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So, I'm 16, going on 17 this year. I'm a Junior. I have never had a girlfriend before, but I have failed with many. But this, I've never felt this horrible. I recently got rid of some personal problems and started to feel motivated and powerful, after being depressed for a while. So I started talking to this girl I like, who recently broke up with someone. She clearly knew that I really liked her, even the teachers could tell. So yesterday me and a good friend of mine took her out to eat. I skipped for the first time, and was the only one skipping. We all spoke about random things and personal stuff. It was a good day. Then today she tells me she likes HIM. She asked if it was weird, I said no. Then she told him right in front of me. I had to hold everything in until class was over. My friend is kinda stuck, he keeps saying sorry to me and I just tell him to take advantage of the opportunity. I've never felt like this before. I probably came off as selfish, desperate, close-minded, cocky, and weird. Now just seeing her is going to be torture. What should I do? Has this happened to anyone?
Hey,
Yeh this kind of happened to me with an ex who had me convinced he wanted to go out with me again and then dropped the bombshell that he's interested in another girl.
And yeh,it makes you feel crushed.
Okay, so the best thing to do is to think about it this way. You're in an advantagous position right now. You have new found confidence.
With a situation like this you can either let go (like I did) or cling on. Let me tell you, its so much more attractive to let go of this girl, show a confident front, show her your almost too good for her anyways and move on. If you see her, don't make it awkward. Talk to her, but only as friends. This will make you look mature to potential other dates.
The thing is, crushes come and go, so its best to try to move on from this one, because otherwise you'll build a fantasy image of what this girl is like and torment yourself as you can't be with her.
Respect your friends desision, put on a confident, you dont bother me front and the girl of your dreams will come to you. Good luck :)
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Wow, thank you 8) Great tactic. I would have never thought of that.
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