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E-mail: valerieleeman@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Ontario, Canada
Occupation: Student
Age: 17
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So, there are two people at this point in life I would call my best friends. There's a guy, my age(19), who for all intents and purposes will be referred to as Bob, and a girl a year younger than us, who I'll call, oh, I don't know, Jasmine I guess.
We've all graduated high school and work in the area, and Bob and I hang out close to every day. Jasmine on the other hand doesn't get to hang out with us very often because we usually work opposite shifts. On the occasion that I do see Jasmine, it's usually in public and she always makes a very sneaky, yet high-energy and flirty entrance.
She'll always sneak up from behind and hug me tightly, or tickle just under my ribs, or something along those lines. She's always so happy to see me, sticks close and always has some kind of contact, and always has a smile on her face. Now, I understand this is how a lot of girls are with their friends, but she isn't. She - and I, too, actually - hate physical contact with practically everyone. She has literally - on several occasions - noticed me or my car somewhere and stopped in to surprise me.
This is how I know her to act when she's flirting. It's how she's acted with boyfriends in the past, and with her current boyfriend, only even more so with me. And I don't mind, except the fact that we're both in serious relationships.
If she wasn't living with a boyfriend and I hadn't been in the same relationship for 3 and a half years, I would love it. She's very attractive, completely adorable, and I've always felt a connection with her. Our personalities
But, because we've both been in relationships, I've done my best to remain sort of ambiguous about my interactions with her. I don't want to encourage anything, but I don't want to falsely act as though I'm not at all attracted to her.
So, what should I make of this and how should I handle it? Should I ignore it for now, or talk to her about it? Sorry for the long question.
Thanks in advance for any opinions! (link)
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I'm a 17 year old girl, I would say to be honest and say something. Tell her that you are feeling a little uncomfortable (if you are) with her actions and that you understand you are good friends but you are BOTH in relationships, and be honest with her about "Yeah, you're not a bad looking girl" but... you both are in serious relationships. If you ignore the topic it could go farther than intended, and that will mess up two perfect relationships. Tell her to take it down a few notches, and that you will always be there to talk and be around but not for the flirty kind of attitude from her. Hope this helped a little!
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Thanks for the advice. It was nice to get an answer from a girl who is around the same age as us.
I'll probably take this advice. Although telling we to stop it all completely would probably just cause conflict, asking her calmly to dial it back a couple notches would probably be a good idea. I at least don't want her boyfriend getting concerned that she's acting that way with me more than she is with him. If she could just treat him how she treats me, and treat me like that a tiny but less, the situation would be a lot less awkward.
Again, thank you.
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