Q: Recently, me and a friend stopped talking. We're still civil though, but there is tension in the air. A mutual friend is very close to her and to me it looks like he has decided to take her side, despite that fact that 1. She told him that he shouldn't feel the need to, and 2. It simply didn't concern him.
Recently, another mutual friend of ours (who has managed to stay completely neutral in this) was talking to them on the phone. The fellow who decided to takes sides said "I need to know if I can trust you. I need to bitch about Matt" (matt being me).
He also stated that he wasn't planning to invite me to his birthday party, despite the fact that i've known him longer than anyone else.
I'm not sure what has bought this on. I know he's always been head over heels in love with the friend who I stopped talking to, and it's obvious that they talk about it, as he has decided to take sides.
I'm not sure what to do. I can't approach him, as the friend who told me, made me swear that I wouldn't say anything. I've asked him by text, what he is doing for his birthday, but he has just ignored me. He complains that I don't hang out with him often, but he's the one who ignored my messages, even if I message him a friendly "hello, how have you been?" .
I've even done the 'are we cool?' Thing and he just responds with the usual nonsense of 'yeah, sure, why?' . So it's pretty much impossible to do anything. Should I just give up, and be grateful that everything has ended on a civil note? Or approach him?
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks.
