Hi,
Feeling like you are responsible for your partner's life is an extremely difficult thing, but you have to remember that he is responsible for that, and not you. It is not fair for you to feel like the burden falls completely on you.
Your boyfriend sounds like he needs to contact a professional, especially if he is having suicidal thoughts. That is a serious thing that he needs to talk to a counsellor about - it is not a thing that just a partner, friend, or family member can support him through alone. Some people may feel like they can support their partner through this alone, but it looks to me like it is becoming too much for you, which is completely understandable. I think you should suggest to your partner that he should talk to someone.
I don't know why you want to break up, as you haven't said exactly, but you did say you are unhappy. Is it because he is possibly suicidal, and it is hard for you? Do you feel like the relationship is all about supporting him and you aren't getting anything from it? If this is so, you have to be honest with your partner in order to fix these feelings and get him to help himself by seeing a professional. I am going to give you advice to help you and your partner fix your relationship, rather than advice to break up, because you did say you still love him and care about him.
When you suggest he see someone, tell him it is not only for him, but for your relationship. Also, explain your feelings - your worry for him, the pressure you feel from being the only thing supporting him. It is important not to make this an attack (e.g. "You don't support me, it is not fair on me"). Instead, think more like "I feel like I can't support you enough, and I'm worried about you committing suicide if my support isn't good enough", "I am really worried that I won't be able to help you, it is a lot of pressure." Wording it with "I feel like..." instead of "You do this..." can help.

I really hope this advice is helpful, and I am sorry I can't advise you on how to break up with him. Good luck and I really hope everything works out well for you and your partner, whether that be working out well together or separately.

Thank you so much. Your advice is brilliant and really appreciated. I will try to work things out as best I can. Thank you.

Hi! My name is Natalie and I am from Australia. I have always enjoyed helping people, and that is why I love using this website so much, and why I am studying Psychology at University to become a Clinical Psychologist. Hopefully I can give you some helpful advice and I always love feedback! :)

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