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This is a little embarrassing, especially because I'm a 20 year old female. ._.
But I think I kind of fell "in love" with a fictional character from a movie. (I don't know if "love" is the right word here.)
This happened a few days ago when I saw the movies for the first time. Now I can't stop thinking about that person and I need to watch the movies over and over again, or read "fanfiction" about them so I don't feel lost or completely sad.
I even have a boyfriend (Who I haven't seen since I watched the movies, I'll probably see him in 2 days) which makes this even worse and even more silly. I don't really care much about the actor himself, I like him and I find him attractive but that's it.
But I literally feel like I'm sort of heartbroken because I can't be with that person from the movies. I'm so drawn to him, his eyes, his face, his smile, the way he talks. I even lost my appetite. And I think about him all day. I'm hoping this will go away as soon as I see my boyfriend again. Funny thing is that he's nothing like my boyfriend. My boyfriend is really romantic and this guy from the movies isn't.
But what can I do about this? I seriously feel like crying.
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Believe it or not this is really pretty common! It is sort of like having a crush on someone you can never be with. Whether reading or watching movies fictional characters are very real at the time! I doubt if this crush will last too long but you do need to stop watching the movies that cause these feelings.The more you feed this fantasy the worse it will become for you. If you are not careful you could start having problems separating fantasy from reality. Maybe you could do something symbolic like wrap the movie up and bury it. Tell yourself the character is gone forever and you have to move on. I do have to question whether this could stem from some dissatisfaction with your boyfriend? Perhaps you wish he was more like the guy in the movie? Maybe you are using this fictional character as an excuse to not deal with your real life issues? Have you thought about breaking up with your boyfriend but just couldn't deal with actually doing it? Just putting some things out there to think about. Sometimes fantasy is just an escape from reality. Do some soul searching and see if there might not be something deeper bothering you. Best of luck!
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