I am too old and out of shape to beat around the bush so I'll give it to you straight. If you want sugarcoating go to the candy store, you won't find it here. Sometimes a little good old fashioned honesty is just what the doctor ordered!
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Hi, first I'd like to give a brief history about me before I tell you my story. I'm 17/F. I have 2 older brothers and one younger. I have four older sisters. My parents and my family are not allowing me to date guys until I'm done with school.
My story is... I met a guy who was one of my brothers friend and we became friends for about a year and we fell in love and we have been dating for almost 2 years now. I love our relationship, we tell each other's everything and we are like bestfriends. I feel like I've found the one and I love him very much. Our relationship although has been kind of private. Only a few know about it like his mother and my younger brother. Because his family and my family have been friends, he's always telling me to tell my family about it so it's not private but I'm always scared because they would get mad at me and start drama. Recently I told one of my older sister and she was okay with it at first but then later wasn't very supportive and told me I should break up with him (because of his history) (he was a bit of a player) but I believe he changed. I told him everything and broke up with him but we are so in love with each other's that we can't let go of each other's. We still talk to each other's like we are still in a relationship and I have no clue what I should do.
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I don\'t want you to take this the wrong way but is it possible that maybe(just maybe )your brothers and sisters see a side of him that you don\'t. It is very easy to be blinded by love and only see what you want to see in a person. If that is not the case and he has truly changed then I really don\'t think your family will be that upset. I find it hard to believe that after two years of dating your parents still don\'t have a clue! Either you guys are VERY good actors or your family has turned a blind eye towards you and decided to just let it run it\'s course. I am a parent and none of my kids could ever lie well enough to pull off a two year scam and I don\'t think you have either. I can\'t even begin to believe one of your siblings didn\'t break a leg running to Mom or Dad with the news. When one of mine had a juicy tidbit about another they couldn\'t wait to find some \"discreet\" way of letting me know! Some people deal with an unpleasant situation by pretending that if you don\'t mention it, it will go away. I think your family should all show up at the Oscars next year and take home a few awards! You are almost 18 anyway, you might as well just tell them what they probably already know and be done with it!
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I would like to thank you so much for you advice, it helped me see some things in a new light. My family and I are from Africa and we (African people) are good at hidding things. The situation I'm in is quite difficult because in my culture, we don't believe in boyfriend and girlfriend and that's why it's a lot harder for me to tell my parents about my relationship.
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