I am a humble soul. My life's motto is this; If I have to work hard and suffer blood, sweat and tears in my days upon the earth to accomplish, acquire, obtain or achieve just ONE thing in life, I will want to take it with me when I go.
I may not have much in the way of material wealth, but in my life I acquired a wealth of wisdom and spiritual knowledge that I can give freely and generously to the world, and I can still take it all with me when I go. :D
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Sorry this is long. I used to have the most awesome Christmases at home with my parents, sister, and grandparents. We had all kinds of traditions that really were a lot of fun and Christmas eve and day were always very relaxed. From 2005 to 2007, I had an aunt, uncle, and cousins come too, but ever since 2008, they've been asking us to come to their house. We have every year since they started asking, but it's been a lot of trouble. There are more of us than there are of them, so it's more expensive, our first flight is always late and makes us miss our layover, we've spent Christmas night in hotel rooms because of trouble getting there, and my uncle always wants us to stay for longer than is convenient. The biggest reason I don't like it is because we don't have our Christmas traditions anymore and it feels like Christmas is too different and much more stressful nowadays. I've gone the past four years because my family likes it, but this year, my mom, dad, and grandparents don't want to, which is a relief. The problem is that my uncle is still asking us to and my sister, who has a type a personality, says she wants to have Christmas at my their house forever and will not have Christmas at home again. It shouldn't be her decision, but I'm worried she'll find a way to get us there. Another problem is that my sister is bossy and when she gets married, she wants us to have Thanksgiving at her house, which won't work because my fiancee's birthday is November 22nd, so it's always on or around Thanksgiving. He has family that lives close and the rest of his family meets in our area for Thanksgiving they celebrate his birthday that weekend. So the only way for my family to be together as well is for us to meet in this area as well. I want us to start having relaxed Christmases again, but I'm afraid if my sister knows I said something to my parents and grandparents about it, especially if her Thanksgiving idea doesn't work either, she'll lose respect for me. I know it sounds like I'm being selfish, but I've always done what made everyone else happy UNTIL it didn't make them happy anymore. Now that most of us want to be home Christmas, I think we should have it, but how do I get it for us and how do I keep my sister from being mad at me? (link)
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Is there anything stopping your sister from making the trip herself without the rest of the family? If she' s the only one of you who wants to go,tell her to go for it! She'll have to pay her own way of course, or let your uncle foot the bill. Having her away at Chistmas may even make your family happier, if all she does is complain. Tell her; " You want to go? Ok, see ya, bon voyage, have a nice trip. Start hitchhiking now and you might get there before christmas". Tell her you'll gladly help her pack. Who knows? It might even shut her up. :)
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Thank you. I'll see if maybe she would like to go by herself and if she really wants to go at all, I doubt she'll have a problem with it. She's spent holidays away from us before and probably will have to again anyway. Thanks :)
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