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Warning: this is going to be long, I already know that.
We are both sophomores in college. Lately, my best guy friend has been odd. He's been "talking to" this girl for a few weeks and they just met face to face Sunday and have been hanging out since. I'm not a big fan of this whole thing because it's usually the two of us always hanging out, he is usually always in my dorm room watching movies with me or getting food with me and since she's moved into our dorm, I've been set aside and I hate it. Yes, I am jealous of the fact that she is important to him now. I want him to be happy and if that's what it takes for him to be happy, he can go for it, I will always be here waiting to fix him when he gets hurt but it just sucks that he hasn't even been talking to me these past few nights. To get to her room, you have to take the stairs right next to my room so I see him come up and he walks by my room and doesn't even say hi. So, in an effort to not be so hurt about it, I've been trying to distance myself from the situation. I haven't been texting him and when he walks by me when I'm working, I don't really start up conversation, same with when he's working, I would normally sit down and chat with him but I haven't been doing any of that lately. Needless to say, I think he knows I've been kinda upset. The other night, I was in the lounge studying and he texted me and asked if I was in my room, I texted him back about twenty minutes later (when I read the text) and said "I am now but I'm on my way out" and he texted me back "Oh, I knocked on your door and you didn't answer." So I texted him back and explained that I wasn't in their earlier and he never texted me back but that's usual for him. On to how he is being weird.. the first night his almost but not yet girl friend moved in, he didn't go see her right away because he was with me in the lounge watching a movie. About an hour after he told me she moved in, he asked if I wanted to grab dinner, I said yea and he said we should wake up my roommate and see if she wants to go, so we did. We were all walking out of my building, when he fell behind which is, again, usual for him because he gets so absorbed in his phone that he can't do anything else until he is done. However, I turned to see if he was okay and he was with the girl. He didn't tell me she was coming so I was kind of mad that he just let that happen. So they walked behind us to dinner and she asked "so, who are your friends that we're eating with?" and he said "right here, these two are my friends" and then we got down there and her and him got their food first so they picked a table first to which I later found them sitting across from each other, forcing my roommate to sit in between them. All night, my leg would touch his and me elbow would touch his when we would both go for our phones. I invited some other friends to sit with us and as they made their way over, I moved over to make room for my one friend to sit in between my guy friend and I but every time I moved away, he moved closer, making my other friend sit next to him and not me. It got to the point where our small four person table was seating nine, we were so cramped that my entire right side of my body was flush against his and he didn't even seem to mind, meanwhile his girl was sitting across from him and he wasn't talking to her much. I was texting and he made it so blatantly obvious that he was looking at my phone which was weird for him again because he's been doing that lately, when I was on my computer the other day, he wasn't even near me but he walked over to see what I was doing on my computer. I have nothing to hide from him so I wasn't mad in the regard it was just odd that he did that because I make a solid effort to not look over his shoulder at things. So, he was getting antsy and decided to leave, stood up and waited for her to get up and they left. My friend looked at me and said "if he's trying to get with her, how did you two end up like that at the table?" and I said every time I moved, he kept coming closer to which my friend said "well, it looked like you two were dating, that's all." After that, I haven't seen him all night or the next night. The next day, though, I saw them walk in from having lunch together and he didn't hold the door open for her which he usually does, he always holds the door for me and my friends. Then, I saw him leaving her room and he came back up with his computer which was kinda funny because he never has his computer when he's with me, so he must have been bored enough with her to get his computer or I'm looking to into it and they were going to watch a movie or something. The night after, he came to my room and I didn't really want to see him, so I walked out and went down to the hall to call someone. I came back and he was gone. Then, last night was the night where he texted me and asked where I was because I didn't answer my door. This morning, he relieved me of my shift so as he was getting on, I told him the normal information and went to leave and he told me sweet dreams as it was 4 in the morning. I got back to my room and realized I forgot to give my boss my timecard to get paid so I went back down and told him I'd appreciate if he put it in her mailbox before I forgot again and he looked at me and thanked me for reminding him because he forgot to do his. I said you're welcome and as I went to leave, he started talking to me about the weather. He and I are such good friends, we talk about the deepest stuff, he told me that he never told anyone about his dad before and he told me about his dad and how he used to beat him so we talk about major things and here he was talking to me about the weather and how he didn't want to have class. After a few minutes of that, I went to leave and nothing has happened since.
I hope you can make some sense of this and tell me what you think is going on. Why do you think he's being weird? My friend thinks it's because he's upset that he hurt me and he's trying to find a way to make it better. My other friend thinks he likes me and he's mad at himself for upsetting me. Why do you think he doesn't talk to me around her? Why was he trying hard to sit next to me at dinner and not talking to her at dinner? Why doesn't he hold the door open for her but he does for everyone else?
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Girl! ASK HIM! I know that going to your girls seems like the best thing to do, but they don't know how he's feeling.. There could be amillion reasons you can go through, but there is only one that he is thinking. If you are so close to him and you feel that you are such good friends then ask him! It's obvious that you have feelings for him otherwise you wouldn't be observing his every move. Just ask him. YOu won't know until you do. A million people would tell you what they think but you wont know until you ask him. Just be brave and ask him whats going on. If he trusts you so much (which it seems like he does if he told you something as personal as his dad beating him) im sure he will tell you whats up.. Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel.. I am here for you.
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