I am too old and out of shape to beat around the bush so I'll give it to you straight. If you want sugarcoating go to the candy store, you won't find it here. Sometimes a little good old fashioned honesty is just what the doctor ordered!
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Hey guys, I'm 19/f and my boyfriend and I have been together for about 1 years and a half now. Our relationship is perfect except for one thing, and that is I'm not social at all. I'm more of a quiet, laid back person. My bf in quite the opposite. He loves to be social and I think he has been avoiding calling me because when we talk on the phone most of time he does all the talking and he talks for a very long time. Sometimes I interact and say a few things but I always feel like it's never good enough. He has tried to make me more social but it never works. Sometimes I think he deserved better like someone who he can talk to and get feedback and I'm not that person. What can I do?
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I hate to burst your bubble dear, but you and your boyfriend are not living anywhere NEAR Perfect!Your boyfriend is trying to change you and you feel like what you have to say is not good enough!I rarely ever advise a break up unless there is abuse but I am going to make an exception in your case! I don't like way you are putting yourself down and assuming YOU are the one who is wrong because you not outgoing. You actually go as far as to say he deserves better than you. Who's better than you? Someone outgoing and talkative? No, different maybe but not better! You are just a quiet type but there is nothing WRONG with you. He shouldn't try to change you or make you feel bad about who you are. Unless you want to live the rest of your life feeling inadequate and unappreciated you should get out of this relationship, before you get damaged any further. I am sure there is a great guy out there who will love your quiet thoughtful nature and he won't want to change a thing about you! I guess your question was what can you do? Tell your boyfriend you're sorry but your personalities are just not compatible and then move on. If this isn't the advice you want to hear then you can try to change into the fluttering little social butterfly he wants you to be but I think you'll be miserable! Good luck!
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Hi, I want to thank you very much for your honesty. I love it when people are straight forward instead of sugar coating things. You really opened my eyes and I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart!
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