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2 are step-children in case you checked my age, I didn't start when I was 12 :)
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So, there are two people at this point in life I would call my best friends. There's a guy, my age(19), who for all intents and purposes will be referred to as Bob, and a girl a year younger than us, who I'll call, oh, I don't know, Jasmine I guess.
We've all graduated high school and work in the area, and Bob and I hang out close to every day. Jasmine on the other hand doesn't get to hang out with us very often because we usually work opposite shifts. On the occasion that I do see Jasmine, it's usually in public and she always makes a very sneaky, yet high-energy and flirty entrance.
She'll always sneak up from behind and hug me tightly, or tickle just under my ribs, or something along those lines. She's always so happy to see me, sticks close and always has some kind of contact, and always has a smile on her face. Now, I understand this is how a lot of girls are with their friends, but she isn't. She - and I, too, actually - hate physical contact with practically everyone. She has literally - on several occasions - noticed me or my car somewhere and stopped in to surprise me.
This is how I know her to act when she's flirting. It's how she's acted with boyfriends in the past, and with her current boyfriend, only even more so with me. And I don't mind, except the fact that we're both in serious relationships.
If she wasn't living with a boyfriend and I hadn't been in the same relationship for 3 and a half years, I would love it. She's very attractive, completely adorable, and I've always felt a connection with her. Our personalities
But, because we've both been in relationships, I've done my best to remain sort of ambiguous about my interactions with her. I don't want to encourage anything, but I don't want to falsely act as though I'm not at all attracted to her.
So, what should I make of this and how should I handle it? Should I ignore it for now, or talk to her about it? Sorry for the long question.
Thanks in advance for any opinions! (link)
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Interesting predicament. Have you talked to your boyfriend about it at all? Maybe he would be open to you exploring your relationship with your friend. I do suggest you talk to her about it. It may be a bit awkward but try telling her just what you said here. That you like her but can't be anything more than friends because you're in a committed relationship and that her friendship means a lot to you but it makes you uncomfortable when she's so touchy feely. If your relationship with her ever does go to another level you'll at least know you guys can discuss issues with each other.
Hope that helps. Good luck :)
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Ha! Two out of three! Ok, to clarify, I'm a male. Sorry for the confusion. :p
Great advice though.
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