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Q: How can you love someone but not want to be with them.
This is a complicated question but I'll try to give you a reasonable answer.

When we talk about love, most of us think of it in terms of a romantic relationship. But in truth, there are lots of different kinds of love and ways to love one another.

For example, people donate to the homeless and in doing so show love for those in need. However, that doesn't necessarily mean they would want that person coming into their home.

When it comes to romantic love specifically, sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone is to let them go. If you can't be there for them due to distance or other challenges, or if you feel like you might be limiting them from reaching their full potential for happiness in some way, nothing could be more loving than to walk away.

Life is complicated and love is at the very foundation of our life experience. So in some cases, love does not require people to be together at all.

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