I am too old and out of shape to beat around the bush so I'll give it to you straight. If you want sugarcoating go to the candy store, you won't find it here. Sometimes a little good old fashioned honesty is just what the doctor ordered!
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I have a good friend. For the past few years we've been so close people thought we were dating. She's my "go to", but there is nothing sexual between us. She began dating someone a few weeks ago, and since then my friend and I are considerably less "intimate" than we were. We hang out less, talk less, etc. When I pointed this out to her and told her it made me feel left out, she told me I was making things "awkward", and she's pretty much cut me off almost completely. We live together, but now we have the minimum contact possible. What do you think is going on? What should I do? I don't want to give up on our friendship. FYI... we are both 40-something females. (link)
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I can\'t help but get the feeling you might have been hoping for more than friendship and now you are feeling a little jealous and hurt. I could be wrong but you made a few references to dating and intimacy that I wouldn\'t really expect to see when just discussing a friendship. You don\'t say whether this \"someone new\" is male or female but it sort of leaves one with the impression that you considered yourself her \"someone\" before this person came into the picture. If this really is the case then you need to tell her how you feel. If not, then the only thing you can do is make a different life for yourself that isn\'t so dependent on her friendship. This might require some deep soul searching on your part to figure out exactly what you need from this relationship. I hope it works out the way you want!
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Insightful call, and your advice is right on the money. I need to figure out what I want and need and then do something about it. Thank you!!
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