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ok so my friend is 12 (im 13 we're like 3 months apart) and today she was going on about how this boy, lets call him O and her D, wants to have sex with her. you know what? here's the REAL conversation.
D:omg O wants to have sex with me!!
me: but eww you guys r too young and noones gonna sell condoms to you guys!
D: O has pulls, duh.
me: no D its a really bad idea youll be known as a slut.
D: WHO CARES ive liked him for 5 yrs.
me: so? you arent even dating him!!!!
D:what ever you dont get it.
me: yeah i do.
D: at least ive had a one night stand.

i havent replied to her yet but i dont want her to screw up :( i want to email it to her parents soo bad but i dont know what to do. and i really want to reply, THATS NOT A GOOD THING. i think you are screwing up your life and i swear ,D if you do have sex i think ill just breakdown because i just cant deal with the fact that one of my friendds has had sex 1. because your gonna screw up your reputaion and your gonna get in trouble for sure.
2.i cant let you.

Good for you for looking out for your friend! It sounds like you really care about her and don't want her to do something she may regret. 12 years old is very young to be having sex; very few people are ready at that age. You are right to be concerned.

She doesn't seem to want to listen to you, so it sounds like a good idea to confront her parents. The thing about that, though, is that she may get angry with you for telling her parents. She may think you betrayed her. Sometimes people become defensive instead of realizing that you only want the best for them, and this is in her best interest. Just warning you so that you're prepared for it.

There are a lot of things that can happen from sex, and if she's blowing off condoms she definitely is not mature enough to be having sex. She doesn't seem to care about what can happen from sex (pregnancy, STDs, reputation damage, etc.) and that is a dangerous thing.

I hope that whatever decision you make works out for both you and your friend. You are a great friend for caring about her and for watching out for her. Good luck!

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(Rating: 5) wow shes not even a virgin. she had sex when she was eleven. i feel so dumb because now i feel ugly cuase all the guys ive ever gone out with were just because they were dared and she wasnt even dating those guys.
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