobody does that, but noody has sex on the third date either. You guys should be dating for atleast a couple of months before you decide to do that. That's just my opinion though.
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I understand it's your opinion, but I feel it's outdated and doesn't apply to most people. Even the whole 2 month thing--I really just wanted to see how people feel about 3 dates- maybe soon, but if there's chemistry then not everyone will suddenly disappear. Thanks for your opinion though, but try to be more balanced in how you offer advice.
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