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Hi, I'm a thirteen-year-old girl who likes girls. I just don't see boys in that way. When I think about my future, I see myself marrying a girl rather than a guy.
So, this question is strange, but I'll try my best to have it make sense.
I don't really remember who I had crushes on in elementary school, but I remember that most of them were boys. I had crushes on girls sometimes as well, but when I did, I tried to ignore the feeling.
When I started middle school, I started to become more and more girl-crazy, and I thought about guys less. I decided to embrace my feelings and be myself.
Now I don't like guys at all and only want to be with a girl. I also have a girlfriend now, and I'm so happy to be with her. My previous relationships were with guys, but I always ended it because it didn't feel right at all.
But I also know that I'm only thirteen, and my feelings could change. People sometimes tell me that it's probably just a phase and I will become straight later. But I can't bear for that to happen. I only want to marry a girl, and I cannot see myself in a relationship with a guy. Even the thought of liking a guy disgusts me.
Basically, what I'm trying to say is that I'm worried about becoming straight. I don't want that to happen and I don't want my feelings for girls to be "just a phase" like people say.
Thanks for any advice! And I apologize again for the awkward question. (link)
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The first things I want to say is that sexuality is fluid.
I don't think you should worry about "turning straight" because if you like a boy in the future, it means that you like him even if the gender of the person is male. Sexuality does not have do be something you label; it can be something you figure out as you grow up in life. If you continue to like only girls, that's great! because that's what you wanted. But, if you like boys as well, it shouldn't disgust you because it means that you have positive feelings for this guy. Just go with what your heart leads you.
Right now, you are happy with your girlfriend so spend more time with her without worrying about what could happen in the future. Worrying about it too much could unconsciously distance yourself from the people you care about.
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