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I am a married mother of 5 children 11 yrs-27 yrs.
2 are step-children in case you checked my age, I didn't start when I was 12 :)
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Location: Vancouver, Canada
Occupation: Realtor
Age: 39
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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else? (link)
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It is not just your husband moving so should not be just your husband's decision. Maybe write up a list of the pros and cons of moving back and go over them as a couple. Think of some alternatives that may appeal to both of you. Is there maybe a middle ground such as moving to somewhere just outside of your hometown? Far enough away that you won't see your family very often but close enough that it will be just a short distance for him to see his family.
Try to remember that you are a team, it's not a his decision or her decision but a combination of both your needs should be met.
Hope that helps.
Good luck :)
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I really appreciate your help, thank you!
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