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Q: So i'm a female of course, 16 years old, and my boyfriend is 17 years old, and i want to loose my virginity to him, but i'm scared. We've almost done it several times. The first time we almost did it he removed half my clothing, and we stopped since i was scared. I'm sort of insecure with my body, but he said he loves me with sex or without it. We've talked several times about doing it, but i'm not sure what to do or if i'll do something totally wrong. I got my promise ring, but i want to try at least once, we know how to turn eachother on but i'm still a little scared. He's only done it one other time his whole life, so i'm not worried about that, but should I do it, or not.? Help please, any advice welcome.
Do you love him? Is this the guy you really want to say you lost your virginity too? Is there a chance you'll regret it? And if you guys break up, will you have wished you never did it? THESE other the questions you should be considering. And if you are scared and insecure, you might want to hold off. But if you love him and you know this is what you really want that he is the guy you want to remember as your first... then go for it. He knows your a virgin im guessing so don't worry about the not knowing what to do part, let him guide you.

To answer it, yes I love him. But i'm not sure if he's the one, because of my religion. I know I might regret it, because we brake up then get together again, but I love him, and to be honest, when we almost did it, I wanted to go all the way it felt soo right, and we both really want to. I'm pretty sure he wants to but won't force me into nothing, I just want to because sometimes I get horny lol & i just want to do it with him, but I freak out. Idk i'm confused...

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