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I have these cousins, 4 to be exact that live near me. I'll call them A,C,L,&J. A (11/m) and C (8/f) are siblings and L (8/f) and J (11/m) are siblings as well. Since my mom and their moms are really close, we all hang out at each others houses and go places together often. I have a brother and a sister around the same of the cousins, so they have little cliques, a girl one and a boy one. But there's nobody my age around. Every time they see me, they all gang up against me and insult me. Like the other day, we went to a fun house and I A and L both made fat jokes about me (I'm a little chubby) and they call me things like nasty, fat, and a witch and treat me like crap. My parents tell me to ignore them, but it's really hard because I've always been sensitive to comments about my appearance (I'm f/13 btw). Occasionally, I try to fight back, but I end up getting in more trouble because I'm the older one. And their parents try to discipline them, but they never stop. Every time I'm around them, they always make me want to cry. I don't know what to do, but I can't take it anymore. It's really hurting my self esteem.
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You are a good cousin and sibling to spend so much time with them.
Children are really insecure with who they are, think back to when you were 8 years old. They desperalty want the approval of older people, not nesasarily parents but an 8 year old boy wants an 11 year old to think he is cool. The only way to do that is to immitate them.
You are older and you are crossing into adulthood, there are many strange changes that happen to a 13 year old, putting on a few pounds and other changes.
First an 11 Boy hasent began his pubecense so he lacks understanding girls change eirlier than boys, so he will be immature. Immaturity is an extreemly strong point of insecurity. If when they start calling you fat insted of fighting back just say "so?" It might take a while but once the realize they can't ruffle your fethers they will stop.
You need time to socialize with your peers, that is very important
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